I’m a little bummed, so I thought I’d come her for some ideas.

Is there anyone here that sometimes feels left-out coz he/she is not very “cool”? I don’t know, but lately I have felt my high school days coming back to haunt me. I just don’t feel like I fit in anywhere coz I’m such a geek. The weird thing is there are some people who think I’m really confident and have it all together, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. I am pretty open-minded and liberal. And I can socialize pretty well and am fairly out-going. I also try to help people out when I can, and as polite/respectful as I know how to be. But when it comes right down to it, I still feel very shy and even awkward sometimes. I just don’t feel people like me very much. It’s just an intuitive feeling I have, and I get depressed about it sometimes
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Same here.

To one degree or another, I've felt out of place practically all of my life...my neice (of all people) gave me some advice last year that really hit a nerve within me: she said "just be yourself, and see where it takes you"...In other words, don't worry about what other people think of you, you don't need to fit in anywhere...you don't need to "belong" (although that feeling is a very basic human emotion, to "belong"...but we define it incorrectly, which causes problems)...you don't need approval...you mainly just need to understand and accept who you truly are within yourself and within your soul, embrace the beauty you find there, and feel comfortable living that truth. The "fitting in" will come naturally when you do..

Thanks hisMiRRoR and Byron for responding.

I try just to be myself, and not worry about the opinions of other people, but from time to time I just don't feel like I make a connection coz I've never been the "party-type" and enjoy intellectual rather than "light" conversation.

Another weird thing that I've noticed is the the people who really are unkind to others seem to have a lot of friends. It's like they are the king/queen and their "friends" are their subjects, vying for their attention and approval.

Of course, at the end of the day, I can only be the person I am whether I have a ton of friends or not. But I'm always amazed that the people who sometimes are the MOST disrepectful and inconsiderate have the most friends. It's similar to men or women who date the most elusive person. These people are really CHARMING and fun to be around, but are necessarily the most reliable or caring. Like I said, I've LONG since graduate from high school and college, but I've notice that adults have the same type of cliques, so to speak.

Isel said:

sometimes I feel the same way...I'll get myself into a state where I get a bit worried and paranoid. I'll worry that friends and family don't like me any more or I've said or done something to upset them when in fact I haven't...I get really self-involved and withdraw. It's never really what I want to do but when I'm like that I have it in my head I've lost everyone and that noone's there for me. It sounds strange but it's true lol (true that I get that way)

My point is that you need to be positive and know that you are likeable...our minds play tricks on us sometimes and make us see our relationships (all different kinds of relationships) differently than they really are...the trick is to acknowledge it and not let it get you down. Having said that, tho, I know it's hard NOT to let it get you down when you're feeling that way

keep your chin up - the world loves you

Not fitting in isn't necessarily a bad thing.

You should celebrate your difference and remember what you do that no one else can do quite the same.

Just because you're having a rough time now doesn't mean you won't be having a blast down the road a bit-it's all just trying to see what happens.

Drink lots of Cherry Limeade, load up on cheese breadsticks, and if you're still able to walk-enjoy.



(Not that I'd know anything about this subject...)

subhuman09 said:

Just the name Cherry Limeade makes me it sounds so yummy!

Natisse said:

There's gotta be something in Australia at least like it, you think?

subhuman09 said:

I WISH!!!! if someone in Australia can find something even remotely like it I'll go down and buy 6 cartons of it right now I'm SO having some when I come to the US!

Natisse said:

Have to agree. (Sorry off subject) But Sonic's has the best CherryLimeade.

I miss them so.
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Natisse said:

I hope you get to! It's great stuff!

But to reply to the topic. I love that I'm unique and really couldn't give a flying **** if anyone likes me or not. It's their loss.

I've never been into cliques or those other types of social settings.

I'm just me and if you don't like it, .

Like Byron said, be yourself. Then you'll see who your friends really are.

CherryMoon said:

I make mine at home too with Minute Maid's Cherry Limeade (not frozen or concentrate, in the orange juice section).

That and Sprite will make them.

subhuman09 said:

Byron said:

listen to this wise man

And read your story I know you'll fit in right here at the org

Is it me or do most people who feel/have felt outta place at one time or another are Prince fans.

Makes you wanna say: "HMMMMM."

CherryMoon said:

You know it!

Thanks everybody for responding. Yep I guess I'm just low on confidence right now. OR Maybe I'm just having a case of the holiday blues although I usually really like Thanksgiving and Christmas? Well for sure, things will get better as all of you have said if I just don't worry about it, do my own thing, and "celebrate" and appreciate myself a bit more. AND mmmmm cherry Limeade and cheese breadsticks sound YUMMY!!!!

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone. :

''.....Positivity ain't about being soft, it's about being smart, u sucka!''


Stay positive.....I know it sounds shit but it's true.....Iam at college and iam not motivated at the mo', but deep down, even if I fail my A-levels I know my friends will be there.....I also know that I love being by myself sometimes too and i feel lucky 4 that!


I love to sleep to, sometimes I feel like it is the only true freedom u get in life.....