It's most likely because I think I am starting to realise the relationship I am in may not be right for me...

Maybe it's time I took off the rose tinted glasses and woke up to myself...Looking back I am not sure I got into the relationship for the right reason and now it's catching up with me.. It was just a matter of time before it did I guess..

Someone please tell me... how do you differentiate between trying to be an understanding and patient girlfriend to ignoring a gut instinct??

never ignore a gut instinct. But never rush out of something either, unless it's obvious that it's not right.

Then there's the issue of being in love, and loving someone.

Think of where you stand there. It's hard to stay in love with someone forever, but you can still love the person for eternity.

Thanks Heavenly.. well this is why I am having trouble... it's not completely obvious that it's not right.. and I do love him and care for him.

Then a little voice inside me props up and says "Hang on... is this the way it should be?"

Time will tell I guess... guardian angels.. if you're up there!? Please guide me in the right direction..

Heavenly is right.....Most of the time you have the answer already.....Actually sticking with the decision to stay or go is the difficult part....But I wish you the best cause to be honest it's you who will have to determine this....This situation is not an easy one to advise on cause only you know and feel what and how the situation is. I wish you the best....just try to make a decision that will be good for you in the long run as well as the short

Thank you Sinister your comment hit the nail on the head. I am truly touched by the time you guys have taken to offer advice and understanding. If nothing else I am enlightened knowing there are some beautiful souls out there...

FIML said:

Your very welcome pretty lady....and where is your picture!? I rather enjoyed looking at it obsesivly

I was going to put a new one up but never got around to it

Everyone's already said what I was going to say, so I just wanted to say good luck.

sinister said:

i second that.

sinister said:

Damn! I missed a picture of another beautiful lady?

Thanks Pantha You're right..I guess I just need to start being completely honest with myself and determine what is right for me..

Sometimes letting go is the hardest thing to do.

FIML said:

...i can relate....only im not the 'girlfriend'....im the 'wife'

BabyGirl said:

FIML said:

No one really has the answer to this question. This happens to EVERYONE...

FIML said:

hey stranger!!!! I hope you got my email the other night - I got your sms but don't have any credit I'm sorry

I hope you're OK sweetie - sounds like you're going through a tough time right now but I'm here if you need to talk

Thank you gorgeous girl I did get your e-mail the other night. Definitely talk to you soon

FIML said:

for sure

BabyGirl said:

Yes my sweet, I think we should have our own group and counsel each other, I was in you situation last year, still comes back and bites me in the butt, but I decided to stay with it, I think to be honest it was out of fear of not knowing anything else, and especially when you have a child.

What are the right reasons for getting in a deep relationship?.. I look back now and see why I needed to be in my relationship, but that was 17yrs ago, I was 13, I certainly dont feel like ive missed out on life and not lived,(like most who get hooked up young) even though I was 13 when we met,
I just want to be free, to be alone and do as I want, just with my daughter, but I cant hurt people and I am scared so I will stick where I am.and thats the decision I made last year.

so whats your situation now FIML?

damnedifido said:

it's so hard to do whats right for everyone, but people always get hurt you can't protect everyone from pain all of the time, think about yourself for a little bit and whats right for you

FIML said:

A ....what?!


Surely you are getting confused with Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy here....








Ahem, sorry.




My advice, for what it is worth, is to take time with this decision..

There are times in my marriage when I think to myself "What the HELL am I doing here?!" and then there are times when I know it is right for me and it is where I belong...

Sometimes we have a small blip that seems sooooo serious at the time but soon smoothes itself out..othertimes it's more serious than that and won't go away with time.


Guess you just have to wait and see which one it is.


Remember though, as long as you gave it a good shot, you did your best - If it turns out that you got to call it a day, that doesn't make you a bad person, or cruel. It just makes you human, like the rest of us..well, like most of us on the Org anyway!

Don't feel bad for the way you feel - after all, it's not your fault, is it?
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FIML said:

Why do you feel this relationship may not be right for you? What is the reason you got into the relationship? What is the gut instinct? The grass is always greener on the other side...

lollyp0p said:

Thank you sweet lollip0p...Im fine, made my decision, and I am happy


for now
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