if you loved your partner but they were unable to keep you happy due to different sex drives or whatever....what do you do? try and bury your needs and keep going?, try to reach a middle ground?, or do you have another lover.....with or without your partners approval?, or do you break your own heart and break up the relationship?

If you have found a partner, a true friend, you will make it work just like any other difference between the 2 of u.

It's way worse to have someone you are sexually compatible with but can't stand their company otherwise.

you slip it up her bum when she's sleeping. works just fine for me, anyway.

I think that it's important to find a middle ground. Sex is not the most important part of a relationship, believe it or not. Especially if other areas in the relationship are good.....just work on it.


Smooches;)
[Edited 8/30/04 7:54am]

blackboab said:

That sounds like a real messed up situation. If there is a real chance for finding a middle ground that keeps the both of you satisfied it would be great, but that's not always possible (but definitely worth trying when it is a loving relationship). Having other lovers and just have a brother/sister relationship to your partner? I don't know if that works for a long time (and makes you all happy), I think it would be better to try to just stay best friends before you hurt each other (when your partner doesn't know that you have other lovers). I wish you all the best

sinaplenty said:

that's wrong, but i laughed. i'm a bad man.

TheFrog said:

Why is it wrong?

Why would you even get that far if you weren't compatible?

If you can't make compromises it's not going to work out.

sinaplenty said:

..and that never woke her up?

blackboab said:

we might as well be just friends.

sinaplenty said:

Ummmm...MORE THAN WE NEED TO KNOW...

blackboab said:

I'd marry him!!!!

I'd have to break up. I Couldn't stay forever with someone I couldn't fully enjoy sex with.

i was in a relationship (for about 2 years) with someone i was not sexually compatable with...we tried and tried to work things out but in the end it all fell apart. its unfortunate but it is very important to me to be in a fully satisfying relationship..in the bedroom and out.

Learn to love your eunuch.

If u ain't digging him/her sexually just draw the line and be friends instead Won't hurt 2 b friends with some1
If u two can't make a compramise then all I have 2 say is "it won't work out".
[Edited 8/31/04 0:45am]

Teach him

MsSmartypants said:

J0eyC0c0 said:

sorry, i think that was "the line" that i saw shooting past me.

If you find an answer to this.....let me know

BabyGirl said:

The answer is simple, unless both parties are willing to make compromises you're fucked...just not the way you like to.

Sadly, if the sexual compatiblity isn't there, you'll be unhappy. Period. Whether or not you stay with someone that you're unhappy with is your business...but I advise against it.