can men and women just be friends? i have 2 ,male friends at work and i swear i treat them like im their older sister.....BUT the idiots i work with have questioned me about the relationship i have with these 2 guys.....i know what it is they have no life of their own that they have to stick their noses in my life. these are the comments i have heard "u exude body language that makes us think u want guy #1" and "do u and guy him have a thing going...look of shock on my face, me saying im married and we are just friends then today the sweet innocent(or so i thought) older man at the door says to me, "does your husband work here?" i said no then he says "oh your boyfrind" again i saw no.... then i said u know men and women can be friends without any thing going on...i have made some changes in my life and attitude from when i first strated working there maybe thats what the problem is. well i will not change back to frumpy old stick in the mud melissa for anyone they can all kiss my ass thank u for listenting to me blow off steam i hope its not to hard to undersatnd, i kinda run together sometimes

You definately have the right attitude..

I have many friends that are female, but I'd never want to be anything more with them even if I was single. I know them too well to know that things just wouldn't work out. However, they're great for friends, though.

3mta3 said:

I don't think them kissing your ass will help much in the argumen of just being friends, since most people will consider that action sexual.

Yes, men and women can just be friends, but I think there will always be some hidden sexual tension. maybe even unnoticeable, but I think it's there.

I have never been able to keep a guy friend because they end up liking me. Then when I turn them down,they get mad at me

YES THEY CAN!!!


But....

I think,and it has been my experience, that in every friendship between a straight man and a straight woman there is a certain amount of sexual tension. It's all up to if, or how, you express those thoughts and desires.

I always think " Just how complicated do you want this to get?", sometimes the chance of losing the friendship is just too great to go down that road.

That's just my

ps:

There have been times I wish I had not gone down that road, cuz I have lost some really cool people over some dumb ass romantic bullshit.

thank u for the input, i just get so tired of the people at work sticking their noses in like that. maybe im niave as to the sexual tension and they see something i dont.

I dunno Melissa, I have never had a female friend where there wasn't significant sexual attraction..... I would say it is difficult at best....

I'll add that this isn't any of their business and you can tell them from me to go piss up a tree..

kendogg said:

co- piss up a tree

having mostly male friends I can tell you its very possible...and who cares what people think

kendogg said:

BabyGirl said:

well I still want you in my bed

Heavenly said:

Heavenly said:

is that so?

kendogg said:

Ummm second that... well not your bed Heavenly...

BabyGirl said:

Always

Heavenly said:

makin a mental note

BabyGirl said:

no need for a mental note. it's already written here in this thread

Heavenly said:

cmere you

i lost a very dear friend because his girlfriend made him choose...

emm said:

aww girlie he made a bad choice

BabyGirl said:

careful, I'm shy

BabyGirl said:

Yeah he did..... loser.... lemme at him!

Heavenly said:

yea yea me too lol

BabyGirl said:

Maybe he made the right choice. because if he chose to lose her, then obviously he's not a real friend. So it's better this way.

kendogg said:

thanks!

....it can get kinda sticky emm

I fell in love with my best friend....told him exactly how i felt....and we were both 'playin' a good bit then....well he was hesitant.....so a lil while later i got married, then he tells me hes in love with me too ...but i had to tell him it was too late and I was married to another man Most Men suck!
[Edited 10/4/04 17:48pm]

emm said:

Awwww you know you rock emm... if you ever see him give'em a smack for me!