CarrieLee said:

I know... if I were even asked by my husband/boyfriend if he thought I'd find it okay for him to contact her... ooooh, all the questions and things that'd be running through my mind. Then, if I said I didn't like the idea, I'd be thinking that he's now doing it behind my back because I said no. But, that's just me.

I think it's better left alone... and lose the e-mail address of the ex so you're not tempted.

and thank you all for your advice.


My gut feeling was that the best thing is to just leave it and keep the past in the past where it can't jump up and bite me in the ass.


After reading all of this advice, I have to say you have strengthened that feeling

I WON'T be contacting her. This is for the best and, hey, let's face it, she'll be fine without an email from me turning up in her inbox

RocknRollDave said:

Good boy. You've made the right decision.

FUCKING HELL NO!!!


well maybe yes...just do it man!

no dont!!

1. Make absolutely sure u're comfortable with your motivations!

2. See if your wife is comfortable with it. Slowly now.

3. Go ahead, but understand that even if 1 and 2 are ok, you won't be helping your marriage in any way. Problems could arise from this, so do you want even the possibility of that?

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