It's been nearly 20 months since I left my wife and I haven't been with a girl since. There are certain things I miss. There's a certain emptiness in my life which no friendship can fill.

Things like waking up next to someone, holding her hand in public and feeling proud she has chosen my ass, her bragging to people about how wonderful I am, getting a kiss for no reason, knowing that no matter how shitty things are you always have eachother. Picking her up from the couch to carry her to the bedroom after she has fallen asleep in front of the TV and watch her subconsciously smile as she feels me lift her up, so pure, no bullshit, no lies or half truths just 100% honesty. Fantasizing with her about out future together, starting a family. Taking care of her and being taken care of. Feeling completely safe, at home, whenever I'm with her, knowing I can be myself and not having to explain myself all the time cause we're on the same level.

I miss belonging to someone...
[This message was edited Sun Aug 8 8:32:22 2004 by J0eyC0c0]

I love being single. I hate being nagged at.

theVelvetRoper said:

Thanks.

Hey mate, I know where you are coming from. I know it si hard and it feels like it ain't ever going to be over, but it will subside. Slowly. Give it time.

The moment you are sure that being single is the way for you opportunities will present themselves. Just hang in there. Take a deep breath.

And, like Little Pill said on the other thread; masturbate. As often as you can.

There wasn't a streak of sarcasm in thatr entire post, Joe.

Just a mild tease.

J0eyC0c0 said:

You haven't been with a girl for 20 months? Have you thought of dating men? I'm sure that some eager young stud will be more than happy to fill your "emptiness". In fact, ask Milty!

BinaryJustin said:

Maybe he tried that and that explains why he is using crutches.

gooeythehamster said:

The only crutches I need are drink and drugs - everybody should try it, it works wonders!

come here Joey

BinaryJustin said:

I am using ONE crutch right now then. I need some help here.

Yeah there. Somewhat lower.

i broke up with my ex a year ago today (and quit my job) and at the time i wanted to start a family quite soon but our lives were going to the opposite directions. i really wanted her to be the mother of my babies. anyway, i soon realized that her job and her lifestyle were not compatible with what i wanted from a life partner so i ended it. we had been having problems anyway.
months later, when i rerurned home from England, i felt myself missing her and all the good stuff that we had. in the contact we have had it has been so strained and aggressive. sometimes i feel that there could be a chance but i doubt it. and the only reason why i have been feeling like this is just like you: i miss being with someone. that basic human need to be with another person is really important.

but i have to remind myself of the reasons that we broke up. there was reasons for all of it. there are reasons why i quit my job in London and returned home. there are reasons why certain people have come into my life this year. there are reasons why life all of a sudden is going in such a positive direction versus last year when nothing was happening the way it should have been.

all i can say is that sooner or later something will turn for you. and it will be for the best.

Milty said:

Take note, J0ey C0cO, this is a coded message. Keep your back to the wall - he's like an animal!!!

I'd be your man in a shot cutie

bananacologne said:

Hehehe.

Now there ain't a banner (yet) to say we want ya Joey.

BinaryJustin said:

J0eyC0c0 said:

Never swerved?
Never doubted?
Never experimented?
Never were THAT drunk?

gooeythehamster said:

Due to my meds I have absolutely no libido left. It's not that bad, cause I'm not getting any anyway, but it's just very odd to go from one extreme to another. At least it takes care of being frustrated as a result of not getting any. I've never ever been like this.

CookieMonster said:

It was a long time ago and didn't have anything to do with doubt, but let's just say I know it's not my thing.

J0eyC0c0 said:

You need more booz then.

Milty said:

Thanks. It's not even about my wife really (yes we're still legally married). Sure, she was the last one I was with and there are things I miss about her. The things I talked about are things I miss about having a woman in my life, not necessarily the things I miss about my wife. There's no doubt in my mind I can have those feelings with someone else, but in the meantime I really miss them.

CookieMonster said:

..you forgot to mention drugs and a gun to my head. Thanks, but no thanks.

Sweeny79 said:

I would, I would!



Thanks for the hug.

bananacologne said:

Man, I wish I was gay, or bi.

AndGodCreatedMe said:

Thanks.

This rings too true with me, too... the things that you say you miss about your wife. I don't know how long you were married, but do you find it difficult to imagine those things being as "comforting" with another... or do you feel that the thoughts are comforting because you've been with her for so long and she was your wife?

I'm dealing/thinking of the same issues right now. I have my divorce papers here, I'm the plaintiff... but I refuse to sign them right now. So far, he's okay with that. I just don't know if I'll feel the good things about him, the things that I enjoyed in my marriage with him.. I don't know if I'll find that in another person.

Sooo...

P.S. It is refreshing to hear that you haven't been with another for so long. I guess I've always had this thing in my head that men will immediately jump to another to fill that void.

aww it will get better.. U can't rush things.... let it come to U.... we all miss the lill things n a relationship... but its the messed up things that are gonna keep me away from em .....

kdowney said:

See... I'm the opposite. I tend to miss the good things so much that I forget about the other things that were the reason I left. Those are the things that I need to keep in mind.

AzureStarr said:

We were together for about 2 years. Things will never be exactly the same with someone else, that I know, but I don't doubt there's someone else I can be happy with. Time will tell I guess.