Have you ever had an office romance/fling? On the one hand, I can imagine them to be exciting and makes the prospect of going to work more enjoyable. However, I guess the drawbacks may involve neglecting your work and effecting your relationships with other colleagues.

Any stories to tell and how did you adapt to the situation?

nice picture, JD!

Every bad thing people say about it is true. I fell for a co-worker a few years ago, and neither of us should have been getting involved with anyone since we were both married. Yeah, going to work was more enjoyable just being around her, and it never got as far as just one single kiss (thank God!), but it seriously could have early on. In the end, she turned out to be a lying manipulator and a really really bad mistake. I still feel the guilt of it after four years, but that's mainly from not being faithful to my wife who I confessed the whole thing to when all was said and done, and she is such a great person for forgiving me and being able to put her trust in me again. As for the co-worker, last I heard she was getting a divorce from her husband and taking everything away from him. Money, car, house, 2 children, and who knows what else.

Office romance = BAD idea. My

NCC2012 said:

Yeah, NCC2012 is right. It's usually only temporary, and then when you break up, you have to face that person every day at work.

I had a fling years ago with a co-worker, I was dating someone before I met the co-worker, and my co-worker and I ended up gettng engaged. We were looking to buy a house together when I got cold feet and called the whole thing off. Not only did I break his heart, but I lost the trust of my boyfriend.

Then after we broke up, I had to see him every day at work, and get the cold stares from other co-workers, as well as see him every day as he started another relationship with a girl in a different department!

Just not worth it.

Leave the funny stuff alone, JD.

Cloudbuster said:

No way dude. It helps me pull the chicks at work.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

Okay. Cool.

Office romance is a no-no. you spend more time with the people you work with then you do at home. I think office romance would lead to trouble.....nothing but trouble

NCC2012 said:

Slut!

doctormcmeekle said:

Nelly said:

Just say NO. Yeah, the fileroom can get hot, but the gossip is ASS!

I dated a guy from the office and while the dating didn't go well (long story), the office part was OK at least. No one at work was in the know and luckily I didn't work too closely with him. Yeah, it kinda sucked to haveta run into him all the time once it was over, but we were both civil about it. We were friends first and he even tries to be friendly with me somewhat now, though that's just the kinda guy he is (even though I'm more of the once it's over, it's over type thing). Last I spoke with him he told me he's now engaged.

NCC2012 said:

Throw my in as well...I agree.

doctormcmeekle said:

Yes, I admit it. Just beat me now.

CarrieMpls said:

To you, Carrie?

JDINTERACTIVE said:

SLUT!!!!

Romance at work is a bad bad idea.

I used to date this guy at my last job, I was his boss and it just turned ugly, I ended up leaving there for another job and that was the main reason. It just turns out UGLY

Not a good idea. If the romance fizzle's then it is hard to work with the one you loved. Everyone will know about your romance and eventually one of you will have to leave the employment.....

Been there a few times.


DON'T DO IT. It's a pain in the ass.

REDFEATHERS said:

...and?

Generally speaking, office dating is a BAD idea. I know this from experience. Exception: If you're dating someone in a totally different department, it CAN work. ('Can' is the key word there, folks).

Case said:

I think that's true. I know of several success stories. Keys are these:

1. Absolutely NOT if you are alread married/engaged/committed.

2. Absolutely NOT if you are the boss.

3. Absolutely NOT if it's with your boss.

This is how it changed stuff...

Even when this person wasn't at work, I wanted to be at work. I would go in on weekends, work extra late, come in early - just to be in the space I knew this person had been inhabiting hours before. This person didn't know I felt this way; it was purely platonic from their view point. We talked casually, never confiding deep rooted stuff, but I always wanted to reveal/learn more. I would drop innuendos, say innappropriate things, etc. Sometimes it garnered a gorgeous smile and a warm chuckle, sometimes (usually) it brought on silence. My feelings became a fantasy both unannouced and unattained. Because of this affection (obsession?) I lost weight, couldn't sleep, and basically became a body who did nothing more than showed up each day and received a paycheck. I lost touch with other co-workers because my whole day revolved around seeing this person, having this person see me, talking to others who worked closely with this person, etc. I accomplished nothing during the day, unless you consider writing my first name and their last name over and over in a notebook productive. I never told this person how I felt. It wasn't meant to be...

Not usually the greatest idea

Nelly said:

Office romance is a , won't work. Not a good thing. Date outside your employment.

NCC2012 said:

Co-sign. And when it's over - boy, can work be the most awful place to have to go everyday!

Well, I dated my boss at work and later I married her. (true story)

Now I'm her boss.

Before i dated my wife I received a note from this tall gorgeous girl I worked with to meet her in the stairwell after we got back from a staff Christmas lunch. I was so naive I had no idea what was going on. Anyway, as soon as i stepped into the stairwell she was all over me, kissing me and rubbing herself on me.

Unfortunately, this girl was married and was dreadfully unhappy. She was about 25 at the time and married her childhood sweetheart at 18 but she told me she hadn't had sex for years. When that sort of info gets plonked on you un-prompted you quickly get the idea of where things are heading...

Anyway, thankfully someone came up the stairs and we had to stop. Over the short Christmas break I thought about it and decided there was no way I could get involved in a reltionship with her and a fling would have been a disaster i'm sure.

The good news is that it was the right decision because I started dating my boss about a month later and we eventually got married.

We kept working together for a few years but eventually we both moved to different employers where we have been for 13 years now.