So, what do I do with my wedding ring???

It's been sitting in my jewelery box, I don't know what to do with it.

It's gold and platinum and worth a pretty penny, but I don't want it. My ex wife wants me to keep it and give to my son when he is older, but I only associate pain and failure with it now. I wouldn't want to pass all that negativity on to my son.

Any suggestions??


Oh, on another note, she "lost" hers the night she told me to leave our house 2 years ago, which coincidentally is the same night she met an ex boyfriend for dinner and drinks behind my back.....says she took it off in the bathroom to wash her hands and lost it.....I say BULLSHIT.....but whatever.....

Keep it but tuck it away out of sight, as I did.

Keep it tucked away like LittlePill said,because down the road you may want to pass it onto your son. Right now you view it as pain and anger but that will fade. And when you son has decided to marry when he's old enough, you both maybe glad that you held onto it. Don't look at it as passing on hurt and pain to your son but look at it as passing on a love that you and his mother had at the time you made those vows that brought you 2 together to have your son. But ultimately it's something to think of, no one can really tell you how to feel about your ring so what ever you decide is what is best for you.

Not divorced, but I do have a ring from my ex...and it meant a lot. I keep it hidden in the closet.

Smooches;)

HollowellSA said:

Co-sign!

To your son it represents a union that brought him life.



I have them stored for the kids and one given me later I still wear from time to time.....

Right now it symbolizes hurt and pain..

Put it away... Someday when you have closure pull it out and remember the joy you felt when your children were born.

5 years Later Jersey I wear a smile and sometimes a ring..... Cause its mine and the pain is gone....

Yours will subside one day too!












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[This message was edited Wed Jul 28 10:15:08 2004 by Muse2NOPharaoh]

sag10 said:

agree, well said

jerseykrs said:

Take a picture of it...and send it to me.....I NEED A NEW CAR!!!

yes, you be the classy one and hang on to your ring...

when your son wonders later on what happened to mom's ring... well, let her do the explaining.

DexMSR said:

but seriously...i´m not devorced but i´m a child of devorced parents and i would love to have their wedding ring (they´re both passed away now...) so keep it and put it away, someday you will remember the words of this ´crazy´ orgers

DexMSR said:

but seriously...i´m not devorced but i´m a child of devorced parents and i would love to have their wedding ring (they´re both passed away now...) so keep it and put it away, someday you will remember the words of this ´crazy´ orgers

jerseykrs said:

eye've never been married but if eye were u eye would make a necklace out of it or a bracelet, maybe some cuff links and NOT pass it on to your son, but do however show it off to the ex LOL..... giving your son that ring will just send a subliminal message that divorce is okay... the mind is a powerful thing.....

Toss it in her casket.. well thats what i'm going to do

Savannah said:

OH GOD, that is perfect.....

I still have my rings. Thoughts of having them melted down into something else (consult jeweller) pass through my head. I don't plan on keeping them. Maybe sell them at a pawn shop.

If you are intent on selling, do it on ebay or something. You will never get near the amount you paid by going to a pawn shop.

I still have my engagement & wedding ring and they're sitting in one of my jewellery boxes. I had them personally designed and decided hey, gotta show something for a waste of good time.....



[This message was edited Fri Jul 30 4:47:28 2004 by PanthaGirl]

jerseykrs said:

All I have to say is what I did with mine. Early in our relationship, my ex-wife gave me a "memories box" to hold little items of significance from the relationship. For example, the lunch receipt from our first date is in there. My wedding ring is now in that box too.

Admittedly, I feel differently about my wedding ring than you do. It doesn't upset me; rather, I don't wear it because I don't want to hold myself out as married when I'm not. Also, my ex-wife and I are on friendly terms. The last thing I added to the memories box was the receipt from our last lunch together, which happened almost a year after we split, and a few days before I moved away from the city where we lived together.

looking at all of ur stories terrifies me of marriage even more..... eye don't think eye'll ever get married, eye have never met ONE marriage that has ever worked out 4ever... MARRIAGE

jerseykrs said:

I have other ideas but they'r not suitable for public print

I wish I still had mine, but his last girlfriend pawned it.

I planned on saving it for when my daughter got older and she could remove the diamonds and have them set into something else if she liked.

Save it. Put it in a safe place and hold on to it. Like many said here, as time passes you may feel differently and want to pass it on to your son, or just hang on to it yourself.

Regardless of how you feel about the marriage, it will always be a part of your life. I think it would be nice to keep it as a reminder of the happier times and of that part of your life.



My two cents.

AzureStarr said:

That sucks!

I'll take care of her for you, Azure

Smooches;_

MsMisha319 said:

There is nothing lower than spending a couple months salary on a diamond and then when the spineless coward runs away, takes off and/or runs away from all the responsibility she doesn't have the decency to leave the ring behind.

Take the ring into a jewelers and have it made into sumfin else , easy peasy

Savannah said:

Hmmm... I dunno. I think if you're engaged and the engagement is broken and the relationship is over, the ring should be given back. However, if there is a marriage, I think the ring should be kept by both partners. He keeps his, she keeps hers.

I would still have mine, had I not forgotten that I left it there and had it pawned by his psycho girlfriend at the time.

People who have heard my story have laughed and offered to mold my ring into a bullet casing. Perfect fit.

well, i got rid of mine, i didnt want to see it anywhere around me...now i wish i hadnt, so dont make a decision too quickly, you can always throw it away, but, its hard to get it back - one more thing, i found that its not the "ring" you are angry with.....so, it doesnt make you feel any better to lose the ring, the feelings will still be with you....

good luck sweetie, this is a very emotional time, but, i know you will come out just fine

I pawned mine, then used the money to go towards a ring for my girlfriend!