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Thread started 04/20/18 9:26pm

FullLipsDotNos
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Me grieving and getting over it

As much as I hadn't anticipated it, it hit me: I started crying in public.

1) I went to the tribute concert in Minneapolis. There was a recreated fence downstairs in the venue. It contained heartfelt messages to Prince. When I read them tears started rolling down my face. When looked at other people standing nearby I could see shame and disgust in their eyes. I, too, felt ashamed of myself, for not acting accordingly in public.

2) I and my boyfriend are converting to friends because I realised we'd be better off friends than lovers. Although it was my decision I felt sad about it. That being said, I still love him and really, really care about him (we went to the tribute concert together!). He's one of us orgers, but I will not reveal his identity.

The concert was great. It gave me so much joy. I'm pround to be part of the purple family. I hope to convert children in my family into purple relatives. Prince has been teaching me to love and accept myself. I thank Allah for giving him life and talent.

Good night, peace and be wild.

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Reply #1 posted 04/20/18 9:43pm

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FullLipsDotNose said:

As much as I hadn't anticipated it, it hit me: I started crying in public.

1) I went to the tribute concert in Minneapolis. There was a recreated fence downstairs in the venue. It contained heartfelt messages to Prince. When I read them tears started rolling down my face. When looked at other people standing nearby I could see shame and disgust in their eyes. I, too, felt ashamed of myself, for not acting accordingly in public.

2) I and my boyfriend are converting to friends because I realised we'd be better off friends than lovers. Although it was my decision I felt sad about it. That being said, I still love him and really, really care about him (we went to the tribute concert together!). He's one of us orgers, but I will not reveal his identity.

The concert was great. It gave me so much joy. I'm pround to be part of the purple family. I hope to convert children in my family into purple relatives. Prince has been teaching me to love and accept myself. I thank Allah for giving him life and talent.

Good night, peace and be wild.

I also find it extremely sad when geniuses die like that. You're not alone.

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Reply #2 posted 04/20/18 10:38pm

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FullLipsDotNose said:

As much as I hadn't anticipated it, it hit me: I started crying in public.

1) I went to the tribute concert in Minneapolis. There was a recreated fence downstairs in the venue. It contained heartfelt messages to Prince. When I read them tears started rolling down my face. When looked at other people standing nearby I could see shame and disgust in their eyes. I, too, felt ashamed of myself, for not acting accordingly in public.

2) I and my boyfriend are converting to friends because I realised we'd be better off friends than lovers. Although it was my decision I felt sad about it. That being said, I still love him and really, really care about him (we went to the tribute concert together!). He's one of us orgers, but I will not reveal his identity.

The concert was great. It gave me so much joy. I'm pround to be part of the purple family. I hope to convert children in my family into purple relatives. Prince has been teaching me to love and accept myself. I thank Allah for giving him life and talent.

Good night, peace and be wild.


They should be ashamed of themselves if that is what they thought about you. But you have also confirmed for me that I am right to stay away from anything public to do with him because I'm quite likely to do the same. Sorry you felt belittled but I'm glad to hear you enjoyed the concert. I watched via live feed on FB, it looked pretty good and people seemed to be enjoying themselves.


Welcome to "the org", Mumio…they can have you, but I'll have your love in the end nod
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Reply #3 posted 04/21/18 1:23am

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Not sure why fellow Prince fans would look at you in shame and disgust. Some people dont know how to console others in public especially if they dont know you. Hope you are ok anyway

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Reply #4 posted 04/21/18 5:41am

kmama07

I'm sorry you had that experience , especially with other "fans". I'm glad you ultimately left with joy in your heart.
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Reply #5 posted 04/21/18 5:57am

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That is reason why I probably will not go to PP for long time. I was there enough when Prince was here. I would breakdown.

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Reply #6 posted 04/21/18 8:36am

kingricefan

Please don't feel ashamed for crying in public over Prince. Screw all of those that don't understand. You have a right to your feelings.

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Reply #7 posted 04/21/18 8:45am

kingricefan

I cried when I was standing in the foyer waiting for my tour to start. The doorman came over with a box of tissues and handed it to me with a very caring and understanding look on his face. I apologized and he said that it was alright and to take my time. I also asked my tour guide for some time alone when we were standing in the atrium and she smiled and said it was fine and she stepped to the side while I said my prayers for Prince, with tears flowing down my cheeks. The people that work at Paisley Park are very understanding of how the fans will feel coming there. Don't let your fear of your emotions stop you from going. Going to PP was very cleansing for me. I felt his presence there. The doves hadn't made a sound all morning (according to our tour guide) until I was standing in the atrium with my best friend on one side of me and my niece on the other, each of us with our arms wrapped around each other, shedding tears in the light that flowed in from above and the cooing from the doves. It was magical.

SuperFurryAnimal said:

That is reason why I probably will not go to PP for long time. I was there enough when Prince was here. I would breakdown.

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Reply #8 posted 04/21/18 9:47am

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I don't think others were looking at you with shame and disgust, whomever looked at you was probably feeling uncomfortable at seeing you cry, and not knowing what to do or say...at least that is how I feel when I see someone cry, and I assume there are others that feel this way too. It's not easy to see anyone cry, because people usually cry when they are in pain, so it can be uncomfortable to witness. There was nothing wrong with you crying, you love him, and any fan knows exactly how you feel.

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Reply #9 posted 04/21/18 10:14am

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kingricefan said:

Please don't feel ashamed for crying in public over Prince. Screw all of those that don't understand. You have a right to your feelings.

I can understand that we all are different too and having difficulty even listening to the music at this point. Maybe in a few years as new music, videos are released.

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Reply #10 posted 04/21/18 10:37am

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kingricefan said:

I cried when I was standing in the foyer waiting for my tour to start. The doorman came over with a box of tissues and handed it to me with a very caring and understanding look on his face. I apologized and he said that it was alright and to take my time. I also asked my tour guide for some time alone when we were standing in the atrium and she smiled and said it was fine and she stepped to the side while I said my prayers for Prince, with tears flowing down my cheeks. The people that work at Paisley Park are very understanding of how the fans will feel coming there. Don't let your fear of your emotions stop you from going. Going to PP was very cleansing for me. I felt his presence there. The doves hadn't made a sound all morning (according to our tour guide) until I was standing in the atrium with my best friend on one side of me and my niece on the other, each of us with our arms wrapped around each other, shedding tears in the light that flowed in from above and the cooing from the doves. It was magical.

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Reply #11 posted 04/21/18 11:14am

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I'm fine although I'm also a bit upset that I'm not making it to Paisley Park. I wanted to go and naively thought I would just buy a ticket. It turned out I would have to buy a celebration pass (very expensive) and these passes had been sold out anyway, so no chance.

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On the other hand, maybe I'd feel even sadder there, so I'll go there at another time. Maybe next year or later.

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Reply #12 posted 04/21/18 11:52am

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No need for guilt when it comes to greiving. If others don't get it that's their problem and not yours at all. I'm planning a trip to PP in July and it's the first time I'll ever walk thru those doors. That being said, I have no doubt at all that I'll start losing it and I already know I'm going to break down.

That's just part of "this thing called life". If folks are human, have a heart and a soul they'll understand.

Who's the private d*ck that's a sex machine to all the chicks?
Who's the man that would risk his neck for his brother man?
Who's the cat who won't cop out when there's danger all about?
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Reply #13 posted 04/21/18 2:40pm

kingricefan

It was quite cathartic for me to go to PP. I hope that it will do the same for you. Listen for the cooing of the doves when you are in the atrium. The cages are located on the second level. I wish you peace and a lighter heart.

JohnShaft said:

No need for guilt when it comes to greiving. If others don't get it that's their problem and not yours at all. I'm planning a trip to PP in July and it's the first time I'll ever walk thru those doors. That being said, I have no doubt at all that I'll start losing it and I already know I'm going to break down.

That's just part of "this thing called life". If folks are human, have a heart and a soul they'll understand.

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Reply #14 posted 04/21/18 9:14pm

Bluu

Honey, I had a day about three weeks back where I was at work and I couldn't stop crying over him. Starting and stopping throughout the day. I had to take it to a conference room.

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I don't understand it either, why others would have such an ignorant attitude about you greiving. Maybe it wasn't what you perceived as their feeling shame or disgust, maybe they were made uncomfortable by your grief as it may have reminded them that they are not completely done grieving...

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there's nothing for you to be ashamed of. You must have had a deep connection to Prince to still have it in you to miss and mourn him. Your tears do him honor. heart

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Reply #15 posted 04/22/18 6:07am

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Bluu said:

Honey, I had a day about three weeks back where I was at work and I couldn't stop crying over him. Starting and stopping throughout the day. I had to take it to a conference room.

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I don't understand it either, why others would have such an ignorant attitude about you greiving. Maybe it wasn't what you perceived as their feeling shame or disgust, maybe they were made uncomfortable by your grief as it may have reminded them that they are not completely done grieving...

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there's nothing for you to be ashamed of. You must have had a deep connection to Prince to still have it in you to miss and mourn him. Your tears do him honor. heart

It's really strange because I didn't cry before. I think the break-up compounded that as well as the messages hanging on the fence. But I always remind myself that he is still here spiritually and that he keeps me guiding, so there is no reason to cry...

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I also think that I cried over Prince because it seems to me something was missing in his life. He had a son who died shortly after his birth. I don't know what he was like to his nephews, but at least he mentored many amazing people who do well now. When Michael Jackson passed, I cried a little, but I saw the legacy in his children (which is sort of weird, because none of them is a professional entertainer...). Amy Winehouse didn't have children, but she didn't have prematurely dying children either. And her death was certainly more tragic because she had only released two albums at the time of her death - I'm sure there would have been other great things to come from her (although there are unreleased songs floating on YouTube). We have had children dying sooner than their parents in our family, but some of my relatives don't talk about them at all. My great-grandma told my grandma if her firstborn daughter hadn't died, she and my great-grandfather would've never conceived her. Which sounds like, "We didn't want you in the first place." There are children dying even in my own family, but it sounds like a taboo.

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Reply #16 posted 04/22/18 10:21am

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kingricefan said:

It was quite cathartic for me to go to PP. I hope that it will do the same for you. Listen for the cooing of the doves when you are in the atrium. The cages are located on the second level. I wish you peace and a lighter heart.

JohnShaft said:

No need for guilt when it comes to greiving. If others don't get it that's their problem and not yours at all. I'm planning a trip to PP in July and it's the first time I'll ever walk thru those doors. That being said, I have no doubt at all that I'll start losing it and I already know I'm going to break down.

That's just part of "this thing called life". If folks are human, have a heart and a soul they'll understand.

Thank you for the kind words and wishes and I will make it a point to do just that when I visit there!

Who's the private d*ck that's a sex machine to all the chicks?
Who's the man that would risk his neck for his brother man?
Who's the cat who won't cop out when there's danger all about?
John Shaft ... Damn Right!
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Reply #17 posted 04/22/18 10:28am

kingricefan

You're welcome! Be sure to make the trip down the sidewalk that is in front of PP along the main road as it will take you underneath the road and you will be able to view all of the messages that have been painted on the sides of the three tunnels located there. Take pictures as it will take you a couple of hours to read them all!!! Also- I don't know what tour level you are taking but I uege you to take the VIP tour- it's definately worth it.

JohnShaft said:

kingricefan said:

It was quite cathartic for me to go to PP. I hope that it will do the same for you. Listen for the cooing of the doves when you are in the atrium. The cages are located on the second level. I wish you peace and a lighter heart.

Thank you for the kind words and wishes and I will make it a point to do just that when I visit there!

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