So what if a guy you liked and liked you came over to your house and things heated up between you two but you tried to stop it before it got out of hand, but he doesnt listen and contiues on. So you let him go a little further but still dont want to go all the way when suddenly he does go ALL THE WAY and you beg and plead and cry for him to stop but he continues and tries to talk you into it and over powers you. He eventually stops but damage is already done.
And your were a virgin. And you wind up "dating" the guy but still is hung up over the fact that you may have been forced to give it up...was it consenual?

Doesn't sound like it to me.

erm

are you really asking

the answer is obvious

NO IT ISN'T

Absolutely not

that's practically a definition of non-consensual.

no.

Thanx. Thats what I thought.

Yep, no is no!

Hey 4F leader!

Been there, done that, and no it's still rape.

CherrieMoonKisses said:

Sounds like rape to me. Not consensual.

My ex-wife "lost" her virginity in that very scenario... ...and it was shortly after her older brother had died in a car crash...and it was one of her brother's friends. It was moments like these in her life, which I know now caused me to want to "protect" her and "rescue" her...even if I didn't love her.

consensual??...No, not in my eyes.

Byron said:

Byron, that sounds so similar to my situation, and your reactions sound exactly like mine also.....

why is life so god damned fucked sometimes??

CinisterCee said:

Let me tell you about a girl I know,
Had a drink about an hour ago.
Sitting in a corner by herself, in a bar in downtown hell.

She heard a noise and she looked through the door.
And saw a man she’d never seen before.
Light skin, light blue eyes, a double-chin and a plastic smile.
Well, her eyebrow raised as he walked through the door
And took an empty seat next to her at the bar.
’my brand new car is parked right outside. how’d ya like to go for a ride? ’
And she said.’wait a minute I have to think.’
He said, ’that’s fine. may I please buy you a drink’
One drink turned into 3 or 4 and they left and got into his car
And they drove away someplace real far.

Now babe the time has come.
How’d ya like to have a little fun?
And she said.’ if we could only please be on our way, I will not run.’

That’s when things got out of control.
She didn’t want to, he had his way.
She said, ’let’s go’
He said, ’no way!’
Come on babe it’s your lucky day.
Shut your mouth, were gonna do it my way.
Come on baby don’t be afraid,
If it wasn’t for date rape I’d never get laid.

He finished up and he started the car
He turned around and drove back to the bar.
He said.’now baby don’t be sad, in my opinion you weren’t half-bad.’
She picked up a rock.,threw it at the car, hit him in the head, now his got a big scar.
Come on party people won’t you listen to me.
Date rape stylie.

The next day she went to her drawer, looked up her local attorney at law,
Went to the phone and filed the police report and then she took the guy’s ass to court.
Well, the day he stood in front of the judge he screamed, ’ she lies that little slut!’
The judge knew that he was full of shit and he gave him 25 years
And now his heart is filled with tears.

That night in jail it was getting late.
He was butt-raped by a large inmate, and he screamed.
But the guards paid no attention to his cries.

That’s when things got out of control.
The moral of the date rape story, it does not pay to be drunk and horny.
But that’s the way it had to be.
They locked him up and threw away the key.
Well, I can’t take pity on men of his kind,
Even though he now takes it in the behind.
[Edited 9/9/04 18:05pm]

CherrieMoonKisses said:

Cherrie if this has happened to you or someone you know REPORT IT...it's never too late

it shouldn't happen and noone deserves to be treated that way

seeing someone,dating someone, even married if you say no and they still proceed
it's still rape. If this has happened to you I am deeply sorry

CherrieMoonKisses said:

hmmmm

NO

maybe even rape ~shrugs~

but you continued to date ....

~ shakes her head ~

If the woman was crying, begging, and PLEADING for the man to stop and he didn't, it sounds like a rape to me.

Why anybody would willingly continue to date a man who did that to them perplexes me, though.

SnowQueen said:

why any man would continue outrages me

This sounds like William Kennedy Smith's case.

Um, I mean the present case -- not the old one.

CherrieMoonKisses said:

Did that person kick, bite, pound her fist on him and scream?



And the person winds up dating the guy?

Come on now!!!