Ok so tell me what you think about friends who try to control your life. I have friends who try to get me to do things or not do things because they say they "care about me" but really sometimes I think they are just trying to control me to get me to do what they think is right. And I think this is even more strong with females because girl friendships are very loyal and hardcore soemtimes. I just don't know what to do with friends who think they can tell me what to do and then get mad when I don't do it!!!! Grr... sorry just had to let out my frustration! I need some cool chick friends!

I'd say and then do what I want, then again I don't have many friends

Ooh I have lots of friends like that. As a matter of fact, I have, well HAD, one in particular who thought she had to teach me things because being white and not exactly rich, I apparently am ignorant and devoid of all refinement. Can you imagine life with her? But she won't be talking to me anymore. I just finally got the courage to tell her off and oh boy was I mean. Whoops.

Don't let friends control you. Tell them if they care then they'll respect your feelings and back the hell off. They're welcome to make suggestions, but in the end your life is yours, not theirs.

Friends are not supposed to make you do or not do things. They are supposed to be there o give advice when asked for, and support you with whatever you decide to do, even if they don't agree about it.

dang, some of you all need to sneak up to some of these friends of yours and give them a good

hIsMiRRoR said:

good for you for standing up for yourself I recently did that except in a roundabout way after someone basically thought it was thier place to "teach me a lesson" and proceed to tell me they're not worried because they're not the one who's got bad karma coming to them...they're not part of my life any more which really upsets me but in the end I realise I'm better off that way

good on you!

hIsMiRRoR said:

Very good advice! Man I mean, this girl just wants to change me and make me have her values but I am me! I think it also can come down to jealousy too. I don't really want to tell her off but then again, I think a friendship shouldn't have to be THIS hard. I guess that's why being friends with boys tends to work better for me...

You cannot live for someone else period...your life is yours to do whatever you please with, and if they don't agree, they really need to respect what you are choosing to do which will tell you if they are truly good friends who care and accept you for what your are and choose to do.

jenet8701 said:

Sweetie, those r not friends. Friends, IMHO, let you be YOU,..nomatter what you choose in life. Friendships are about support, commitment, motivation, joy, happiness and freedom. (and a whole lot more)... So if these 'friends' love you for who YOU are,..then they should only respond with: "If that makes you happy,..then you have my full support". Because that is their only task. Of course they can warn you for possible wrong decisions you might make...but still... if you do what you think is right for your Self...they should support it. If it blows up in your face...they should be there for you. Those are about the only tasks a friend has for another friend: Respect, Love and Support.
Remember: Friends are the family you pick out yourself.

do what i do
don't have too many friends and the ones u do have be prepared to drop them the minute they piss you off, that's what i do.
cold and shallow i know