Author | Message |
I wanna hear more from the happily married people! Just read a thread about somebody falling in love with their best friend, and IB and Mach were talking about how they still love their husbands after so long together. That put a huge smile on me, I am really in awe of all you people who are happily married or have had your somebody special for a very long time. You all give me hope, and I am a little bit envious of your luck. Love you all! | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Teacher said: I am a little bit envious of your luck.
I wonder if luck has anything got to do with it... I think love is hard work. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
My Dad and my Stepmum are a wonderful example of an open, honest relationship that has lasted
Dad was 30 and Lindell was 19 when they met in 1982...Lindell took to me (5 then) and my brother (2 then) head on. I was a little bitch to her and she still stuck it out... they married 9 years after they met and are still HAPPILY together now sure they argue and they have ups and downs, I think that's pretty much all relationships go through that, but the point is they talk about stuff and are open with each other and that has made so much difference I think. They have a beautiful relationship that I look up to | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Natisse said: I was a little bitch
OOOOH! The most beautiful person of The Org comes out! Self-confessed and all! Hehehe. But serious. It is very hard to take to a new love of either of your parents. Especially as a small child you are just going to do what feels natural. Being bitcy is one of them. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
HamsterHuey said: Natisse said: I was a little bitch
OOOOH! The most beautiful person of The Org comes out! Self-confessed and all! Hehehe. But serious. It is very hard to take to a new love of either of your parents. Especially as a small child you are just going to do what feels natural. Being bitcy is one of them. we've talked about it before on several occaisons growing up but I still feel embarrassed, truthfully...I acknowledge I was very young tho and didn't understand what was happening around me next story!... | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Natisse said: HamsterHuey said: OOOOH! The most beautiful person of The Org comes out! Self-confessed and all! Hehehe. But serious. It is very hard to take to a new love of either of your parents. Especially as a small child you are just going to do what feels natural. Being bitcy is one of them. we've talked about it before on several occaisons growing up but I still feel embarrassed, truthfully...I acknowledge I was very young tho and didn't understand what was happening around me next story!... all step kids do this I think, can you blame them really? | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
I've been together with my husband 10 years (married for 6). I am very much still in love with him. I can't believe he picked me, and he says the same about me. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
* thinks for a long moment *
i dont just still love TR ... i love him more every day i adore him ..admire him and respect him our life together has been wonderfully blessed ...yes we choose to work at staying happy together because its important to us it was and is our intention to spend our lives together , growing, learning and supporting each others dreams and desires we grant ecah other the freedoms and space all people need to themselves at times, without resentment or feeling offended our time spent together is far better because of the things we do for one another AND the things we do for ourselves perhaps i am lucky perhaps i am blessed i see it like this i work hard the payoff is profound | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Please state if your in an open relationship or not. Some of us would appreciate that. thanks, | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
AsianBomb777 said: Please state if your in an open relationship or not. Some of us would appreciate that. I have never been in an open relationship. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Well, I am happily married, although the wife is in my bad books right now, as you know Teacher.
But overall, I am very happy in my relationship. It only took 3 days for me to ask my (now) wife to spend her life with me, and it's now more than 3 and a half years later. I went with a feeling and so far everything has shown me I was right. You could say we're lucky, but to be honest, I don't believe in luck (all so called 'luck' can be explained rather easily) and I don't believe in fate. We just met each other and fell in love. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
here's what i've learned over the years... it helps tremendously to not take yourself too seriously (as with any relationships in your life), and to love and respect the other person completely, warts and all. that doesn't mean they are not going to do things that annoy or even anger you, but it's the ACTION that you can be upset with, not the PERSON.
just be. just have fun. none of the little things that we get all worked up about in life are truly worth it. in the end, you have a finite amount of time on this earth, and you might as well be happy. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Mach said: * thinks for a long moment *
i dont just still love TR ... i love him more every day i adore him ..admire him and respect him our life together has been wonderfully blessed ...yes we choose to work at staying happy together because its important to us it was and is our intention to spend our lives together , growing, learning and supporting each others dreams and desires we grant ecah other the freedoms and space all people need to themselves at times, without resentment or feeling offended our time spent together is far better because of the things we do for one another AND the things we do for ourselves perhaps i am lucky perhaps i am blessed i see it like this i work hard the payoff is profound You, myself and joker are like minds. Let's all be smug together. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Fauxie said: Mach said: * thinks for a long moment *
i dont just still love TR ... i love him more every day i adore him ..admire him and respect him our life together has been wonderfully blessed ...yes we choose to work at staying happy together because its important to us it was and is our intention to spend our lives together , growing, learning and supporting each others dreams and desires we grant ecah other the freedoms and space all people need to themselves at times, without resentment or feeling offended our time spent together is far better because of the things we do for one another AND the things we do for ourselves perhaps i am lucky perhaps i am blessed i see it like this i work hard the payoff is profound You, myself and joker are like minds. Let's all be smug together. Or better yet, let's all pat each other on the back, get drunk, and end up in a clusterfuck that ruins all our relationships. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Fauxie said: Fauxie said: You, myself and joker are like minds. Let's all be smug together. Or better yet, let's all pat each other on the back, get drunk, and end up in a clusterfuck that ruins all our relationships. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Fauxie said: let's all pat each other on the back, get drunk, and end up in a clusterfuck that ruins all our relationships.
You fantasize alot, dont you? | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
HamsterHuey said: Fauxie said: let's all pat each other on the back, get drunk, and end up in a clusterfuck that ruins all our relationships.
You fantasize alot, dont you? No, actually. I'm a 'doing' person. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Fauxie said: Fauxie said: You, myself and joker are like minds. Let's all be smug together. Or better yet, let's all pat each other on the back, get drunk, and end up in a clusterfuck that ruins all our relationships. i dont get drunk ... but i'll watch you 2 and my relationship will be just fine even when i take the video | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Mach said: Fauxie said: Or better yet, let's all pat each other on the back, get drunk, and end up in a clusterfuck that ruins all our relationships. i dont get drunk ... but i'll watch you 2 and my relationship will be just fine even when i take the video Your husband would be cool with that? | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Somehow you non-fantasizing people have perverted this beautiful thread!
You just smashed Teacher's dreams! | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
HamsterHuey said: Somehow you non-fantasizing people have perverted this beautiful thread!
You just smashed Teacher's dreams! I agree. Let's all get smashed and fantasize about about perverted people and beautiful teachers. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Fauxie said: Mach said: i dont get drunk ... but i'll watch you 2 and my relationship will be just fine even when i take the video Your husband would be cool with that? i think so ... but i'll ask him | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
HamsterHuey said: Somehow you non-fantasizing people have perverted this beautiful thread!
You just smashed Teacher's dreams! Thanks for that oh-so-wrong insight into my mind I just realised that it HAS TO BE luck involved, since some of the people who are in long terms relationship take it so lightly. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Teacher said: HamsterHuey said: Somehow you non-fantasizing people have perverted this beautiful thread!
You just smashed Teacher's dreams! Thanks for that oh-so-wrong insight into my mind I just realised that it HAS TO BE luck involved, since some of the people who are in long terms relationship take it so lightly. Let's just say I accept the idea of 'luck'. I don't think it is down to that. It's just down to who you meet and when. That's not luck, it's just the way things go. A life may at times seem long, but at others short. It's certainly short in so far as finding love. When you consider how many people we meet in our lives it's not a great number when u're talking about meeting a person you love absolutely and want to spend your life with. Finding that 'true love' can look like a bit of a long shot. Still, I wouldn't call this luck. It's hardly lucky that I came to Thailand when I did and happened to meet my soulmate. I decided to come here and she was here, we met, fell in love, and that's just what happened. I'm certainly happy about this turn of events, but I understand it's just the way it goes. I don't think there's a parallel universe where other roads are taken. There is only what there is, and ever would it have been, the pudding proof being in the fact that it happened. It's hard to conceive of an idea like 'luck' in that sense. Hang on, this isn't helping is it? Oh well, have this: Faux is out to lunch. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Happily gay "marriage" 10 years and going strong!!!!
LEGALIZE IT!!!!! Socks still got butt like a leather seat... | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
CynthiasSocks said: Happily gay "marriage" 10 years and going strong!!!!
LEGALIZE IT!!!!! Not about the marriage thing, just the gay bit. Want to appear cool and open-minded. Faux is out to lunch. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
CynthiasSocks said: Happily gay "marriage" 10 years and going strong!!!!
LEGALIZE IT!!!!! Holland! Holland! Then again, we almost legalize anything. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
The Five keys are golden rules to remember and exercise daily for a marriage to work.
1. Be Caring Your spouse is a gift. Let them know that they are No 1 in your life - your best friend. Make time for each other Listen carefully when he/she is talking Be interested Try to see things from Their point of view. 2. Be Open Risk being honest about your feelings, needs and hurts. Talk about your hopes and fears Talk about your day, especially if it's been tough, and ask about their day Tell him or her what they do right; pay compliments Tell them the good things about your love making together.. 3. Be Generous Try always to meet their needs before your own. Be kind and thoughtful. Surprise them - breakfast in bed? A happy welcome back from work Write a note to say "I love you". Say it often. 4. Be Peacemakers All couples have disagreements. Speak gently. Don't accuse. If you have had a row, you can rebuild love if you: Don't sulk and refuse to say anything Don't withdraw - say sorry to each other Are prepared to admit you were partly to blame Speak kind words. These can bring comfort - with a hug, even better. Make a cup of tea, sit close together and talk it through. 5. Be Committed Enrich your marriage continually Do things together Share income and possesions Never allow any third party to have first place in your thoughts. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
Teacher said: some of the people who are in long terms relationship take it so lightly.
Maybe that is the key, Teach. | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |
HamsterHuey said: Teacher said: some of the people who are in long terms relationship take it so lightly.
Maybe that is the key, Teach. i was thinking something close to the same Huey lightheartedness is Key to a happy marriage ( for some ) | |
- E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator |