thesexofit said:

Do what you want with others, just keep away from my kid. (And I'm not a prude. It wouldn't be so bad if she and a boy her age wanted to engage in some mutual "discovery", it's the imbalance in age and experience that makes it seem predatory.)
[Edited 10/7/04 8:04am]

Iam 18 and I'd never touch a 14 or 15 yr old! And when iam 20 I'd never any teen eva! And more importantly, i wouldn't want to either!


Iam just saying 4 the millionth time that girls lie when they wanna sleep with u, and have done to me.....and many others Iam sure?

thesexofit said:

Your attitude and opinions are pretty damned scary, the fact you openly say this shit on a forum

Maybe we should have some input from a girl around thesexofit's age. I'm 19. So obviously, it's only been 5 years since I was 14. My friends vary in age, the youngest of whom just turned 15 last week.

I'm not sure how we're suuposed to interpret what he's been saying, but here's my on the matter:

YES Some young girls, even as young as 11 or 12, are having sex.

YES Most that young are lying about their age and sleeping with older boys, even men.

YES for some reason or another, girls are developing faster, making it easier to lie about their age.

I'm not saying it's right, I'm saying that's just how it is.

meow85 said:

I was just about to say the same thing basically, I've worked with kids varying in age between 11 and 16, and some girls that weren't "mine" and even younger than 11 were using make up, dressing more like teenage girls, and there were rumours going about which I knew to be true. It depresses me, I had my reasons for not being a child when I grew up, but I think that society's become harsher and less sensitive to the fact that a child needs to be a child for as long as possible. I think it has to do with the increased external input today's kids are exposed to, like the internet. It used to take time for trends and the sort to reach kids, now it's there at the click of a button.
It saddens and scares me, I'm about to become an aunt and that child, whether a boy or a girl, WILL have a childhood. My sister and her boyfriend are responsible adults and will be great parents, but I'll be the meanest aunt EVER if anybody does shit to my niece/nephew

Teacher said:

..and for this... this child will be blessed!

Teacher said:

I'm trying to empathise here, but I'm 23 so a little older than thesexofit. Plus I've never slept with any girls, only one woman.

I understand that girls of 13, 14 and 15 can of course be very attractive and can also dress to look older and lie about their age. I think the attractiveness for guys often comes from the ease with which they can be manipulated. For a guy of 19 or 20 it is an easier proposition to be with a young girl if for whatever reason he's not able to have a relationship with someone his own age.

One thing that strikes me is that although a 14 year can look older and lie about their age it's still always obvious they are a young girl. Even if they looked 16 you would have to ask the question once the guy is getting to 18 or 19, why are they attracted to younger girls and not those their own age?

Thesexofit says once he's 20 he won't sleep with a teen. This comes across as rather odd. How can you make a statement like that? It's like you're suggesting it's something you will automatically try to give up when u reach that age, like you already think what u're doing is wrong. This might betray the presence of a deeper problem.

The law doesn't even tell the half of it. What we're dealing with is something psychological. There are those that as they get older start to date older girls, but also those that when 18 sleep with 15 year olds and find themselves wanting to still as they get older. There's no doubt that there is something wrong with a 25 year old sleeping with a 16 year old. This is more unhealthy to me than a 15 year old and 14 year old experimenting a little too early.

To thesexofit I would say be careful and do try to think about what you want in a relationship and why you want it. If you sleep with such young girls you will get lied to and will find yourself in such situations. There are plenty of girls your own age. Why exactly is it that you're sleeping with younger girls? Make sure their lies are not simply acting as a kind of affirmation of your innocence in this to tame your guilt. You know when you're sleeping with a young girl whatever age they tell you.