Awww

applekisses said:

lollyp0p said:

...But you've also made a lot of people happy too, by coming back to the Org! Good to see you Lolly, all the best

AsianBomb777 said:

Hey! Try the Alternitave Way!

Worked for me!

Thanks for everyones support, i really appreciate it and if i'm honest i need it,

asianbomb, lets hope 2005 will bring us both out into the light, i know I'm sick of being the way i wam already.

KelleyG, i really hope i don't get like that,I felt what it was like to love, and i think be loved back for a little while and it was the most magical experience, I want to feel it again even though i got really hurt i can't imagine going through life knowing that exists and I am lost to it, I just need the man who can "deal with me and my situation"

hey everybody hurts sometimes so they say, i guess now is my time

Natisse i got your message but not ready to talk yet will drown the phone with tears

Dear Lollyp0p,

I am sorry you feel this way and I am sure that you are not a bad person. If you feel that you have hurt people this year, then you should apologize to them. I know that sounds stoopid, but it makes you feel better to just say it out loud.

And just stay positive darling, because this too shall pass. You are the only one who has the control over your life and who can influence it in a positive way. And also for your children. Just don't expect another person to bring you happiness. You should really try and be happy on your own first..and with your wonderful children. That person that comes along, can only ADD to the joy that is already in your life. And if this person doesn't,..kick him (or her) out.

But you have to make YOU happy first.... nobody can do that for you.

I hope that you have a great Christmas and a wonderful New Year. Keep smiling. Figure out how things r now and how you want them to be,..and work on the gap in between Cheers

I remember when I was in a similar situation and everyone kept saying, "everything happens for a reason," and I would look at them thinking, what are you talking about? I dont want to hear that. In the early stages nothing anyone said would comfort me. All I wanted to do was be alone and tend to my wounds.. You're going to get through this Lolly. Time will heal your wounds, it's a cliche I know, but after a while the pain will start to ease. It is the early stages and dont be hard on yourself. Be with your friends and let them comfort you.
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Things will get better for you



PS - I saw the title and thought you were doing a striptease

Lolly things will start looking up when you least expect them. Until then we are all hear to listen when you need us.

Well I don't know you, and you'll probably find it strange that I respond to this thread, but anyway, let me tell you this. I had a broken heart once and I kept thinking to myself, in two months it will be better, in three months, on newyear etc. That stuff is not working! At least not for me. I think you should confront yourself with your pain and sadness, and if this means you'll act like a very depressed woman, so be it! Don't let people tell you when the pain will be over, listen to your heart, each day, and time will tell. I mean, doing nice things, going out with friends, it will all be nicer than weeping on the couch and staring out of the window, and you should not stop doing all this things, but don't expect them to take the pain away. Your sadness is here, right now, don't push it away or you'll be dragging it with you for years and years.

I hope you don't find this too depressing. I'm saying this because I always thought I was over things, but in fact I just pushed them away, and during the last months I've made some 'emotional' changes and many things of the past are haunting me now. Not this broken heart I was talking about, this was sth I was finally done with when I encountered love again, and it's so fantastic to be able to love again, but it took me 5 years to experience it (and yes I am pretty young ). I mean, when the pain is deep, you know it. Don't push it away, and take time for the nice, consoling things. I guess this will help. It worked for me, but of course, who am I to suppose it works for you? A person's character is like a very complicated spiderweb, and sometimes you become the fly, trapped in your own web. Sometimes you become the spider, trapping yourself. Something like that. Take it, don't blame it on others. You'll never be able to know who much a person loved you. You'll only be sure about what you felt...

billyjackbitch said:

I have said sorry a million times, but you are right i do need to make myself happy, you speak sense thankyou, you have helped me on this one of my lowest days.


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Lleena said:

My friends have had enough of comforting me did you not know a week is long enough to get over things. I shouldn't still be crying, and i shouldn't still crave him, but i do, I'm hard work and i cant blame people for wanting to leave me to it.

I feel stupid like i am over reacting that for go sake he didn't die just doesn't love you, get over it it happens all the time other people cope. But it is not that easy for me, i can't even explain the pain i feel.

i'm starting to understand why somepeople are so scared to fall in love, this pain is hardly worth it.

Rowdy said:

thanks sweetie you have been a rock past couple of days making me smile with your silly ways

if i did a striptease god help everyone

ella731 said:

lollyp0p said:

You're too cool for misery...drink some milk

Rowdy said:

as someone very wise once said to me

life may treat you badly sometimes but dammit you can have glossy hair, i should drink more milk

lollyp0p said:

I am glad to hear that I was able to help you a little with my comment. I have a special friend (read: sister),..who always tells me: "You first girl!!! you first!!" and she is so right. You have to be balanced first,...and love yourself to no end... before you can give love to another.

I really really hope that you will feel much better. Try some soulsearching... by writing. And that is a tip from another friend (read: sister) - Start writing and don't stop untill you have written at least 30 pages. You might want to call a quit after 15 pages, but that is when you start to hit the core of your issues... that is when you are running out of words..and when you hit the emotion in each word.

Maybe it is something you can do... so you know what is bothering. Writing is so good,..because you let it all out.

Again... I wish you all the best. You have many people who wish the best for you online already, so you cannot possibly be a bad person... so please stop thinking that. Positive thoughts, about yourself, your past experiences and your current situation is what will help you best.

Big

First off Lolly never say you are going to leave, unless you mean it!

Second, put yourself aside, and enjoy what Christmas means to your children, and the joy they will recieve from the presents that they get..

Enjoy! Lady life is to short to worry about soul mates. Sometimes soul mates are here only in passing.. to teach a lesson, and move on..

To you Lolly!

lollyp0p - I don't know much about you or the ins-and-outs of what is making you feel so down at the moment but it breaks my heart to read what you've posted. I hate to think of anyone feeling so depressed, especially this close to Xmas.

The one thing I will say - I've said this to many, many friends previously and please trust me on this - no matter how difficult things may seem, at some point you will feel better, I'm sure. Even if that does seem hard to believe at present, you will be able to look back on this situation some day and know that you conquered it. I'll put money on it. It may take some time but, eventually, life will get better. There is ALWAYS hope.


I'm certainly in no position to start offering advice, believe me. I can only talk from my own experience. But I've watched a lot of friends go through their own difficulties over the years and you know what? The above comment always rings true. It's the one thing I remind them when all seems lost. And, thankfully, at some point they've all been able to look back and stick two fingers up to whatever it was that troubled them in the first place. Just by keeping a little bit of hope. And I'm sure a lot of people on the Org will be looking out for you.

I hope you feel better soon, lollyp0p, and I wish you a very, very Merry Christmas. I hope 2005 will be the start of something amazing for you.

Onenitealone x

lollyp0p said:

A week isn't long enough to get over the loss of a relationship ending. you would have to be super human to do it in that time. you're not over reacting at all, you're trying to come to terms with being without someone you were very close too. In time you will be able explain the pain, not only to yourself but to others. There isn't a timeframe when something like this happens, but soon you will wake up and it wont hurt as much. Be good to yourself Lolly.

lolly i know how you feel right now my heart is a broken one too and the words of support and sympathy you're getting from people in here are lovely and worth listening to but you know what life goes on you got to keep yourself busy and focused and don't worry about finding a man who will take you on with your situation as you say.there is more to life than looking for love,i don't think it's something you search for it will find you when the time is right and the time clearly wasn't right for you guys. what you need is a good friend to get glammed up with and go out on a champagne and cocktail bender and have a blast with, then haul ure asses out of bed next day and go selfish luxury item shopping!!!works for me everytime!shame you live so far away girl!

Everyone has pretty much said what I wanted to say. Take from this a lesson and learn from it,make it positive. I know right now that sounds odd but when the pain is some what dull you will understand what I am talking about. And stop saying you are stupid or this is your fault,because you are brilliant,funny,sweet and have so much love to give. Put yourself and your children first.You're not being selfish in doing that. You're a strong beautiful woman and deserve to be happy. REMEMBER that! Take care of you right now and what YOU need. Then down the road when you meet someone worthy of YOU,you will have more to give. Just know that you are so loved so now love yourself,ok? I love you sweety and you are strong
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lollyp0p said:

honey you can drown the phone in tears to me ANY TIME ...I hope you know I'm there for you no matter what. I know you're not ready to talk to me at the moment but I'm really hoping you will be soon because it's Christmas and I miss you so much

just know that I'm sending huge big hugs for you, Bobbi and Cian and I love you heaps

Have you got friends coming around on Christmas Day?

BinaryJustin said:

she's got her family and friends near her, yes, thank goodness...I'm hoping they'll be around her Christmas day