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PrintableSweeny79 said: bkw said: On a serious note i vote for the ignore him reaction. But why??? Why do people have to act all stupid....just because we were involved don't mean that we have to act like we never met. Does it?  Hey Sweeny  Why do people act all stupid, Dunno, but people make there choices for whatever reason, good and bad.
You seem to be dealing with the situation, so you just carry on as you are. As Joey says, in time things will sort themselves out. Even if it does mean that you don't really speak or summin. It would be sad to lose a friend like this, but this can happen sometimes. Try and roll with it and hope things settle down for the better. Take care   Mada, Yeah thats me. AND WHAT | |
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 it's hard to deal with a break-up as it is, but it's even harder when you have to face the other person at work every day.
i'd like to think that he's dealing with the situation to the best of his ability, and he may need some room and time to work things out. a possessive/jealous person tends to internalize things to a higher degree than others, and it may take them that much longer to adjust to a new situation. good luck! | |
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Sweeny79 said: Ok as I said i haven't seen this guy all summer....Today i did.
At first the mother fucker tried to walk right past me, like he didn't know me!  Maybe he just didn't think it was the right time to say anything to you or he just didn't feel like being a retard and be fake nice and shit... Now, sweeny been down THAT road before and I was not gonna have another fool treat me like that so I was REAL friendly, Got in his face and said Hello.
Wrong move period... The guy was probably trying to avoid/neglect you for a reason... Things were cordial and I was happy.....then during a faculty meeting the fucker is staring at me, My friend was even passing me notes saying "when is the boy gonna get over you?"
Could be because you got up in his face and got real friendly... Or not... Guess you'll never know... I ignored it best I could ... then as I was leaving to go home at the end of the day he walks past me and AGAIN tries to ignore me, AGAIN, Sweeny been down that road before and I ain't having it. I got in his face again and said Have a goodnight Mr.
 , he smiles like I called him out o something said Goodnight and that was it.Why not just let the guy be?? You getting up up in that guy's face everytime he strolls passed you is not exactly cool or easy on him... Or is it just an ego thing when people neglect you? I do not want to rekindle any romantic/sexual feelings I just want to be cool with him.
This takes time... Apparently it's not as hard on you as it is on him, just let him make a friendly gesture first instead of you "forcing" him to be friendly to or to notice you... Neversin. O(+>NIИ<+)O
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I think you should ignore the guy. | |
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Dewrede said: If i see an ex-girlfriend , and she broke off the relationship, there's nothing left for me to say
What's the use in all the bla,bla,bla if she doesn't want you anymore. You deffenitely WOULDN'T wanna hear things about her new boyfriend and shit. Just had to quote myself again. | |
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Sometimes you can't be friends!
And for goodness sakes stay out of his face. I don't want to sound mean but in a sense you are also making the situation a little uncomfortable. And if you really care give it time, he may come around. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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The one thing you should do is look after number 1
I think Byron got it right when he said it's down to immaturity and not being able to totally let The break up of any relationship..no matter what the circumstances is a bereavement when all is said and done. It affects everyone concerned and some people are better equiped to deal with it than others..... I am speaking from my own exoeriences and it can take time to develop the most effective coping strategy...it sounds like this person has not done that yet...when he does things should make more sense to him..... I would say don't make his problems your problems (and I hope this all doesn't sound patronising in any way) You are both getting used to a new reality...and it obviously takes time and understanding .....easy to say for an outsider.... Listen to what those closest to you have to say...they are the one's who obviously know you best... Steadwood. 
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Just an update
I avoided him today but it's kinda hard and I eventually ran into him in the main office... i said Hi... we were alone in there and he was normal....slightly flirty, but normal! 
I think he didn't know how i would react to him yesterday, now that he sees I'm cool i think he will be too.
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