Natsume said:

But I was exaggerating when I said 99

All I am saying is, people have pasts. Once you have met a certain person and know you both connect, I wouldnt dream of thinking, I am another notch on his bed post. People change. Just cos someone has shagged about when they are younger, doesnt mean they are gonna to continue doing that all their lives. Thats all I am saying.

So I think it would be unfair to judge someone alone on the fact that cos they have sowed their seed in their younger days, that means they will never grow up, and never wanna settle down.




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REDFEATHERS said:

But I'm saying is look how young we are. If we were to have "sown our seeds in our younger days," that means we would have had to start when we were incredibly young. I'm saying what Calhoun is saying; with a number of 99 at the age of 20, or anywhere above the number ten for example, then there's no possible way all of those, or even most of those, sexual experiences were with partners in serious relationships. And I have issues with that. A few one night stands is different than fucking a different random person every night of the week.

I think it is fair to judge someone you might have a relationship with on the basis of how many people they've slept with. We have to be responsible for our own actions. You have to realize how your present actions may affect your future. I also find it doubtful that I would connect - on a romantic level - with someone who has slept with that many people, because I think your level of 'sexual freedom' and openness has to do with a lot of other personality traits. It's not really that random.

Perhaps my views will change as I become older, but as for right now, they stand. And please, I am not judging anyone who's posting on this thread, so I hope nobody takes my statements offensively. Like I said, I could give a shit what friends or acquaintances do in their sexual life - it only becomes an issue when there's a possibility I might date you.

I guess I shoulda closed my eyes
When you drove me to the place
where your horses run free
'Cuz I felt a little ill
When I saw all the pictures
Of the jockeys that were there before me
Believe it or not
I started to worry
I wondered if I had enough class
But it was Saturday night,
I guess that makes it all right
And you say, "Baby, have you got enough gas?
"Oh yeah

Natsume said:

I understand totally where you are coming from, but when I was younger, AIDS and HIV wasnt such a scare as it is these days. I am not saying that people fucked around like in the 60's but yes, maybe at your age it is more worrying.

But some boys start having sex as young as 13 (even younger) so by the time they are 23, I am sure he has already had *afew* notches on his bed post.

I am not saying it is good or bad to have had many sexual partners, but in my day, when I was younger, men who had had loads of women were STUDS those who hadnt, were

Funny how times change

Sittin' outside your door, about to break down
Fourth time this week somebody's come around
Who's it gonna be tonight, who's the lucky man
Where you get the attitude, I'll never understand
Uh Oh, here he comes now, so happy that he came
Hey! Was it good boy? [Thoughts on, of her aim]

What goes on inside your head that makes you want to take them all to bed?
Gotta stop, gotta gotta stop, messin about
U know u gotta stop, gotta gotta stop, messin about

gooeythehamster said:

thank you?

PoorLittleBastard said:

And I said - "Baby, don't waste your time
I know what's on your mind
I may be qualified 4 a one night stand
But I could never take the place of your man"

Anxiety said:

You are welcome. You should come and play on the translotar thread. It is alot of fun!

Is funny that you quote virtue examples from a man claiming he laid his sister.

See, now the question is, did the 43 guys include all the bj's she gave or not?

J0eyC0c0 said:

Heheheeeee

Natsume said:

I think the reason WHY they slept w/ who they've slept w/ is even more important than the # of people. Kinda tells you where their head is @ in terms of how much respect they have for themselves, for their bodies, & ultimately your body too. I know people change, but sometimes they don't & that stuff can be telling...

PoorLittleBastard said:

or just began masturbating right?

Never too much, never too much never too much... (Luther Vandross)

This whole thread makes me think of the movie "Clerks"



"You sucked 37 dicks?!?"


"Try not to suck any dick on the way to the car"

I would never tell my partner!

My past is my past...

sag10 said:

same way I feel, I mean it is my past and I would rather not know his either, I tend to be a bit territorial and its best to keep our pasts to ourselves

sag10 said:

I totally agree with you, Sag. You will never know if the person you ask is telling the truth anyway.

If I'm convinced that nothing I say would be used to judge me, there's not a whole lot that I wouldn't tell my partner if he really wanted to know. Of course, I'd expect the same openness in return. As long as we're cool with the present, the past is just what it was.

Anxiety said:

I had a conversation with a really close friend of mine that hurt my feelings. He said that he didn't want to be with a woman that had a promiscous past and that he had a problem if a woman had more than ten partners. So I'm like 'weren't you promiscous in the past and haven't you had more than ten partners?' He said it a guy's code of ethics and that he was sorry but that's the way guys are. Bullshit.

too many is when your coochie finally falls out.....

MarySharon said:

MARY!!! Go Mary Go Mary!

I don't know... I'll tell you when I get there?

Too many is the number which makes you go. That number is different for everyone, however don't ask if you can't live with a possible higher number than you had in mind.

kendogg said:

TheOrgerFormerlyKnownAs said:

Double standards suck.

sag10 said:

agree, its none of their business anyway.

Natsume said:

Yep. That's what I told him.

Anymore than 5 bugs me.... but I've only had 3 partners.

But all in all I guess it doesn't really matter.

Sweeny79 said: