Or can it, under certain circumstances, be healthy for your 'proper' relationship?




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If I'm interpreting the question correctly ("Is it always bad to sleep with someone behind your partner's back?"), the answer, of course, is "no". To wit:

Just the other week, I was caught in flagrante delicto. At first, my girlfriend went ape-shit and threatened to "cut (my) dick off!". After I took the time to explain that I was ing this other woman stricly in the interest of improving the health of our own relationship, she saw the light of reason and I'm happy to say we are now expecting twins.

Taureau said:

IMHO behind the back means that it is a betrayal of trust and that in its self will never strengthen a relationship

mdiver said:

so deffinatly do it in FRONT of said partner

can really improve the sex life

Mach said:

Now that, my sweet, is a different matter

Taureau said:

I think it depends on the type of relationship you have. If you and your partner have said that you both will be faithful, then its wrong. However, if you have an agreement that you can sleep around, just not form other relationships, then its cool. I think that you should just be up front about everything so you won't have to lie. Although I know that sometimes, "it just happens." When I was in college and not active I told my boyfriends to do whatever they wanted, b/c they weren't going to get anything from me except for foreplay. So I didn't care, but that also left me open to flirt etc. w/ who I wanted. Some people can handle these type of relationships and others can't.
I don't get jealous of other girls, so for me its not a problem. I also don't like being controlled so I don't try to control others.

mdiver said:

ah shuddup guys this is a serious matter!

i always sleep behind my partner's back - otherwise he snores in my ear and slobbers all over the back of my neck.

am i reading this question right?

Anxiety said:

So he farts against you then.

Taureau said:

Sorry mate, how ya doin' today and how is the S of F

Nila said:

What if you live hundreds of miles away from your partner, only see them once every 2 months...and you're worried that your being completely out of practise might make them want to seek proper action while you're apart?

Taureau said:

Why didn't you say so in the first place?! In that case, shag away!

JoweeCoco said:

No, I'm the perpetrator there.

Another reason I gotta sleep behind my partner's back!

Taureau said:

So what your question should read is " I am working away at the moment and have met a hot French girl that I really want to shag the arse off. Does anyone think my girlfriend would mind if she found out I had done the deed?"

Anxiety said:

no. but we get what you're saying.

mdiver said:

beaucoup de jolies filles. trop. TROP DAMN IT!!!!!

mdiver said:

damn you!











yeah, s'pose

superspaceboy said:

i thought it was some kind of german superstition wive's tale kind of thing, like if you spoon on the outside of your spouse, a witch will come snip your fingers off or something.

i read too much into things sometimes.

Taureau said:

That's cool as long as you don't have a problem with your partner doing the same thing.

Taureau said:

Know how you feel I spent 3 years on and off working in Hong Kong, damn those oriental girls!!!!!

Nila said:

This one always kills me - the "open" relationship. What's the point of having a "relationship" if you're shagging other people left and right?

Taureau said:

Only you can answer that mate and BTW greetings from the UK the weather is shit, hope it is sunny for you!

Anxiety said:

The first time a girl did that to me I went No one prepares you for stuff like that!

JoweeCoco said:

well, you know. with age comes experience. people fart. people have dreams about beans. people fart in their sleep. what can ya do.

Anxiety you nut!!

I couldn't do it... I have to much respect for myself.

Ace said:

Everyone is diffrent and have their own definition on what a relationship should be like. In many parts of the world people have more than one spouse. I personally do not currently hold this belief and have a monogamous relationship myself. However, when I was in college I believed in something different. I didn't ever want to get married, and didn't like it when guys got too attached to me. I would always tell them to do whatever they wanted. I didn't care as long as I came first before the other girls and when I wanted to be alone they left me alone. You have to do what makes you happy. Not conform to what people/society tells you is the right to thing to do.

sag10 said:

what, to let a pootie in your sleep? it can't be helped!!

Anxiety said:

Is the 'Dutch Oven' in common practise still?

If you're asking this as some sort of hoping for a green light to cheat, sorry. can't help you hear.

Taureau said:

i'll have you know i sleep above the covers.