Who is in one? What is your secret?

My guess is: effective and honest communication.

VinaBlue said:

VinaBlue said:

i'm in one

the secret is to moisturise your right hand and keep your nails clean and short.

DexMSR said:

ya beat me 2 it!

ArdeoTheMerciless said:

And always remember to wash your hands afterwards.

Ok, how about healthy relationships with another person...

I am in a healthy relationship, we think. Communication is DEFINETLY the key and the biggest part to us anyways is that we know that we need space, we understand that if someone is up our proverbial ass all the time you get sick and tired of each other FAST.

it works for us

I think a lot of people want to know the same. I always thought I was in relatively healthy relationship...then it ended abruptly.
[This message was edited Wed Aug 4 12:45:06 2004 by J0eyC0c0]

JOeyCoco said

ella731 said:

I don't even get a second chance, I guess I must be pretty bad. As a matter of fact, they always say it's not even about something I did.

Women...
[This message was edited Wed Aug 4 13:11:35 2004 by J0eyC0c0]

I'm in a healthy relationship, though it's still pretty green...

Healthy self-esteem comes first. If you're not ready for life as an individual, you're screwed for relationships.

Then:

1) Strong sexual attraction
2) Similar lifestyle
3) Similar spiritual outlook

Enjoy.

Relationships are full of ups and downs..

And, hopefully we learn and grow from them.

teller said:

So true!

A big thing for me has always been to realize if we are arguing over something I care about or I am just arguing for the sake of my ego
If it's my ego I shut the hell up and apologize
much fewer dissagreements this way

A big thing for me has always been to realize if we are arguing over something I care about or I am just arguing for the sake of my ego
If it's my ego I shut the hell up and apologize
much fewer dissagreements this way

A big thing for me has always been to realize if we are arguing over something I care about or I am just arguing for the sake of my ego
If it's my ego I shut the hell up and apologize
much fewer dissagreements this way

paintsprayer said:

As long as you don't keep apologizing and then make the same mistake over and over again, thinking that if you'd apologize everything will be cool again. Trust me, there are plenty of people who do that.

Natsume said:

I hear Ikea's got some new covers in different colours.

paintsprayer said:

THANK YOU!



Good on you for recognizing that. I have vowed to stop complaining over which movie to rent. I mean, we can get different ones, or just alternate who chooses the flick each time. Not a big deal. He still thinks its an "issue" and a representation that we aren't right for each other. The problem is, we are both sensitive and concerned with pleasing the other with the film. Sounds silly doesn't it? I mean, I would stare at the movies trying to figure out the perfect one to watch. We'd be there for an hour, still undecided. I finally decided it's not that big of a deal.

ella731 said:

I feel like it's so hard to get men to communicate though. But I'm starting to see that I attract and am attracted to these kind of men... which has to do with the patterns that I saw in my father.

I need therapy.

teller said:

Very True. Very Very True.

You're a cool guy, Teller. And a good communicator. I got that from the few orgnotes that we've shared.


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I eat well. So does the wife.

VinaBlue said:

No, you'll always be attracted to that kind of man; the trick is to find one that will let you heal him.

VinaBlue said:

Very good! The first step to health is realizing from where the problem stems..

teller said:

I can live with that!!

gooeythehamster said:

I like my towels to be from K-Mart! the martha stewart line, yo...

teller said:

That's beautiful...

But it sounds a little co-dependent to me. Of course, if he wants to be healed then maybe that's the difference.

Geez, don't over-analyse it. That's why American folks are so neurotic.

In my relationship there are just two usually patient people who get on really well, like each other a lot (love, but I want to stress the friendship thing) and who are willing to talk and give a little sometimes.

That's it.

Famboozled said:

You're right, in America we are extremely impatient and we probably have lots of the wrong messages in the media and our families to the point where we have to analyze it to undo the damage. You're lucky.

VinaBlue said:

The thing is, I do consider myself lucky, but I still have to put a lot of hard work in. I've never been in another relationship so I've no idea what is typical. Am I giving more? Am I putting up with more? Do most move on in my situation? Or do I have it good?

I have no idea. All I know is that the first woman I met and felt something for, I hooked up with and am totally happy and want for no-one else. We just get on well and would be great friends if we weren't together. I can appreciate it's not that easy for others, but I do wonder if it is because they really just haven't met 'the one' or someone special or whatever, or whether the problems lie within themselves and their expectations, issues, insecurities etc.

Maybe some people meet 'the one' but just aren't in a state to see it and take care of it and before they know it, it's gone.