Muse2NOPharaoh said:

I have first-hand experience in that matter, raising a child in a loveless marriage...To my beautiful surprise, my daughter and I actually became closer and more loving once the divorce and separation occurred. I know she still feels "something"..*sigh*..and has her moments.. . But with each passing week, month and year, I see within her the reality that "daddy" still loves her with all his heart and soul...no matter where he lives, no matter what he's doing, no matter who else is in his life.


I agree, although I think a lot of it depends on the reasons it happened in the first place. I suppose there are numerous married couples who stray out of boredom, stress, momentary loss of focus...and if that's all it takes to make you seek another, then yeah, you're far more likely to repeat that decision when faces with similar circumstances (unless, of course, you sincerely realize the reality of the decisions you've made, and more importantly, why you made them...and grow and evolve spiritually as a result...)



Always!! ...As the quote goes, life is an extremely efficient boomerang...your words and actions will return to you with amazing accuracy. Sweeny and I have TONS of conversations about Karma, and how it always returns to you...Life will attempt to teach you the same lesson over and over again, until you finally "get it". I've felt in the past like I had a LOT of karmic debt to pay off...


Agree completely...


Depends on the guy/woman, the person, the individual soul...we all find ourselves making decisions which either at the time or later down the line we realize how much it put us off the path our soul knows it should be on. If you take those decisions, understand them, utilize them to push your soul's evolution forward, and sincerely learn from them, then there's no reason to focus and continue living in that past "mistake"...your decision, and all the ramifications from it, has served its purpose in the bettering of yourself, your psyche, you spirit...but in general, I agree wholeheartedly with what you just said. (I take it he wasn't a "great guy" right then since you said he might become one "eventually"...I also take it that he wasn't making an effort to separate himself from his marriage??)...


Thank you for doing so...

i messed around with a man that had a family. and what he did to his wife he did to me. i was 18. i would never do that again. it's emotionally draining and depressing. not only did i hurt her(which i feel bad about the most) but i got hurt also. now that i have a family of my own i don't know what i'd do if my husband did that to me. it's not worth it and it's a waste of time. it's so disrespectful.

Yes, I've been messing around with a married guy for nearly 4 years now. Actually, he told me he was engaged when we first met up, but lately he refers to himself as married. Initially I thought he was lying and just trying to act butch when he mentioned that, so I blew it off (no pun intended). But it's becoming more apparent that he was telling the truth.

If the sex wasn't so damn good, I would go the morally proper route and say "no". He's one of only 3 guys that I've ever been with that I really click with in bed and feel really comfortable with.

I don't know how to explain it and I'm not going to try and justify it, but I'm not gonna turn down sex like that.

at one point in time, i would have. now i have grown up a little and developed some form of respect for people...even the ones i don't know. i'm not into someone else's cheating man. i expect more from someone.

When I was 18 years old, I met a man that was married yet I didn't know he was married no ring on the finger. I went out on one date with him nothing happen between me he wanted to kiss me, but I rejected over I just wanted to go out on a date no kissing or hugging he also had bad breath so that was a part of my rejection. He finally admitted that he was married after argument we had. I'm so glad I didn't do any kissing or any other intimate actions. I feel sorry for the wife I wonders if she knows he went out on a date with me but nothing happen between us so thats good. Another experience happen when I was 20 I was a girlfriend of a man and again had no idea he was married. I found out by viewing some pictures he had in his living room that had a picture frame of his wife that said something like happy marriage. I was so pissed I broke up with him. He claimed that his wife was in another country we were from the states. His wife was in Canada and she cheated on him and his wife didn't want to move to the states. He ended up getting a divorce and wanted me back, but he was a jerk controling type he made me feel so low of a person another part of a reason we broke up.

Teacher said:

Same here.

I did not have sexual relations with that woman!

bkw said:

don't deny what we had, BK! i have the dress to prove it!

irresistibleb1tch said:

Yes. But I'm polyamorous (i.e., not monogamous), so I don't see it as necessarily wrong.

That doesn't mean I'd sleep with any random married woman, mind you. It would have to be with the consent of her husband. (The last thing I want to do is destroy someone else's relationship.) Also, if I meet a woman and find out that she's married, I assume she's monogamous unless I'm told otherwise, and I don't pursue her.

As for "cheating," I consider cheating to be violating the rules of one's relationship, as agreed by the parties to that relationship. And if monogamy is not one of those rules, then it isn't cheating to get involved with another partner.

SnowQueen said:

Question....

When a married couple gets divorced, it takes time for the divorce to become final. Many (most or all?) states have some sort of "cooling-off" period... for example, in Indiana, where I was divorced, the court cannot grant a divorce until 60+ days have elapsed from the date the petition was filed. And even though my ex-wife and I had no contested issues for the court to decide (i.e., we just needed the judge to sign off on the paperwork), it actually took over four months to get my divorce decree.

So, if a married couple is in the process of getting divorced, and they've agreed that they're free to seek other partners, do you think it's okay for one spouse to date someone else? Or must they sit around and wait as the wheels of justice turn slowly?

Remember, until the divorce is final, they remain legally married to each other.

MrJoker said:

me too, BIG MISTAKE.