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Thread started 01/07/17 4:57pm

annastesia1

his people should have taken better care of him

I know this has been said before. I wish he would have had good people advising him. When someone is a big star people don't want to say anything.
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Reply #1 posted 01/07/17 5:02pm

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annastesia1 said:

I know this has been said before. I wish he would have had good people advising him. When someone is a big star people don't want to say anything.
The factor is he should've been more open and accept help from them when they see something not right but how can you when a confidentiality contract is mandatory to be signed up in your face if you want to work or play in the band to make extraordinary music love together with him but how can you stop what you couldn't see...
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Reply #2 posted 01/07/17 5:16pm

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I think Prince should've taken more care of Prince to be quite honest. As much as I love him, it's easier to point the blame rather than accept the fact that Prince was a grown man who made his own decisions, sadly leading to his untimely demise.

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Reply #3 posted 01/07/17 5:28pm

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It is a little bit of both in my opinion. Everyone needs support and understanding. But people don't always know how to give it, especially if one is not forthcoming about his/her needs. I have actually stated that people letting him self-medicate to deal with chronic pain may have had nothing but love for him. My uncle is dealing with chronic basically-uncurable pain that he will live with [to some degree or another] for the rest of his life and he won't take drugs (and no doctor is going to give him a lifetime supply of drugs to deal with it anyhow). Now, the dude can't even sleep. What kind of quality of life is that? People have been telling Prince to slow down since the 80's. In a way, he has been killing himself for the last 30 years. But everytime my uncle for example surfed or rode in motocross he was contributing to chronic pain he was going to have later in life. I doubt he would have it any other way.

I am more sad for P in that he died alone and was unable to give himself down-time. The dude needed a little more balance in his life. If my uncle for example died tomorrow (God-Forbid), he would at least have grandchildren and a wife with him.

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smoothcriminal12 said:

I think Prince should've taken more care of Prince to be quite honest. As much as I love him, it's easier to point the blame rather than accept the fact that Prince was a grown man who made his own decisions, sadly leading to his untimely demise.

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[Edited 1/7/17 17:33pm]

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Reply #4 posted 01/07/17 6:24pm

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Reply #5 posted 01/07/17 6:27pm

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Yep. But he was waaaay too secretive to be properly looked after. I've come to accept that. He put up walls. He purposely kept others from knowing the full truth about himself. I was very angry initially that he had been left alone that night, but now my frustration and disappointment is more about his chaotic childhood and broken home issues that left him emotionally bruised/broken. Whatever happened in those formative years shaped the adult. I wish he had acknowledged any hang ups he had and sought professional help to deal with them and/or the limitations they presented. Mostly I wish he had never experienced neglect, abandonment, fear, or any of the other things children do at the hands of the adults who are supposed to nurture and protect them.
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Reply #6 posted 01/07/17 8:49pm

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Yes, I agree. I don't think Prince was stoic or lacking in affection necessarily. But he gave pieces of himself to people and keep recesses of himself hidden. He bonded with people but never completely let up his guard. He compartmentalized his life. It was a controlled and rather cautious life in many ways despite his wild sense of humor and fun. Its quite sad really and more of a reason for people to listen to his music (and in all periods of his life)..his music might be cryptic but it comes from his imagination and his heart. It reflects what he really was, what he wanted to be, and what he thought he was. He and Alan Leeds are both wrong that Prince was a funnel or vessel for God's music. That's a discredit to Prince. it came from him--from his effort, his internal life, his heart, his reflection of the world, his sense of humor, his wild internal spirit. It was how he connected to the world and even at many times how he connected to the people around him. It freed him in spirit but enclosed him in life.

That svengali image that people have of Prince hopefully will change to one of a man who felt most comfortable with himself and others when music was involved (thus the reason he showed affection to female musicians, proteges, love interests etc through supporting their careers..

Music--his crutch, his downfall and his salvation all at the same time. However, the man seemed to lack balance in life. Music can't be everything but I think people should respect his sacrifice by giving his music from all periods the benefit of the doubt.

Susan Rogers stated that if you want to get to know Prince, its all in his music. I think she is probably right.

sonshine said:

Yep. But he was waaaay too secretive to be properly looked after. I've come to accept that. He put up walls. He purposely kept others from knowing the full truth about himself. I was very angry initially that he had been left alone that night, but now my frustration and disappointment is more about his chaotic childhood and broken home issues that left him emotionally bruised/broken. Whatever happened in those formative years shaped the adult. I wish he had acknowledged any hang ups he had and sought professional help to deal with them and/or the limitations they presented. Mostly I wish he had never experienced neglect, abandonment, fear, or any of the other things children do at the hands of the adults who are supposed to nurture and protect them.

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Reply #7 posted 01/07/17 9:04pm

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smoothcriminal12 said:

I think Prince should've taken more care of Prince to be quite honest. As much as I love him, it's easier to point the blame rather than accept the fact that Prince was a grown man who made his own decisions, sadly leading to his untimely demise.



Honestly I would love to know where this 'people around him didn't care enough' idea came from. What evidence do we have? Just because he happened to be alone when he died? The Carver County Sheriff said it was not uncommon for Prince to be alone at Paisley Park. IMO People needs to stop blaming others. Like you say he was a grown man who made his own decisions. It's not Kirk J. or anyone else's fault he's no longer here.
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Reply #8 posted 01/07/17 9:33pm

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smoothcriminal12 said:

I think Prince should've taken more care of Prince to be quite honest. As much as I love him, it's easier to point the blame rather than accept the fact that Prince was a grown man who made his own decisions, sadly leading to his untimely demise.

True that.

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Reply #9 posted 01/08/17 10:43am

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You can't help somebody if they aren't willing to help themselves.

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Reply #10 posted 01/08/17 1:45pm

RJOrion

thats not fair to say that...thats like saying his parents should have taken better care of him
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Reply #11 posted 01/08/17 1:50pm

Dibblekins

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Yes, I agree. I don't think Prince was stoic or lacking in affection necessarily. But he gave pieces of himself to people and keep recesses of himself hidden. He bonded with people but never completely let up his guard. He compartmentalized his life. It was a controlled and rather cautious life in many ways despite his wild sense of humor and fun. Its quite sad really and more of a reason for people to listen to his music (and in all periods of his life)..his music might be cryptic but it comes from his imagination and his heart. It reflects what he really was, what he wanted to be, and what he thought he was. He and Alan Leeds are both wrong that Prince was a funnel or vessel for God's music. That's a discredit to Prince. it came from him--from his effort, his internal life, his heart, his reflection of the world, his sense of humor, his wild internal spirit. It was how he connected to the world and even at many times how he connected to the people around him. It freed him in spirit but enclosed him in life.

That svengali image that people have of Prince hopefully will change to one of a man who felt most comfortable with himself and others when music was involved (thus the reason he showed affection to female musicians, proteges, love interests etc through supporting their careers..

Music--his crutch, his downfall and his salvation all at the same time. However, the man seemed to lack balance in life. Music can't be everything but I think people should respect his sacrifice by giving his music from all periods the benefit of the doubt.

Susan Rogers stated that if you want to get to know Prince, its all in his music. I think she is probably right.

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[Edited 1/7/17 20:53pm]



Beautifully expressed, and I couldn't agree more...Everything is in his lyrics, if people care to read them carefully enough, and be open to their contents...

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Reply #12 posted 01/08/17 3:55pm

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Reply #13 posted 01/08/17 4:06pm

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RJOrion said:

thats not fair to say that...thats like saying his parents should have taken better care of him

Well, they probably should have, instead of kicking him out and around and him having to live with another family.

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Reply #14 posted 01/08/17 5:06pm

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rogifan said:

smoothcriminal12 said:

I think Prince should've taken more care of Prince to be quite honest. As much as I love him, it's easier to point the blame rather than accept the fact that Prince was a grown man who made his own decisions, sadly leading to his untimely demise.

Honestly I would love to know where this 'people around him didn't care enough' idea came from. What evidence do we have? Just because he happened to be alone when he died? The Carver County Sheriff said it was not uncommon for Prince to be alone at Paisley Park. IMO People needs to stop blaming others. Like you say he was a grown man who made his own decisions. It's not Kirk J. or anyone else's fault he's no longer here.

yeahthat Playing the blame game is not going to bring him back.

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Reply #15 posted 01/08/17 7:39pm

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His people called an addiction specialist to get him help so they did care.
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Reply #16 posted 01/09/17 7:30am

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.... because you're totally going to force a grown ass man to do something he doesn't want to do.

Look, I've wrestled dogs who weigh more than Prince at his healthiest, and have the scars to prove it. Prince is much smarter than a dog, so I highly doubt I could have dragged his 112 lb ass anywhere he didn't want to go, despite outweighing him significantly.

What exactly did you want his people to do?

Stop blaming them already, it's stupid.

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Reply #17 posted 01/09/17 7:47am

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sonshine said:

Yep. But he was waaaay too secretive to be properly looked after. I've come to accept that. He put up walls. He purposely kept others from knowing the full truth about himself. I was very angry initially that he had been left alone that night, but now my frustration and disappointment is more about his chaotic childhood and broken home issues that left him emotionally bruised/broken. Whatever happened in those formative years shaped the adult. I wish he had acknowledged any hang ups he had and sought professional help to deal with them and/or the limitations they presented. Mostly I wish he had never experienced neglect, abandonment, fear, or any of the other things children do at the hands of the adults who are supposed to nurture and protect them.


I think it was very scary for him to get very close to other people. Even people he was intimate with like Carmen Electra and others, have said that they wish they had told him how much he meant to them. This tells me that a lot went unsaid, unspoken, even in his closest relationships. Even with the men he would have deep talks with, I don't know that he fully let anyone all the way in. Maybe.
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Reply #18 posted 01/09/17 1:22pm

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Dibblekins said:



purplerabbithole said:


Yes, I agree. I don't think Prince was stoic or lacking in affection necessarily. But he gave pieces of himself to people and keep recesses of himself hidden. He bonded with people but never completely let up his guard. He compartmentalized his life. It was a controlled and rather cautious life in many ways despite his wild sense of humor and fun. Its quite sad really and more of a reason for people to listen to his music (and in all periods of his life)..his music might be cryptic but it comes from his imagination and his heart. It reflects what he really was, what he wanted to be, and what he thought he was. He and Alan Leeds are both wrong that Prince was a funnel or vessel for God's music. That's a discredit to Prince. it came from him--from his effort, his internal life, his heart, his reflection of the world, his sense of humor, his wild internal spirit. It was how he connected to the world and even at many times how he connected to the people around him. It freed him in spirit but enclosed him in life.



That svengali image that people have of Prince hopefully will change to one of a man who felt most comfortable with himself and others when music was involved (thus the reason he showed affection to female musicians, proteges, love interests etc through supporting their careers..



Music--his crutch, his downfall and his salvation all at the same time. However, the man seemed to lack balance in life. Music can't be everything but I think people should respect his sacrifice by giving his music from all periods the benefit of the doubt.



Susan Rogers stated that if you want to get to know Prince, its all in his music. I think she is probably right.








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[Edited 1/7/17 20:53pm]





Beautifully expressed, and I couldn't agree more...Everything is in his lyrics, if people care to read them carefully enough, and be open to their contents...


+1
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Reply #19 posted 01/09/17 1:23pm

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PennyPurple said:



RJOrion said:


thats not fair to say that...thats like saying his parents should have taken better care of him

Well, they probably should have, instead of kicking him out and around and him having to live with another family.


yeahthat
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Reply #20 posted 01/13/17 12:51am

PRNluv2

Although he's gone, we must remember that Prince lived a charmed life. He traveled the entire world and his vast experiences taught him well and grew him (intellectually and spiritually) into the man we know and love. We must remember that in addition to being a musician, he was a highly successful business professional. Therefore, no one should even think of Prince as this tossed away man-child. As a teenager, he was well groomed, and well dressed which meant he was cared for and nurtured, and I'm sure he loved his family deeply. Let's all respect the MAN that he grew to become and not have a pity party about how he grew up or his childhood experiences.

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Reply #21 posted 01/13/17 4:42am

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It's true that someone taught him well in childhood. But that doesn't mean he wasn't also affected.
I agree with your other points. Very important.
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