I think i just fell for my friend. who seems to to be into me as well, but is currently engaged to be married to my other friend. Did i mention she is straight. what the hell is wrong with me?!?!

okay ...

tell me! WTF!!!! I obviously cant see her anymore!! but she doesn't want to stop seeing each other!

You're a horrible person, all right.

Having feelings is not okay!

prrtybby said:

Um...we're gonna need some details here.

prrtybby said:

Okay. It may be the three cups of coffee and No-Doze that has me disoriented but I have no idea what you are talking about. Are you a girl?

TheOrgerFormerlyKnownAs said:

I'm guessing she is.

hey now. I am a horrible person not because i have feelings for her, but beacuse i think it has gone beyond feelings for a straight girl who is engaged to my friend. the fact that she is receptive is just making it worse

TheOrgerFormerlyKnownAs said:

yes

Ace said:

like what kind of details?

prrtybby said:

Could you define "receptive" for us, please?

Ace said:

prrtybby said:

Aren't you involved with someone already??...I have a picture of you with your girlfriend on my computer.

applekisses said:

I'm serious (not into the lesbian thing, myself). Trying to figure out if it's just her interpretation that the woman's been "receptive", or if there has been actual physical contact.

Ace said:

I'm just teasing, hon. I was assuming that being "receptive" meant physical contact

Byron said:

no not anymore really. that is a long story though and was in place before this new thing i promise.

Ace said:

she told me that she felt more for me than she should before i told her. I wasn't going to say anything to her at all until she said it to me. then it just sort of fell out of my big fat mouth. now i can't take it back. then she kissed me last night. What am I going to do?

This is actually a really tough situation. I've been in a similar one. It's really common, when a lesbian is friends with a straight girl, and they really like each other as people, for an attraction to begin. For the lesbian, it's a real, serious thing, because she's mainly attracted to women and mainly has relationships with women. For the straight girl (usually) it's bi-curiosity, and she's receptive because a) she's curious; b) here's someone who can possibly fulfill that curiosity, and not only do I know she's clean, I know she's safe and cares about me. It's one of the major struggles of homo life.

I could say resist at all costs, but you're going to do what you're going to do, and we all make the mistake of fucking the straight friend. Sometimes the friendship survives, usually it doesn't, and often it turns into a humungous drama in which people get badly hurt. But hey, everything is a learning experience. Just don't be too hard on yourself, and know that, because of the nature of this situation, you are going to experience some hurt and some pain. Accept that, and don't freak out about it too much. We've all been there.

prrtybby said:

Okay, we've got a "sitch" (as Carson on Queer Eye would say).

I think it's time to have a serious discussion, beginning with "You kissed me last night, but you are engaged to be married to Joe. What is going on here?"
[Edited 1/6/05 10:47am]

prrtybby said:

Be careful, sweetie. Don't get your heart broken. Listen to Funk...she's a smarty!

FunkMistress said:

it is just worse that she is engaged to a friend of mine as well. she told him how she was feeling and they have postponed the wedding. she says that "I" am NOT the reason. and i want to believe her. she said that she didn't tell him that i felt the same way. But i think he sort of knows anyway. I just need to stay away from her don't i?

Ace said:

that is so funny that said "Joe" that is his name. i am so F*#@%& up!

prrtybby said:

Are you that compatible with this woman that you think there is any chance of a lasting relationship? Is it worth destroying a friendship for? Think with your head, not your , woman!

applekisses said:

Thank you, my dear.

And getting your heart broken isn't the end of the world (unless you make it that). It's a necessary part of life, once or twice. Just don't hand it over with a sledgehammer attached.

Ace said:

NOt of a lasting relationship in that way no. I think she will end staying with him. But she says she isn't sure anymore. I am totally addicted to her and she is texting me as we speak about coming to see her this afternoon. I keep telling her I think it is a bad idea. (trying to be responsible)

prrtybby said:

Do the right thing.

Ace said:

YEP!! going to be a grown up today.

FunkMistress said:

Wise words.

Make your decision wisely! It will effect your life, and hers, and his...

Good luck!!

i thought u were a guy...


oh wait, you cleared that up with me last year, huh?