I feel so hurt and angry.I have been married to my husband for 4 yrs and together for 6 yrs and he tells me today he loves me but hes not in love with me.I know he wants us to break up.He just acts like i am this evil person.He says that everyday when he comes home that all i do is complain and i am depressed.Well u would be depressed to if u never got a kiss,hug or sex and if u felt like a stranger.I have been crying all day cause i think its finally going to end and i feel like i am losing my best friend.I have never been so hurt in my entire life.Feels like my heart is being torn in pieces.Just thought i would share this with everyone i really need some love right now and i know this is the place to find it.
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I hear ya.

SoulSanctuary said:

Have you tried couples therapy?

I hope the pain is gone quickly and you find happiness in yourself or in someone that can truly appreciate you.



(Therapy might be a good idea, but if not-remember things unfortunately sometimes have to get worse before they get better and where they're supposed to be. Hang in there.)

I'm sorry for your troubles.
Ion your profile it says you're 22. so that means you married at the age of 18. that is a very young age to settle down. you have your whole life ahead of you, so make sure you spend it around people who appreciate who you are and what you do.

Heavenly said:

So sorry to hear this, that is a tough thing to have to go through.

I havent got my profile up to date i am 23 married at age 19.I wanted to try therapy but he says there is nothing wrong.I guess he just doesnt see it.All i want is for him to love me like he used to.

sorry for your loss. won't help any, especially coming from an online stranger, but if you've been unhappy, maybe a bit of distance will help you both? hope it workds out for you

sorry about your troubles. maybe this is just a test for you guys, to see if you both will be able to weather the storm. but if not, then maybe its time to move on. why stay with someone who doesn't appreciate who you are? people fall in love with people they think are "the one" for them all the time, and most of the time they find they are wrong, not saying that this is your case, but it does happen. Make sure u love yourself enough to know how much you are worth and make sure that, that other person in your life thinks that you are worth that much too.

Good Luck

I am not sure your of your faith or if you have any at all- but what always helps me feel better when my heart is bleeding is knowing and believing that,

"God does not present you with things that you are not strong enough, smart enough, and amazing enough to overcome!"

I have a shoulder to lean on and I also have ears that work very well---> I would look silly if I didn't have ears! Did ya smile?

I worked my first job in my field as a marriage counselr- I have seen it all, been there, heard it, and am more than happy to help you... a fellow orger, a friend... if you need me.

Tommorrow is a new day full of new opportunities, new ideas, new beauties, and new joy... it is a day that is new to you, never been seen before, and just waiting for you to conquer it!

God Bless you and be with you in your time of despair...

Aww, you poor Soul. Hey, you know, it was between da ages of say 20 and 22 dat i had a humungous "growth spurt" in as far as gettin 2 know myself is concerned. It'z amazing what dat two yearz did to me. Everybody's life and situation is different and so forth, so i'm gonna give you this advice, if you choose to heed it, totally your choice But, you should go and find out some thingz dat you like. Find some kinda hobbiez n stuff...find out a bit more about YOU as a sole person. When ya do dat, it really putz thingz into perspective. You stop feelin you're some bad person...and for once you can actually justify yourself confidently...therefore your sense of self-secureness is much more stronger and situations like these will be easier to deal with, simply because you have da CONFIDENCE in your own mind and soul to think for yourself and be able to not feel ashamed to speak it out, and not have your wordz trampled on.

Please smile and wipe those tears...life's too short

Hang in there

SoulSanctuary said:

sweetie...why haven't you called me??? you know regardless of anything thats happened in the past i consider you an incredibly good friend of mine...please get in touch.

Love E.

Do you still love him?

These things take time to resolve.Maybe it's a good thing you both have put your cards on the table.Good luck, i know what your going through.Keep yourself strong, in the end things will be 4 the better.

I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles.

I had an similar experience with a long-term boyfriend who broke my heart. I kept trying to make things better. I kept thinking our problems were MY fault. All the effort that I put into fixing our relationship made the break-up even worse.

Anyway, I finally went to a psychologist/therapist to sort out my feelings and help me deal with the pain of breaking-up with the person that I thought was the love of my life. It was the best thing that I have ever done for myself. She "prescribed" a number of books for me to read. Our sessions were spent discussing chapters and their relationship to my situation and my life. We also spent some time discussing some issues from my childhood that I had never addressed. It was with her help that I finally realized that the relationship was bad, not necessarily the people that were involved. She really helped me move on and become stronger in regard to dealing with my emotions.

In fact, around a year later, I met my future husband. We dated for a couple of years and married, so we've been together close to 10 years now. I truly believe that going to this therapist and learning more about myself helped me become a stronger person. I'm not saying that all of my problems have magically disappeared or that therapist helped me find a man to "rescue" me from being single because marriage and any relationship for that matter can be difficult at times. But due to taking a break from dating and spending some time investigating my needs, fears, and experiences have helped me deal with accept the difficulties life brings and cherish the joy.
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