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PrintableI plan on taking my husbands name.. I love the idea of carrying something of his.. and i think its sweet... The day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom - Anais Nin
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POOK said: applekisses said: I'm a writer too and, for that reason, I probably won't change my name if I get married. The "by-line" makes up my portfolio. My sister says it's important to have the same last name as your kids. I do agree with that...maybe a comprimise would be to hyphenate the last name of the kids  Or, maybe I would hypenate mine. I dunno. It's all speculation at this point... 
My best friend kept her name (she's a journalist as well) and her son has her hubby's last name. I'm not sure I'd like that for me. HEY POOK KNOW DOCTOR WHO MARRY CHIROPRACTOR AND RUN OFFICE TOGETHER! WELL IT GET CONFUSING WITH TWO DOCTOR SMITH RUNNING AROUND SO GIRL DOCTOR CHANGE NAME LEGALLY BUT USE MAIDEN NAME FOR PRACTICE! JUST LIKE STAGE NAME POOK...are you trying to get me to change my name  I know someone who did that too...another journalist friend of mine. She used her maiden name at work and her married name for other "legal" reasons.
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If I marry my boyfriend (and he has asked me) and my name were to be hyphenated it would be so friggin long! ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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PREDOMINANT said: ..or wife’s for that matter.
First - What are your thoughts on this. My wife took mine for everything except her work, she qualified under her maiden name so she keeps it for work. I didn't mind either way. But I asked her last night what if I had a weird second name like Ramsbottom or Dickin, would she have been less inclined to change? She said it was hypothetical and stupid, so I thought I would put it to the org
Second - If you don't consider taking your husbands name, what do the kids end up being called? I don't believe in women changing their names just because they got married, Names should be hyphenated or combined by both parties, never changed by one I don't believe that children should have their father's last "just because." Both parents are equal and the woman's last name is no less valuable than the man's. It's a sexist tradition. I think the child should have a combination of both names or a separate last name | |
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Hyphenating names is goofy. What are we going to do when the kids from these marriages start marrying each other? Smith-Barnum-Hegginbotham-Wilder? What about the generation after that? I mean, seriously?
I kept my name when I got married. Saw no reason to change it, he didn't care, and the spelling of his last name is difficult. Mine is too, but at least I'm used to mine. In Slovakia, where he's from, it's still quite uncommon for women to keep their names, so his relatives there just don't seem to GET it; we get mail addressed to just his last name all the time. Not worth fussing about, imho. AAAAaaannnndddd, because Matt and I are on a mission to confuse the world entirely, I am planning to take his last name in the future, regardless of my maritial status.  | |
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applekisses said: POOK said: HEY POOK KNOW DOCTOR WHO MARRY CHIROPRACTOR AND RUN OFFICE TOGETHER! WELL IT GET CONFUSING WITH TWO DOCTOR SMITH RUNNING AROUND SO GIRL DOCTOR CHANGE NAME LEGALLY BUT USE MAIDEN NAME FOR PRACTICE! JUST LIKE STAGE NAME POOK...are you trying to get me to change my name I know someone who did that too...another journalist friend of mine. She used her maiden name at work and her married name for other "legal" reasons.
It was too confusing. NAH APPLE DO WHAT SHE WANT! P o o |/, P o o |\ | |
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J0eyC0c0 said: She'll have to take my last name or else the wedding is off.
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I'll keep my own name. I don't want kids, but if I ever had them I'd say they would take the Father's name.  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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kisscamille said: I took my husbands name when we married because it was easier to pronounce than my own last name. It's also a very Scottish name which I liked too. I think it's cool that some women keep their maiden name, but it's the hyphenated names that I can't stand (no offence to anyone). I think it's ridiculous to hyphenate your name. Some sound so silly and others are just a mouthful to get out. IMO - either keep your own or take his, but don't hyphenate.
What's your take on hyphenating the kid's names? My parents both kept their own names, and my sister and I got the combo deal. So what if it's pretentious? I like it.  "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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Janfriend said: PREDOMINANT said: ..or wife’s for that matter.
First - What are your thoughts on this. My wife took mine for everything except her work, she qualified under her maiden name so she keeps it for work. I didn't mind either way. But I asked her last night what if I had a weird second name like Ramsbottom or Dickin, would she have been less inclined to change? She said it was hypothetical and stupid, so I thought I would put it to the org
Second - If you don't consider taking your husbands name, what do the kids end up being called? I don't believe in women changing their names just because they got married, Names should be hyphenated or combined by both parties, never changed by one I don't believe that children should have their father's last "just because." Both parents are equal and the woman's last name is no less valuable than the man's. It's a sexist tradition. I think the child should have a combination of both names or a separate last name Co-sign! The traditon of a man's wife and children taking his names is here because, up until relatively recently, a man's family was his legal property. They were things to owned, not people to be loved. And that's the main reason I've decided to keep my own name if I ever get married. Not sure what would be done about the kids, but I have heard of families in similar situations who make up an entirely new surname out of the parent's names for their kids i.e. Nelson + Washington = Nelsing. That and I happen to like my name as it is.  "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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meow85 said: Janfriend said: I don't believe in women changing their names just because they got married, Names should be hyphenated or combined by both parties, never changed by one I don't believe that children should have their father's last "just because." Both parents are equal and the woman's last name is no less valuable than the man's. It's a sexist tradition. I think the child should have a combination of both names or a separate last name Co-sign! The traditon of a man's wife and children taking his names is here because, up until relatively recently, a man's family was his legal property. They were things to owned, not people to be loved. And that's the main reason I've decided to keep my own name if I ever get married. Not sure what would be done about the kids, but I have heard of families in similar situations who make up an entirely new surname out of the parent's names for their kids i.e. Nelson + Washington = Nelsing. That and I happen to like my name as it is. Good, but who goes first in the hybrid name? just being awkward now Happy is he who finds out the causes for things.Virgil (70-19 BC). Virgil was such a lying bastard! | |
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PREDOMINANT said: meow85 said: Co-sign! The traditon of a man's wife and children taking his names is here because, up until relatively recently, a man's family was his legal property. They were things to owned, not people to be loved. And that's the main reason I've decided to keep my own name if I ever get married. Not sure what would be done about the kids, but I have heard of families in similar situations who make up an entirely new surname out of the parent's names for their kids i.e. Nelson + Washington = Nelsing. That and I happen to like my name as it is. Good, but who goes first in the hybrid name? just being awkward now 
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Maybe it's a silly question, but what happens with a child with a hyphenated last name (jones-smith) marries someone with a hyphenated last name (adams-clark)? Do they each just pick one and then hyphenate (ie jones-clark)? Just curious what peeps would do in that situation..... | |
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I'm planning on taking my wife's name. | |
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ReturnOfDOOK said: Maybe it's a silly question, but what happens with a child with a hyphenated last name (jones-smith) marries someone with a hyphenated last name (adams-clark)? Do they each just pick one and then hyphenate (ie jones-clark)? Just curious what peeps would do in that situation.....
If I were to marry someone with a hyphenated name, I'm not sure what we'd do. I'm keeping my last name, no matter what. He or she can do whatever they want. You're right though, Jones-Higginbottom-Brownly-Keap would be pretty silly. Only royalty can get away with that many names without sounding like a twat. [Edited 9/17/04 17:37pm] "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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meow85 said: Janfriend said: I don't believe in women changing their names just because they got married, Names should be hyphenated or combined by both parties, never changed by one I don't believe that children should have their father's last "just because." Both parents are equal and the woman's last name is no less valuable than the man's. It's a sexist tradition. I think the child should have a combination of both names or a separate last name Co-sign! The traditon of a man's wife and children taking his names is here because, up until relatively recently, a man's family was his legal property. They were things to owned, not people to be loved. And that's the main reason I've decided to keep my own name if I ever get married. Not sure what would be done about the kids, but I have heard of families in similar situations who make up an entirely new surname out of the parent's names for their kids i.e. Nelson + Washington = Nelsing. That and I happen to like my name as it is. Many people forget about the property thing. I had an argument with someone who said "but it's not that way anymore" and then in the same convo said "It's tradition" Well hell, which tradition are you following here? | |
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I am so old fashioned. Women sould take name.... it is just my feeling. I come from a feminist family and I am not at all- please allow me to stay home with the kids... I want to cook for my man... Let me do the laundry or someone will ruin my clothes!!!!! It is all part of how I FEEL it should be.... but I am also single- maybe men want a woman who wears pants. "It's only been an hour since you left me, but it feels like a million days...... I'd crawl on my belly and beg you but you're so far away."  | |
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MNlivingCA said: I am so old fashioned. Women sould take name.... it is just my feeling. I come from a feminist family and I am not at all- please allow me to stay home with the kids... I want to cook for my man... Let me do the laundry or someone will ruin my clothes!!!!! It is all part of how I FEEL it should be.... but I am also single- maybe men want a woman who wears pants.
AS opposed to being barefoot and pregnant? Then yes, I'm sure most men do. That's as it should be. [Edited 9/22/04 21:12pm] "A Watcher scoffs at gravity!" | |
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