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Have a safe and wonderful New Year

Happy New Year to you too!

I've got some resolutions planned already.

First, I'll never again let my boyfriend leave me sitting alone on holidays while he goes home to his mommy and daddy... "Oh well, you have to work during the holiday and I've already made plans with my parents; I guess you're just not coming with me" is NOT a good enough answer. Nor is "My parents won't 'let' me spend Christmas with you; I have to go with them. They offered to 'let' you come along; you should be happy about that", or anythign to that effect...


And also, I'll do some serious sorting of my "friends". I'll stop sucking up to the ones who don't really like me, and I'll stop wasting my time with the ones who only bring me down. Maybe somewhere in all that I'll realize who my real friends are and have a happier life.

What's yours?

4 U hIsMiRRoR

Mine?

To be all that I can be

hIsMiRRoR said:

your guy sounds like a mama's boy. i had one of those before. you gotta do something about that so you will be happy. enjoy the holidays the way you want to. Merry Christmas and new year- and oh mine is to stop slacking and being late for everything.

To have a better year than 2004, mentally, monetary and physically.

Merry Christmas and Happy new year

I'm just gonna try and have as much fun as I have had this year

johng said:

Thank you.

heybaby said:

He kind of is. It's hard to explain. It's not that he actually likes his mother or wants to spend any time with her. I think he actually likes her as little as I do... And spending time at their house just means being forced to stay inside all day and do chores; they never go anywhere or do anything and they expect everyone to sit there like statues and stare at each other. He's just so sickenly obedient when they tell him to do something, and holidays and vacations have ALWAYS been spent at their house without question. They just tell him he's coming "home" and he barely gives it a thought; he just gets in the car with them and goes.


I got in a big fight with him last night about it. We actually argue about that a lot. It never gets us anywhere. We just get mad for a while then forget about it until the next holiday. Inbetween the holidays, we've made a great life together and I can't imagine going on without him, ya know? But around holidays, these things just really get to me. He hates it when I bring it up because his version of putting his foot down is acting all whiny until his mom asks him what's wrong, then he just bitches that he wants to see me so she gives him "permission" to visit me and he just lets it go at that. I don't know if he doesn't have the guts to stand up to his parents, or he secretly doesn't want to or he doesn't understand what I'm asking him to do or what. Maybe he fears changing the situation won't end well; I don't know. All I know is when I get all mad about it he just sees it as me making trouble and gets mad at me for wanting to upset his parents...


The quotes in my earlier post, they're from this Christmas of course. I was supposed to go traveling with his family for the holiday to sit uncomfortably on someone else's couch for the day, although the one day trip would surely turn into a week on his mother's couch... I didn't want to go, especially since I wasn't "invited" or even asked if I wanted to or could go, I was just kinda "expected" to go because they gave me "permission" to come along. But I wanted to see him for the holiday no matter what I had to go through. I even went scrambling for a dog sitter and found one, only to hear I had to work all through the holiday and couldn't leave town anyway. And instead of telling his parents about that and trying to fix the plans so we could leave a day later or something so I could go, he just was like "oh well, I won't be gone that long; I'll see you when I get back". And again he'll try to bribe my affections back with a Christmas present and a half-assed apology, followed by some bitter indifference because surely he doesn't know what it's like to be abandoned or ignored every time there's a holiday or vacation...

It's not really that he's a mama's boy, but more that he lets himself be so controlled by his parents that he's afraid to argue with them or take his life into his own hands. What can ya do to help him do that? I mean, I can't do it for him... Sometimes I think we're making progress with his parents, but then he sees them in person and immediately goes back to super-obedient, blindly agreeing, totally indifferent, and sugar-coating every bad situation so he won't make them upset, even though it usually ends up getting us the opposite of what we were asking for... It's frustrating...

And ya know what's more frustrating? The Org is the only place I can vent like this, and he reads these things... Jeez how long is this post already? Well, in case I lost my point in there somewhere... I love him, I really do. And I want to spend my life with him. And the time we have together is wonderful. But his parents ruin every minute of our lives that they can, and he lets them, and I can't do much about it myself, and blaming me or saying I treat him just like they do or pretending it's not that bad or ignoring it or telling me it has to be that way because they won't "let" him be any other way, or whatever he chooses to do to deal with it on any given day, is not working and if I suggest anything else he thinks I'm being crazy. So it's frustrating, especially during the times I'm alone at HIS house watching the pets and taking care of the place, and he just doesn't seem to care too much about what's going on. He just seems to forget I'm even alive when his parents are around and it's really depressing...

Don't be sad
















Be happy

1. To flirt with Muse wherever I get the chance.

2. To see if I can get a voice change operation.

althom said:

1) To try and not be forced to take the Tin can seriously!

2) To appreciate a true falsetto voice

3) To not attempt to have him banned for flirtatious thread assults!

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

OMG!!!!! You are in so much trouvle for number 2!!!!!

althom said:

You jump to far to many conclusions! This thread is NOT about you... you.. you!

As well, if we were on the phone it would be beeping like mad now!

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

You naughty girl!