Ministry is not just Sunday mornings..we are not superhuman. We are not supposed to do everything, and we deserve some respect when spoken to, not because we are ministers, but because we are human beings!!!!

Thank you, Heavenly

care spilling it out? or is it one of those things you are not supposed to share with anybody but god?

Heavenly said:

I am just tired of crying... I have shared with God a lot A parishoner jumped my case today.....I cried then, too. How humiliating....And she had done it one other time, and I was going to be strong this time, and I was weak.
If she had said a bunch of things that were accurate, then I would understand a little, but this wasn't.

bluesbaby said:

I'm so sorry to be ignorant, Blues, but you're a minister? I had no idea, that's all...I'm sorry you've had a bad day

Natisse said:

Thats okay Natisse I am pretty irreverent here

bluesbaby said:

sorry

bluesbaby said:

...you've always been very kind from what I've seen

Mach said:

you know your sig is part of what I am talking about, when I decide I am not going to let people talk that way to me, and then I do...

bluesbaby said:

have you figured out why you still allow them to... when in your heart you dont want to allow that ?

Mach said:

I have every intention of not letting it happen, until it happens! Its like feeling strong in that "what will you do the next time" and then when it happens I haven't collected myself before the attack, so to speak.

bluesbaby said:

Well, just remember, you're working for no one but God So you should only answer to him. The rest can go to...well, downstairs

bluesbaby said:

when all that builds ... i pity the one person that incounters you when you are standing IN YOUR POWER and ready

Mach said:

I am actually quite diplomatic then!

bluesbaby said:

Mach said:

after I cried in front of this woman, dealt with her stuff, redirected her topic of discussion, I thanked her for coming in to my office "and feeling free to discuss her concerns".....pastoral care at its.....best? Worst?

Pastors for years have not stood up for themselves. I don't think they have done themselves a service in that way.

bluesbaby said:

"lead by example"

blaze a new trail

for Blues.

I hate these kind of days. I kinda had one like it myself. At my daughters' dance studio, one of the moms is sooooo abrasive. I have never seen her with anything nice to say to anyone. Her daughter is lovely, but you can tell she is henpecked to death by this horrid woman. Anyway, tonight I was told about more unpleasantness this woman has caused the women who run the dance studio partially because of me. They want to tell her to go to another studio, but they don't because they like her daughter so much. We're all trying to decide what to do about this woman the next time we interact with her.

I had to laugh though. I told the studio instructor that the thing that I notice the most about this woman is that I only have to deal with her utter unpleasantness for a moment. She has to live with herself 24/7. I think I definately come out better on that deal!

So here's another for Blues. Hang in there girl!

Nothinbutjoy said:

Thanks, nbj

girl, im sorry you had a rough day today think of it this way... you need to clean your tearducts every few weeks to keep them healthy and in working order, maybe she was trying to help ???

or, think of it this way, i can be in KC in less than an hour, and we can go flatten all her tires, the old hag !!!


be strong sweetie, people are rude... its not about you, you are a wonderful person.. stay who you are, and all will be well hope tomorrow is better

nakedpianoplayer said:

she lives farther than here...and I am too lazy to go do her tires! Plus, the karma from that would just be bad...very, very bad...
Thanks though dollface

Ocean said:

Thanks


I think you should keep your avatar all year long

bluesbaby said:

I know what you mean about not wanting to let people talk negatively towards you, then it happens anyway. That's something that I've dealt with my whole life. What's funny is if I'm in a certain mood, I will say just what I think, and if I'm in a quiet mood, I won't say anything. I have had people tell me that I have "two personalities", which I really HATE. The last time someone made that comment to me, I waited until she was alone, approached her, and nicely asked her NOT to make that comment ever again. The thing is, if the people making that stupid comment really knew me and who I am, they would not say that.