Just curious. For me it's the fear of being hurt again. Meaning that if a person allows himself to be vulnerable, he also allows the possibility to be hurt. I know that that's a chance we all take but it still sucks nonetheless.

Being in a relationship

REDFEATHERS said:

lol.. me too

CokeJohnson said:

my wallet, i think.

REDFEATHERS said:

REDFEATHERS said:

Co-Sign. It's the whole enchilada that's a worry....

TheFrog said:

I've got a buddy who's married and that's a BIG worry when his wife's got the credit card on the weekends. He's a wreck.

How to get out

noepie said:

just say no

PanthaGirl said:

Aside from the worries though, how do you know when it's a good thing? Despite all the crap, is there ever a time you say, "This is still someone that's worth it." I mentioned my buddy who's married and despite the headaches it seems that they still care for each other. Not that you'd see it in any overt sort of way. No PDAs. At least not much

My husband and I have been together 19 years ...

and every day i learn something new about him
and i thank spirit for gifting him into my life

married my best friend

thats the best advice i can give

~smiles~

Peace,

Mach

Mach said:

That's great.. just keep in mind that it could end from one day to the next

CokeJohnson said:

~ laughs~ naaaa not gonna keep that in mind... besides a death ( if thats what you meant )

that kinda thought pattern doesnt exsist in our marriage ( that it will end )

there isnt a thing we could not work through or havent worked through already ...


ending our marriage isnt an option ~ chuckles ~ wouldnt have married in the 1st place if it were ...

thanx though for the advice, but i choose not to heed that particular advice ~smiles~

Mach said:

just keeping telling yourself that

CokeJohnson said:

like i said ... 19 yrs worth ... 4 kids 1 grand baby ... been through hell and high water... and MADE IT

cuz he and i both think that

thats why it works

~ chuckles ~

nay say all ya wanna aint gonna skeer me !!

Mach said:

I assume you are saying "scare" here.. right?
If so.... chill darling.. Just trying to keep it real for ya...

Lots of things could happen:
1. You could grow apart
2. He could fuck someone else (he not with U all the time is he?)
3. etc etc...

Congrats on your marriage, but nothing's bullet proof in this world..

I am honestly afraid of becoming bored and wanting to move onto someone new.

I am crossing my fingers.

CokeJohnson said:

~ smiles ~ again ...thanx for your opinion ...

lots of things "could" happen ...yes

he and i work hard at growing together ~smiles~ not drifting numblike apart

yeah, he could fuck someone else ... all he has to do is let me know if thats what he wants
like fucking is the end all beat all of marriage ... ~shrugs~

ahhhh ... we're done ( this convo ) ... your right ( for your life ) and i'm right in mine ...

PEACE man

Mach

Mach said:

Good for you! My parents were married for nearly 50 years (until my dad passed away) and they loved each other dearly.
Keep on keepin' on!

in a relationship i worry bout the

ship

I just can't seem to make a relationship last for more than four years for some reason. I'm married, and it's just past the four year mark, and now we're having problems. I don't get it.

gemini13 said:

don't jinx yourself!

To be honest, I don't worry about anything in a relationship...

Natsume said:

too late ..lol

I worry about getting dumped, or cheated on. Both have happened to me too many times. I deliberately went out after my last relationship looking for a woman who was NOTHING like my previous girlfriends!!

gemini13 said:

Unfortunately, that is all too common. the four and seven year marks are, statistically, the hardest years of a relationship.

I worry about nose hair..... nothing worse than having someone look at you funny because you have't trimmed recently

I worry about all the time wasted in leg shaving while in a relationship!!!!

I'm sure i'll loose decades worth of my life!

Having kids. The other stuff I don't really worry about cause it's out of my control anyway. I try not to worry about what I can't change. Having a baby with the wrong person is the worst that could ever happen to me....and no, I don't have any kids.