I just dont know where 2 begin!! I just feel as though my whole life is out of control!! I just feel as though my whole world has gone 2 pieces!! My husband is sick and disabled with diabetes and other health complications!! My husband is constantly either in foul moods or is always sick!! At times he doesnt treat me as a husband should do!!

My son just doesnt listen 2 us, particularly me and he spends less and less time at home, and he is virtually his own boss now and even gets what HE wants now for his dinner instead of eating what I cook!!

My Spirituality is at an all time low!! Lower than its ever been before!!

My life is going nowhere!! I dont have any purpose in Life!! I feel as though I have wasted my entire Life not doing anything!! I dont get anything accomplished!!

I have let myself go in some ways, physically, mentally, emotionally and Spiritually!!

Everything 2 me just seems such an effort 2 do!! I just dont have the energy for anything!!

I guess, all I want is just a listening ear, thats all!!

Lemme give u some tough luv sweetheart

"Life is what you make it"
If u're unhappy do something about it

Ive been in the dumps lately myself but Im changing it
Everything will be ok

It's time to call Dr. Phil

seriously, if you are truly depressed, try antidepressants, at least for a while...they can do wonders to solve these kinds of issues, along with some good therapy...i took them at one time and i know of others who've had success with them...if you are depressed that is and the definition of which is whether or not you've been sad for a few days, or a few weeks. if it's a few weeks, seek help!

hang in there!

Gold, If you wanna talk send me an orgnote

try to be draw positive strength from somewhere, anywhere!
i wouldnt know how difficult your plight might may be and i know its the easiest for me to just to sit here and give you generalized advice, but mate you must try and make yourself, your mind strong to pull you and your family out of this.

investigate and try different methods. don't lose HOPE! becauce then you've lost everything.

all the best to you mate, look after yourself

Life's a bitch.....I couldn't agree more! I seem to have lost my girlfriend, who I really love....I wonder why I always fuck up, or is it really me?

Anyway, Gold319, keep it up, we have to go on!

Gold319 said:

Is this real?

Gold319 said:

seems like u are having a rough time. it sounds similar to what my mother went through when my dad had cancer. it looks as though you are concentrating on the negative side of the situation instead of seeing some light in it to keep u moving on.

Remember this is just a bump in the road for you in your life at the moment, it won't last forever. Be happy that your husband is still here on earth living, even though he may not be feeling well, it is probably a sign of him worried about himself or worried about you or. Maybe its pride of you having to take care of him when he can't take care of himself. Whatever the reason might be, you must continue to have faith in him.

If you feel like your husband is being mean and honorary, then just have a talk with him when its just the two of you alone and his pain has somewhat whimpered away for the time being. Or try talking about the good times in your marriage. If none of this works, you may want to talk to a counselor to get things off of your chest.

My mom was in a similar position as well while my dad was terminally ill, and he lost his battle with cancer 3 years ago. When he passed, it was a very difficult thing to deal with. All i could think about was when i would go out with my friends to take my mind off of things, i should have been there. I felt guilty and i had to talk to a counselor about that too.

Your son may be acting the way he is just to avoid the hurt and pain he may feel. Men don't like to talk about their emotions so it may be hard for him to express how he feels. But it never hurts to have a talk with him as well.

All i can say is to just have faith that this time will pass over soon. Good times will be here again, but not on your time. You have to be patient. Good things come to those who wait....

Hope this helps...

R, hey there. I wish I had the magic words to make things better for you and your family - but unfortunately I don't. If you want to talk, you've seen there's decent people here at the Org willing to lend an ear. I'll do the same.
Just keep this in mind: today is not forever. When thing's seem down, just remember that they won't last forever. Try to keep yourself busy by doing things that bring you joy.

If your son doesn't listen to you and he's already 17 or so, then it's not the easiest thing in the world to get him to listen to you now.

I think if you feel really down you should try to seek some help by talking to a professional. Sometimes the best thing is just to discuss with someone who knows what to say.

Do try and take care and don't lose hope. Never.

-J

First, and foremost make some time for yourself..

Go for walks, everyday.... and ponder this life that you have chosen.

It may not seem so bad.

I hear u ! 5 years of my relationship down the fucking drain. It's been a long break up but now its official. Long ass story, but fuck im glade its over and I can move the fuck on. Find some1 who is a prince fan and respects me.

Gold319 said:

Ok i feel u on this honey! I went throught the same thing. It hard to even get up in the morning but u must make urself at times and just find a higher power.

Gold319 said:

I think posting your personal problems on here is absolutely crazy, you need counselling and medication. Do you treat your husband as a wife should or just spend all day online talking in this fantasy world instead of looking after him.

Wake up and smell the roses, none of these people are gonna help you, only you can.