I think I'm heading in the right direction.

I just got a job offer as a Senior Account Executive for a Real Estate company.

I'm pretty stoked, although I have this curiously large debt of my ex-husband's to pay since we divorced.

All in all, I'd say yes.

In short...no.

I thought I planned fairly well. I went to school, got a good job,etc. But I truly didn't plan on my job being the main focus of my life right now. I always thought my true calling was to have a family (mom/wife), the education and job were to help raise kids with a comfortable lifesyle. I never made a plan B. I thought I would be married, and have at least 3 kids (adopted and natural). I feel like I waiting for something that isn't going to happen.

MsMisha319 said:

girlygirl said:

I know exactly what you mean. I thought by now I'd be living a "grown up" life - married, some kind of career or at least a decent paying job, kids. Well, I cannot have kids of my own, the career thing I still haven't figure out, some other difficult issues that I must deal with daily that I know I will have for the rest of my life, yadda yadda yadda... It's amazing when I look at how vastly different my life is from what I'd imagined it would be for me at this age.

But girlygirl - don't give up hope on your dreams coming true. They might still happen, they're just not happening in the timeline you hoped for/imagined they would, and I truly believe everything happens for some reason and in the right time that it's meant to.

Sometimes, though, there comes a time you just have to re-evaluate your life and decide you can keep the old hopes and dreams alive but do something completely different with your life in the meanwhile.

There's a reason your life is on the path it is and for why it's leading you to your destiny the WAY it is - try to trust that belief.

I know that sounds cliche but that belief has been what's helped me make sense of certain situations in my life that I never imagined would happen to me and that totally derailed a couple of my hopes/expectations for my life.

HOpe you don't mind this longwinded response to your comment. What you wrote just really resonated with me and I wanted to say something.

I'd like to start dating again but I don't want all the hassle involved.

When all my friends are doing something in couples, I'm always at a loose end. I'd love to have somebody to go see a movie with, or watch crap on the telly with or just "fool around" with.

But I don't want somebody around 24/7. I like my own company. I never have enough time to do everything that I want to do. I find it hard to be touchy-feely or send soppy emails and texts. I hate compromising too.

I don't know what I want.

Today I was ready Po Bronson's "What Do I Want to Do With My Life." (I've been reading it in bit & pieces for months.) It's full of stories of people trying to answer that question. I can relate.

UptownDeb said:

I just read that. I thought it was a good read, and I could relate too. . .

No, not yet. I feel like I'm moving in the right direction but it's slow motion compared to where I thought I would be by now

I think for the first time in my life I can answer YES to that question. I just quit my job and bought a ticket to Italy I am excited as but at the same time I think Im going to pee my pants. Its kinda scarey when you get what you want...

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girlygirl said:

I know exactly what you mean. I thought by now I'd be living a "grown up" life - married, some kind of career or at least a decent paying job, kids. Well, I cannot have kids of my own, the career thing I still haven't figure out, some other difficult issues that I must deal with daily that I know I will have for the rest of my life, yadda yadda yadda... It's amazing when I look at how vastly different my life is from what I'd imagined it would be for me at this age.

But girlygirl - don't give up hope on your dreams coming true. They might still happen, they're just not happening in the timeline you hoped for/imagined they would, and I truly believe everything happens for some reason and in the right time that it's meant to.

Sometimes, though, there comes a time you just have to re-evaluate your life and decide you can keep the old hopes and dreams alive but do something completely different with your life in the meanwhile.

There's a reason your life is on the path it is and for why it's leading you to your destiny the WAY it is - try to trust that belief.

I know that sounds cliche but that belief has been what's helped me make sense of certain situations in my life that I never imagined would happen to me and that totally derailed a couple of my hopes/expectations for my life.

HOpe you don't mind this longwinded response to your comment. What you wrote just really resonated with me and I wanted to say something.







Thank you SQ.
In my heart of hearts I know you're right, and I have always believed that. It just that I am about to turn 35 and times a tickin'. But you never know the plan that is in store. I just have a fear that if my life plan doesn't come to fruition, I'll have regrets. And that the biggetst fear I have is looking back with regret.