does it really help to go out and date ?? or is it best to nurse your broken heart till you are completely over it ??

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nakedpianoplayer said:

hell yes it helps I think, its called rebound baby rebound

ella731 said:

well thats not good.. then it would never last

I thonk you should do whatever you FEEL like doing - if you're up for a date, then go for it. If you just want to be with friends and have fun - do that. But if you need to mourn a lost love, allow yourself time for that too. Love will come again... sometimes when you least expect it!

nakedpianoplayer said:

no it wouldnt last but hell you should be having a litle fun while you are trying to get over your ex

luv4u said:

its ok honey.....

I just don't want to think about anything like that. It's too painful.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

im sorry honey

One date won't help much, but a whole bunch of dates sure will!

Sweeny79 said:

thats what I said

Abbie said:

what she said

ok.. so, you are thinking of someone else, but dating someone completely different....

is that fair ??

i mean, to both sides.. the unknown guy, he gets the goods and emotions that the other guy should have ....
the first guy, he loses all the stuff he worked to achieve though, i guess if the guy wanted all that he "worked" for, he'd be here gettin it huh ???

man, why are matters of the heart so complicated ???

Sweeny79 said:

nakedpianoplayer said:

you have to do what makes you happy. life is too short to sweat the small stuff.

HollowellSA said:

so true girl

nakedpianoplayer said:

go out and date hon...without sounding tragic that's the story of my life always wanting the guy I can't have - it hurts like hell especially when you see them or hear of them with someone else but you DO move on and it does get easier

there's someone out there for YOU and who deserves to be in love with YOU

until that time comes, tho, don't settle for second best because you deserve the VERY best

MarySharon said:

I hate this subject. I'm dealing with it right now Get out and date my sweet. Don't waste your time. I'm trying not too

nakedpianoplayer said:

I don't know. I still haven't tried dating and it's been like a year and a half since she became unavailable for good. Still got a broken heart, still want her, still love and in love with her.

I'd start with the most difficult, harshest reality: that's life. That's the politics, baby. If u start from that basis then coping becomes easier.

I would let the reality sink in, but not too long. Just long enough to where you no longer feel that you have avoided it. Then get on with finding the other options available to you. It hurts even while you're seeing other people, I am sure, but you will cope and you will adjust. If you are blessed, and I believe you are, then you will stumble upon that good person who is good for you and good to you.

i so understand this predicament, and wish i had an answer. id give it to myself

Just stay home, watch porn, drink beer and masturbate.

By the way, you can insert the above as an answer to almost any problem.

Good luck!

Dating other people while you're nurisng your broken heart takes away the sting for a while, but you cant usually get serious about someone if you still carry a torch for someone else. I did this before...and it can be VERY painful.

it just feels empty... although a good chat does wonders.

there are really only two options that you've got.

1) you can stay home and focus all your spare attention on something that is not going to be.

2) you can meet other people and enjoy their company.

either decision will not change what is into what can never be so you need to do what's best for you. sometimes what is best feels wierd but anything new always feels a little wierd at first.

I'm tellin ya!

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