eye need help PLEASEEEEE


Here is the situation... eye'm friends with this guy. He lives with his girlfriend. They been 2gether 4 three years (living 2gether 1). He has never cheated on her, and he loves her. He seems 2 b more n2 her than she is n2 him. They r having problems tho, she moved out the house last Tues. he knows eye'm n2 him and he seems 2 be laying out a friendship platform with me in case his relationship with his girl does not work out. He is not friends with any girls that eye know of, eye never see him with any girl, eye'm like the only girl that he seems 2 talk 2. He's REALLY SHY. This GUY is FINE as hell! but he is so shy and down 2 earth about it's shocking! LOL Eye don't think he knows how hot he is (which makes him even sexier) He's been 2gether with this girl so long and eye don't think she lets him know how good he really is cuz when he talks about her it seems like she is in TOTAL control of the relationship (she seems 2 have a lot going 4 herself at a young age) in other words * she is driving the car * .....

Eye don't know what 2 do, cuz if their relationship is starting 2 break apart and he is confiding in me about it our FRIENDSHIP is going 2 get stronger and if he makes a move on me EYE AM NOT GOING 2 B ABLE 2 RESIST! But then again if she comes back 2 him then eye'll b like the rebound chick!

Eye could b really calculating about it and just go 4 it and cause HAVOC - major havoc in his relationship... eye could aim 4 my ...but eye don't want 2 b the "girl on the side" or a sex buddy that is soooo GROSS!

Eye want the whole friend, boy/girlfriend/fiance/wife routine eye want everything in writing and official! LOL eye don't know what 2 do

Lose the zero and get with THIS hero!

lol, you know what the right thing to do is rane, you don't need us to tell you...

Stay away from him.. find someone with less on his plate.

I know it sucks...but I also know you deserve better.

U could use this emo ---> instead of the word eye when posting. hope that helps.

magnificentsynthesizer667 said:

ever the helpful one!

magnificentsynthesizer667 said:

hehehehehe eye don't like the way it looks..... eye like "eye" mo' betta, that was helpful tho!

irresistibleb1tch said:

PrimeraDama said:

Well, just because someone gives you advice, doesn't mean you have to take it.

magnificentsynthesizer667 said:

irresistibleb1tch said:

What is that suppose to mean? "Talk to the polar bear paw"?

Sweeny79 said:

magnificentsynthesizer667 said:

try and pay a guy a compliment... sheesh!

irresistibleb1tch said:

that looks like a foot not a paw

PrimeraDama said:

9 entries found for paw

paw n. - The foot of an animal, especially a quadruped, that has claws or nails

PrimeraDama said:

it's a "bear foot" -- get it?! no shoes... ugh, i kill myself!

irresistibleb1tch said:

Sounds like a recipe for easily getting hurt, Primera.

If you don't make how you feel clear then you're only setting yourself up for headache-and disaster.

Getting in between it all is a bad idea, you've gotta know where ya stand and if they break up, well then you see what happens.

Waiting in the wings while their relationship falls apart is only going to drive you crazy if it never happens.

I'd stick with being friends and make sure you find out what's up.



(That and stop typing like Prince.)

just see how things pan out.

i mean, what else can you do?

either that, or start eating yourself. that's good too.

2 words

Butt Out!

Let this guy make the decisions for himself, dont push it, or him.

If it happens, it happens, but dont come between him and his g/f

I am gonna be a bit antagonistic here. Life is too short to stand back. If the GF is leading the show it sounds like this chap might just need the right prod to sort himself out. Just be there for him as a Friend, he will soon realise the long term GF is using him. Try to keep out of his pants for a while and once the GF is a thing of the past, make your move. If you wanna be a bit selfish and speed up the necessary, make you move when the time is right and take the consequences. Sounds like this guy needs some fun. I can't stand manipulative women

hate to be the bearer of bad news, but, as you say yourself, this guy loves his girlfriend, and even if they split and he wants you, these things take a long time to get over, and you would really be selling yourself short to go in and accept second best.
I'm not saying he would deliberately give you second best, but when you've just come out of a heavy relationship, that's about all you have left to give for the time being.
He sounds like a good guy, maybe even worth holding back and waiting for him to get over it. Just be careful, hope for the best, prepare for the worst and ... try to keep hold of a good friend, whatever else you become.

eye agree with every single one of ya'll posts..... Eye'm not getting in between their mess, eye'm gonna just let him come 2 me **IF** they break up


Thanx 4 the reality check - eye'm getting the same feedback at home, so eye ain't gonna argue no mo'! y'all r great!!

RocknRollDave said:

good lawd ain't that the truth!!

PrimeraDama said:

Most important thing is that YOU are OK.

Love and respect

PS that avatar of yours is DAMN sexy
[Edited 10/27/04 8:45am]

Recipe for DISASTER! You are too close to the situation and obviously "biased" with emotions all mixed up inside as well! LEAVE IT ALONE...PERIOD! And "every" man who is "hot"....knows what he's looking at in the mirror everyday. You cannot allow yourself to be that naive. I mean that in a good way baby....don't you come rushing at me girl. Austin Powers karate pose!! Whap!!

Don't jump in right away. Be confident and lay back. Let him make the first move. Tell yourself the world will go on if it doesn't work out between the two of you. Date other people. It's a win-win.