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PrintableGooeyTheHamster said: billyjackbitch said: Oprah read it? Very cool! I didn't know that. It is just a cool book Jeremy. It really is. But it is nice to know Oprah read it too though. Didn't know you watched her show. :p It's what made the book so popular and is the reason it was translated into Dutch. I only watch Oprah when sick. Like last night; it had Johnny Depp and Kate Winslett. Of course, what Oprah focused on was Depp being the sexiest man alive (Depp looked VERY Humiliated) and had Winslett talking about weight and childbirth. It got so pathetic that everytime Depp was irritated he took a sip of the wine Oprah gave him. The guy at one point took the entire bottle...  Really, it is perfectly fine to watch the Oprah show though. Why are men so embarassed?  hahahahahaha too funny.
But okay...this thread was about the book, not about Oprah. I brought it to work today. I'll translate a passage later today. I was crackin up again last night when I read another chapter. LOL It IS really funny. Wether it was on Oprah or not... I give a [peep], it really really is funny
I am not at my desk now, so I will translate later.  | |
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Goo isn't alone, saw it on Ohfrey too I have no interest in reading the book though. I go into it assuming he's not that into me  This is for women w/ too much hope in a dying/dead situation    I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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Not really Calhoun. If you WOULD read the book, you will see that there are occasions too, where two people went on a nice date and where the man is sending out mixed signals to the woman.
That is what Greg, the author is saying, which I find so hilarious: "Men prefer to be stepped on by a group of elephants before they will tell a woman in her face: "I am just not that into you" LMAO. So what happens in these cases, is that they keep contacting her and will continue to go out with her, but just never bring that relationship to the next level. Women tend to make up excuses for a man.... "he is a very busy man" or "he travels a lot" or "he just got through a messy divorce" while the author,..also a man... is saying with his book: "stop making excuses! If a man is into you, he WILL make sure you won't look for another man, while he IS in fact on a business trip." So even if it is a dying situation for a man, it just is not shown in that way by a man, simply because he doesn't want to hurt the woman's feelings. And this book is a very clear means to let women in that situation know: "this is a sign,..and this is a sign...and this is a sign... subtile as they may be.... that he is not into you." Just wanted to share this with women, not because I think they need to be rescued, but that they won't spend too much time on men who are (now obviously) not into them [Edited 12/8/04 3:43am] | |
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I don't think we should be putting people into boxes here. Women who choose to read this book or any other insightful book are not necessarily or always victims or anything. And just because this specific book is explaining the signs men give when they are "just not that into a woman" doesn't mean it is an attack to men in general.
I started this thread because I wanted to share it with women (and/or men) who might find this interesting too... or get reactions from men who can confirm (parts of) what the book says or maybe comments by women, who say: "wow,..I am in a relationship now, where he is doing the same thing. So really. let's not put each other into boxes, but just give comments from your life or examples you once heard about that you think is funny or interesting to place here  | |
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Are men that hard to figure out though?
I find that hard to believe really-for the most part, if you ask us, we'll tell you if we know the answer. Sometimes we are just kind of there. I have no problem with Oprah-even though she scares me sometimes-she's a bit too uberhyper for me some shows. Her show's been a little more tabloidesque in ways lately. This book does sound interesting though, I just wish if nothing else, if it was that hard for people to figure out what they're partner was saying/thinking we'd come with subtitles or screens that display it around our necks. Could help quite a bit with the divorce rate. | |
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Fact is, this dude's makin' a shitload of mazuma as the guy who's hippin' women to what's really goin' down. In reality, in our post-modern society, it is now impossible to tell who's zoomin' who and this book could just lead to a bunch of Mexican stand-offs.  | |
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billyjackbitch said: GooeyTheHamster said: Oprah read it and now EVERYONE is reading it...
Anyways... we sell dozens a week. Oprah read it? Very cool! I didn't know that. It is just a cool book Jeremy. It really is. But it is nice to know Oprah read it too though. Didn't know you watched her show. :p I saw that show, it wasn't bad but could some women get more stupid  | |
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I NEED THIS BOOK !!!!!
just sent an email asking for it from santa  One of the best days of my life... http://prince.org/msg/100/291111
love is a gift
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nakedpianoplayer said: I NEED THIS BOOK !!!!!
just sent an email asking for it from santa .. You mean, you can EMAIL Santa now?!
..So why did my mom make me do that letter and stick it in the postbox...? | |
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RocknRollDave said: ..
You mean, you can EMAIL Santa now?!?santa@elfsrus.np (np stands for NorthPole) | |
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Haven't read it...but definitely will.... the author aired on Oprah on the east coast today....12/8/04....and it was insightful....
people watching is always interesting and nonverbal forms of communication are always most telling (imo) ....body language...and yes response/ reciprocation/ hell common courtesy in some instances ..... men in general take offense when it hits a nerve... i agree that it's not categorizing....but i feel it is an attempt at understanding how men react.... they for the most part aren't as apt to wear their heart on their sleeve as women ...but by the same token...women tend to see what we want and more often than not we want to see the "good" and we often to our own detriment ....allow the negative to be brushed under the rug..... it's the differences of the sexes..... women are nurturers and men are taught at a very young age to conceal their true feelings and expose only the tough exterior .... i agree it should prove an interesting read Ilona and I will defintely pick it up...thanks for suggesting it
billyjackbitch said: Who has read the book: "He's just not that into you" ?
It is written by Greg Behrendt and absolutely hilarious yet insightful. Gimme your opinions if you read it. If you haven't (yet) u should go get it!
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GooeyTheHamster said: RocknRollDave said: ..
You mean, you can EMAIL Santa now?!?santa@elfsrus.np (np stands for NorthPole) 
Santa goes technological! Guess he'll settle for a digital pic of a glass of brandy and moving emoticon of a mince pie then...? Oh and a virtual carrot for rudolph? | |
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billyjackbitch said: Not really Calhoun. If you WOULD read the book, you will see that there are occasions too, where two people went on a nice date and where the man is sending out mixed signals to the woman.
That is what Greg, the author is saying, which I find so hilarious: "Men prefer to be stepped on by a group of elephants before they will tell a woman in her face: "I am just not that into you" LMAO. So what happens in these cases, is that they keep contacting her and will continue to go out with her, but just never bring that relationship to the next level. Women tend to make up excuses for a man.... "he is a very busy man" or "he travels a lot" or "he just got through a messy divorce" while the author,..also a man... is saying with his book: "stop making excuses! If a man is into you, he WILL make sure you won't look for another man, while he IS in fact on a business trip." So even if it is a dying situation for a man, it just is not shown in that way by a man, simply because he doesn't want to hurt the woman's feelings. And this book is a very clear means to let women in that situation know: "this is a sign,..and this is a sign...and this is a sign... subtile as they may be.... that he is not into you." Just wanted to share this with women, not because I think they need to be rescued, but that they won't spend too much time on men who are (now obviously) not into them
[Edited 12/8/04 3:43am] Sorry if you think I'm putting you & others who've read it in a box There's nothing bad about reading it, I just don't need a book to tell me what's going on. I know that a lot men lie & string us along & get what they can get from women for as long as we LET them. The way I see it, if he's serious he won't just talk about it - he'll let me know he's serious by actually coming through. Otherwise I'm just another broad to him, trading smiles & fake compliments vs. having a genuine connection. $ saved...
. [Edited 12/10/04 5:01am] I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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I've read the book and was dissapointed in it. I really didn't like the layout of the whole thing, anyway... it's basically what we all know and don't want to admit or see sometimes, it's just written in text (why didn't any of us think of writing this thing?!). So, the upside to it, I suppose, since often times we don't want to listen to our instincts/what these men are showing us, is that instead of calling our friends and asking this or that, we can open the book and have sense knocked into us that way. | |
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AzureStarr said: I've read the book and was dissapointed in it. I really didn't like the layout of the whole thing, anyway... it's basically what we all know and don't want to admit or see sometimes, it's just written in text (why didn't any of us think of writing this thing?!). So, the upside to it, I suppose, since often times we don't want to listen to our instincts/what these men are showing us, is that instead of calling our friends and asking this or that, we can open the book and have sense knocked into us that way.
 I never met you, but I LOVE you & I will forever!! Thank you for being YOU - my little Princey, the best to EVER do it | |
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