i mean....feel so intense that you actually step back and think..."damn am i seeming a little much?"
would that person you love tell you if you are too much?

or do you have to wait till you are dumped before you realise your behaviour

If that person doesn't feel the same way, yes...it can be very self destructive to cling to emotions when it's clear it will never happen

PurpleThunder said:

thats a nice way of putting it
i'm good honey. you?

2the9s said:

and theres me thinking you were gonna say
"is this thread about me"

msserendipity said:

It took me like 5 minutes to decide between the two!

I dont know sammy!
[Edited 9/1/04 16:53pm]

Yes and it's fucked up when you realize it.

I dont think you can but you can obsess about a person too much.

i think you can love someone too much and the only time it is truly harmful if you start compromising your morals or being someone you are not.


be true to yourself first and everything else will fall in place.

bkw said:

I know you're obsessed with me Brett

Lleena said:

Especially when you're in that poncho

bkw said:

I'll wrap you up in it.

Lleena said:

<-----purring like a pussy cat!

bkw said:

I don't think you can love someone too much. You can behave badly (towards yourself or the object of your affection) and use love as an excuse, but love too much? nah.

CarrieMpls said:

I don't think you can love someone too much rather you can show that you love someone too much. If you invest too much in someone, the disproportion is such that neither really feels like a centered person in the relationship. One loves the other at the expense of themselves. Therefore you become hollow, reliant on being loved by the other, with a diminished capacity for self-love. Therefore, showing that you love someone and giving and recieving gifts of love from that person becomes somewhat unwholesome.

Sometimes you just don't realize too late that you're bordering on being a co-dependent freak that seems to think they can't survive without whoever it is you're with.

It's not a bad thing to keep in mind though-if you obsess too much over someone it's never healthy, cause you lose your own sense of self, what you bring to the situation-can't be the same without your own element being what it is. You can't love somebody by osmosis.

Hopefully they'd tell you, but I doubt it'd happen that often. Probably find out too late.

It all depends on the restraining order though, you know?

J0eyC0c0 said:

agreed!

JDINTERACTIVE said:

U do know I love U don't U

BabyGirl said:

It can be scary when ppl love too much, but I dont think it really is love...

Yes, you can. I loved my first seriuos boyfriend too much and he hurt me too badly. Now my hubby is th one who loves more in this relationship, I still don't know if it's good or bad as I can so easily hurt him

i also think if you go into a relationship with barriers as a defence to save yourself from hurt..you can miss so much.

sometimes the risk is worth it.

yep I think so. And I'm done with it. It's not worth the emotional stress.

Yes, in short. Unfortunately.

Whateva said:

Erm, do you?!