Just wondered if u have 1, or what in your opinion is A TRUE BEST FRIEND




Ive had a friend whom Ive thought of my true best friend and she like wise of me, but it just seems all take take take and no give, and the thing is! its me doing the giving, always there for her when she's in crisis (which is getting more often thesesdays) and looking after her kid if she's stuck, but Ive just come off the phone 2 her and when I rang she answered with aww knew it'd ring now Im just having my dinner it made me think on top off that I cant remember a time when shes ever been there for me, or listen and helped me in any way so I think Im gonna give her up, fed up off being taken for a ride.....


If u have a TRUE best friend what does that make you?

very lucky
or
a needy person?

I feel like Im missing out! am I?

I have a true best friend, whom I have never met...

Teacher


(Consider me VERY lucky... she's the best! )

I don't know if I have a TRUE best friend. I feel like I am a lot of peoples very good friend, in that I do for them... problem is... it's not reciprocated.....

Yes i have been lucky enought to have a real true best friend.. We have been best friends since High School. She has stuck by me through thick and thin and bee a rock when i needed her to just someone to vent too.. We share a strong bond and I am so glad I have her in my life!

Apart from Teacher, I guess my best friend is my sister

kendogg said:

damn though sometimes dont u sit back and think? whats it all about,

it should be reciprocated because thats what its all about, isnt it?

REDFEATHERS said:

yes I do consider u a very lucky person, Im jealous .lol but happi for you

kendogg said:

BabyCakes said:

thats lovley, my ex best friend (THOU IVE NOT SEEN HER YET 2 TELL HER) see'e me like that..sticking by her thick n thin, but u wanna make sure u r there for her 2

damnedifido said:

I am and have ALWAYS been there for her... I was her maid of honor at her wedding, I helped her thought a hard breakup, i have been an ear.. Well, she knows all of what i am too her and that is all that matters! I dont need to explain it all on here!

BabyCakes said:

good for you Im pleased for you

u get Fried in the end when u pretend to be....

TheRealFiness said:

eh?

damnedifido said:

That is what's it's all about.... I guess maybe I expect too much from people... I do have a good friend in my brother, but he's not great in recipricating either....

kendogg said:

aww, bugger, we dont half know how 2 pick em dont we!.lol.

yeah spose my sisters ok 2, but I care so much and give so much, and like u say it doesnt get recipricated.I think I just started his thread cos sometimes enough's enough and it dont mean I stop caring at all but I got 2 start thinking more about myself....does that sound selfish?I feel mean but whats the point of having a 1 way friendship?

damnedifido said:

There isn't... sad but true. I think everything we do is selfish to some extent, but I honestly feel like a friendship should be a bond... not just an aquaintence, but someone you have a clear bond with.

My job, is a rather lonesome occupation (repairing x-ray machines), so I don't have a lot of opportunities to find those connections with people. I have co-workers, but a lot of them are considerable older than myself, and our interests are different.... This day is putting me in a serious funk..... dammit!

kendogg said:

awww, sorry, I truely I am didnt mean 2 upset u always.....I think I probably expect 2 much,
[This message was edited Fri Aug 13 8:24:26 2004 by damnedifido]

I have a friend that I have been friends with for 21 years, since the day we first met on the first day of high school. Our relationship is 50/50. I stay loyal to him and he to me. I'd die for him, he'd die for me. Our love is unconditional, we are soulmates and one and the same person. He is my spiritual twin.


Your friend is in my opinion, not a true friend. When you start to feel like you're being used, get out of there. The best test to that friendship is to tell her 'no' the next time she asks you to do something. If she stops calling you, you know what time it is. You may just want to sit her down and discuss your relationship and if she can't respect your feeelings, she isn't worth keeping around.

damnedifido said:

Not your fault... the weather.... and "other" outside influences have me in the dumps....

TheOrgerFormerlyKnownAs said:

You seem like you'd be a great friend to have... glad you have a soulmate... they are hard to come by.....

kendogg said:

aww, life gets ya, and if u are usualli a happi peep u can 99 times out of the 100 rise above every1s misery but just that 1 occasional time u cant, dont worry sweetie u will be bounce back 2 full form pretty quikly im sure,

u wanna be here we got floods.lol.

kendogg said:

That's very sweet. Thank you. I have always tried to be the type of person people would like to have around.

I hope your day starts looking up.

damnedifido said:

Floods? Where are you? Ever hear the old Bill Cosby routine about Noah's Ark? "How long can you tread water?"

I am a ridiculously optimistic person and don't let too much get me down, but today feels different somehow... (happy thoughts...happy thoughts.... happy thoughts!)

TheOrgerFormerlyKnownAs said:

I'm sure it will... thanks hon! (there's that damn optimistic thing again!)

TheOrgerFormerlyKnownAs said:

cheers for that, ur rite,
but u know im just thinking that some peolple in this life are natural lovers and givers and others are just takers. I truely think that they also dont realise they do this and that is unitentionaly how they are.
[This message was edited Fri Aug 13 8:41:47 2004 by damnedifido]

damnedifido said:

I hear you. I am one of those natural lovers and givers but I learned to only gravitate to those who are the same. I remember the day I stopped being an enabler and started telling the takers 'no' and then my phone stopped ringing. It hurt for a little while but I am so much better off for it. If you love your friend, talk to her and tell her she makes you feel. If she's doing it unintentionally, then she will apologize and you can save your friendship.

TheOrgerFormerlyKnownAs said:

yep Im going 2 tonite, thanks, will let u know how it goes

Mine begins with a 'P' and ends with an 'aul'

kendogg said:

I agree with this. If someone is calling you "best friend" and you live up to that role, but you do not feel that the other person is reciprocating in kind, then the relationship is out of balance. It can be emotionally draining when someone takes a lot from you and gives very little back.

You know you have a real bond when there is balance between you and you never have to question the giving and taking because it's a harmonious and loving connection.

DiminutiveRocker said:

Oh wow!..... very well said