sag10 said:

thank you for your input. i appreciate your thoughts.
the question though is....if you got along well with someone on here and eventually met. still hit things off, would you consider a 'real life' relationship?? or would you never let it get to that point.

lillith said:

Why not? People meet all sorts of ways (I should know, I'm in the bridal biz). If you felt a connection w/someone, via their words, why wouldn't you take the chance and meet them in-person? And if the chemistry was there in the flesh, why wouldn't you pursue it? What's the difference between meeting someone on La Org and in a bar (fer instance)?

I would never sleep with anyone from the org. that is just nasty


umm...well, unless they're females, and would let me have sex with them.

lillith said:

I guess it depends on what fate holds...

To be honest I wouldn't let it progress. I know me.

Heavenly said:

make up your mind, if its female and from the org would you?

ella731 said:

Of course I would
How can I ever say no? that wouldn't be polite, now, would it?

Ace said:

thats my question.
i don't meet people in bars. men don't approach me. my guys friends tell me its because i'm intimidating. i'm 6ft tall and i carry myself with confidence.
i meet more people online then in person. but, there are crazy people everywhere...its much easier to mislead someone online. its a leap of faith that i find very courageous and am curious to hear who has had that type of experience and how it has worked out.

sag10 said:

thank you for your honesty.

My boyfriend is an orger, but I did not meet him here .
I met another org couple once, but I don't know if they met on the org or not

lillith said:

I would disagree. I've heard some pretty tall tales told in bars.

lillith said:

I think meeting online gives you the time to learn the person's mind before the body, leading to a more spiritual relationship, instead of the physical.
About safety? You have all the time in the world to learn the person before you meet them. Except for one orger, I don't regret meeting all the ones I did. they're all beautiful souls

Ace said:

but i find its easier to tell if someone is being truthful to my face.

Ace said:

I think I have heard one to many in my time, I am soo skeptical anymore

Freespirit said:

So true

MarySharon said:

but just cause you live apart to begin with doesn't mean it has to stay that way

distance is nothing if you meet the person you are supposed to be with.

Heavenly said:

thank you very much for your input. its very helpful.
i find the dating scene very discouraging at the moment. i find i would rather just stay home and chat and flirt with my online friends. as i have said, i don't get approached in bars...i'm a great dancer, fairly good looking and i have self-confidence. men say that is what they are looking for in a woman...but i think thats bullshit. i like myself just the way i am...but i'm NOT a size 3. around here, thats all that matters. i am a tall (6ft), curvacious (180lbs), pretty woman. i can be myself online and i'm completely honest with those i speak to. i just hope that they are honest as well...





for those who DON'T know what i look like already...me in the car yesterday

lillith said:

It may be easier, but it is by no means any kind of guarantee (I've met some really slick liars).

Ace said:

you're absolutely right...but there are never any guarantees are there? i just think its very courageous of someone to put themselves out there enough to visit someone they have only ever spoken to online. maybe i'm just too cautious..

lillith said:

Well, I've got my chair with me, so I can stand on it and look you in the eyes.
Or let you sit on the chair while I stand and look you in the eyes, so you could tell when I'm honest or not.

lillith said:

but if you are looking for a relationship, or just happen to stumble across one, you don't just talk online and then a year later move in together you have a kinda progression

talking online
talking on the phone
meeting up
meeting up more ...

and all the time getting to know each other you don't start a relationship based on online interactions alone that would be very dangerous but i guess you get a feeling regarding the person anyway.

lillith said:

No - you can never be too cautious. Just be equally cautious with those online and those you meet elsewhere.

Ace said:

you really can't be too cautious i told every one i know where i was going

meet in public blah blah blah it can be dangerous if you do it wrong all kinda weirdos out there

Heavenly said:

so do you find a woman who is taller/bigger than you intimidating??

in my experience with men, (personnal opinion to follow) i find i am more attactive to black men. therefore i am more attracted to black men. maybe its just the caucasian men in my area but they seem to only want women who are 5 ft noting and 95 pounds. the (few) black men in my area appreciate a woman with curves and an ass and boobs.

lillith said:

Honestly? Yes. I find taller women a bit intimidating.
I'm also intimidated by women with much self confidence. but that's just because I'm not secure enough about myself.

lollyp0p said:

It's not that easy...


but thanks for your support

Heavenly said:

thank you. that actually makes me feel better. that its not that there is something wrong with me...its that there is something wrong with them.

i know i'm a great catch. i just want someone to try to catch me.

lillith said:

i hear ya. the intimidation factor can be hard to overcome, but i'm finding that people who know me well don't sweat it. hang in there, you'll find an awesome guy soon, i just know it!

MarySharon said:

Diva and Moonbeam

Pill and I

Who else?

Fleshofmyflesh said:

Flesh is my ORG LOVAH!