CarrieLee said:

It's a proven fact that domestic abuse happens when the HOME teams wins, vs the vistors....hmmmm.....CarrieLee a Sox fan??.....hmmmmm

bkw said:

True!

althom said:

Maybe had I disclosed what happened you would feel differently. But I agree, it was wrong. And after I left a message to him apologizing he called back crying and apologizing to me for what he did. It all happened so fast and I couldn't hold back. I should have just stuck to the weed instead of the martinis.

CarrieLee said:

I really hate what happened between the two of you, as it seems to have gotten the worst out of you both.

I could LA-DI-DA about violence not being the answer, but I know partly where you are, emotion-wise.

Anger, love and SUBSTANCES never work though... hard to keep yer head straight.

GooeyTheHamster said:

I agree. Frankly, for all the stuff you've put up with from him over the years...I can see you getting that angry...just about that!
I would just chalk it up to a lesson learned, sweetie I know you feel bad...and, well, if you didn't you wouldn't be the rational, wonderful person you are

althom said:

Yes, but men are, more often than not, more physically strong than women. That's where the difference lies. Also, the ratio of men physically abusing women compared to the opposite is MUCH higher. So, that could contribute to the perception of a double-standard.
[Edited 10/29/04 21:53pm]

applekisses said:

Ok! You have a good point there. I just don't like any type of violence, no matter what sex is doing it.
But I do think CarrieLee is a good person...so I don't want anyone to think that I'm haveing a go or judging her character.

althom said:

I hate violence too...of any kind. In fact, I rarely even raise my voice when I disagree with something (unless I'm talking with you ) But, we all make mistakes...ALL of us...and in the end as long as there is no permanent damage done, it's more about what we learn from them, I think.

applekisses said:

What was that about raising your voice to me?

althom said:

Oh...nothing...

Its ok it happens to all of us.

MostBeautifulGrlNTheWorld said:

It shouldn't!

althom said:

MostBeautifulGrlNTheWorld said:

althom said:

LICK ME!

MostBeautifulGrlNTheWorld said:

althom said:

I want a psycho-girlfriend too. At least I'd know she'd love me for real.

No more booze for you.

CarrieLee said:

Don't feel to bad about it. You are right, it's a bad thing to hit somebody, but some people just know exactly how to drive you mad.
I had to lurn how to become angry instead of frustrated (and from that agressive) If it happens to you often that you lose controle, maybe you should learn about the difference aswell.
Angry makes you calm and makes you not care about the person any longer.

Maybe you should have become realy angry with him?

CarrieLee said:

Yes, we lack any context I guess. I wasn't having a go at you though, more with the people who were posting on the thread.

It sounds like he's an ass.

It seems as if you have a lot of remorse. This is a good thing because your feelings are sincere. Many times there are people who are so quick to apologize but they really don't mean it. They lack the sincerity and ill feeling that your comments seemed to have. Emotions can get the better of any person and even with this you still need to be accountable for those actions. What's done is done and if you still actually care about this person then hopefully you can work this out.

If not take the high road and move on and use this as a learning experience.

CarrieLee said:

This has happened to some of my friends - and it's just a gut reaction that you can't help because you're durnk and uninhibited - but it's not a good thing for sure. However... it sounds like the relationship itself is very volatile and perhaps it's time to examine that and make some positive changes.

You seem like a pretty nice person... I wish you luck.
[Edited 11/30/04 18:47pm]