Why do people continue to entertain this person and their negativity? He obviously feeds on this which probably adds to his 716 supposed pounds.

"DON'T FEED THE TROLLS", small big or extra large ones

ufoclub said:

You just got to grieve and let yourself process it. It's horrible, yes, and there's the realization that we all have to pass on at some point. But there does come a way to look at it from the side of enjoying what was and what is still here, the art.

All of us fanatics had him in our imaginations as a friend, a hero, a teacher, a jester... making him even more real than actual people in our lives. It's because he put out so much.

Yah... perhaps you're right.

You described the feeling almost to a tee. Thank you - now I know my feelings are real, and that others are going through this, this... "healing" process. It sux, but maybe it is something I'm just going to have to ride out. But when will that be?? I'm sick of hurting and bawling when I hear certain songs, read articles, see pictures, and write posts (such as this). This is crazy and you say there's more I've yet to go through?!?

I've been serious about my spiritual journey for quite some time now. There's not any confusion there. I just want to get past his death.

Lovejunky said:

You are definately NOT alone...

There are many people experiencing his loss in deep and profound ways...

He is NOT An ordainairy human being...Thats Clear to me now...

Many people describe a feeling in their Gut like being Love sick...

Like when your dearly beloved is away from you and you pine for them...

Its coupled with seperation pain that sits on the edge of almost hurting so much that you could throw up...

and then there is the melancholy.....

He is gone, but he seems more alive then ever....

I have come to a stage where I actually enjoy the bitter sweet feelings...

I have been inspired to look within, and get serious about my spiritual journey...

Just as he did...

[Edited 9/20/16 17:15pm]

roxy831 said:

Thank you... <3 So... I guessing that sometime soon this will get better. Thanks for your encouragement. Love back atcha.

Lovejunky said:

You are definately NOT alone...

There are many people experiencing his loss in deep and profound ways...

He is NOT An ordainairy human being...Thats Clear to me now...

Many people describe a feeling in their Gut like being Love sick...

Like when your dearly beloved is away from you and you pine for them...

Its coupled with seperation pain that sits on the edge of almost hurting so much that you could throw up...

and then there is the melancholy.....

He is gone, but he seems more alive then ever....

I have come to a stage where I actually enjoy the bitter sweet feelings...

I have been inspired to look within, and get serious about my spiritual journey...

Just as he did...

[Edited 9/20/16 17:15pm]

THIS^^^^! Exactly how I describe my grief. Cried HARD tears for 3 months. August came, and I'm at least strong enough to keep most of my tears from falling. Then today....oh today, grief hit me like a ton of bricks all over again. Let the waves of grief come and return back to the sea over and over again. I've come to a point of acceptance now, and the journey has brought me back to my spiritual connection with God in more ways than one. You are definitely not alone!

Sometimes I wish they could understand, then sometimes maybe it's better that they don't. Thank you for sharing <3

rvafanatic said:

You are not alone. Still crying intermittently, especially when I read posts like yours because I am in the same emotional boat. Wondering why others around me give me the sideeye when I talk about him. So I shut down and turn up the music.

Thank you... <3 In a weird (maybe twisted) way it's comforting to know others are suffering this same grief.

BT11 said:

Same here. Even after 5 months. He inspired me on several levels, also professionally (his sheer ambiton and uniqueness). He was the soundtrack of my adult life; discovered him when I was around 17 and I am 30 now.

Still listening to him constantly (right now 'Still Would Stand All Time') and enjoying the unreleased tracks coming forward.

Anyway, you are not alone! I also find comfort in visiting the org very much.

[Edited 9/20/16 18:50pm]

Thank you. I shouldn't think this is too weird or like something is wrong with me. (because I do). But you did say something very enlighting when you say "Prince was more than just a entertainer, cant really describe it but its something powerful."

I agree 150%. Had to be something special about him. Beyond special... almost unearthly. The force is strong. Heh-heh

IsufferfromMPS said:

All the above. At least here I don't feel like Im losing it or something is wrong with me. People here are feeling the same way. I have spent 37yrs adoring this man and he's gone. I will always miss him. It will get easier as time goes on im sure, but it is what it is for right now. Prince was more than just a entertainer, cant really describe it but its something powerful. That's very evident in the fact that there are so many still feeling this way 5mos later

IsufferfromMPS said:

Why do people continue to entertain this person and their negativity? He obviously feeds on this which probably adds to his 716 supposed pounds. "DON'T FEED THE TROLLS", small big or extra large ones

He must be extremely bored to spend his time doing this.

I feel the same way, but I wish I didn't. I wonder if he knows how many tears were shed over his departure from this earth? Thank you for sharing this <3

1contessa said:

I think of Prince often, and there are times that I still can't believe he's gone. Even the coming season of Fall and Winter makes me think of him, because I've always associated cold weather with Minnesota, the place where Prince lived, and it makes me feel sad because he's no longer with us. I know that I never knew him, and he never knew I even existed, but I feel like I lost a loved one.

DiamondStarr,

You're not the only one struggling with grief. For me, every 21st of each moth after Prince's passing, I feel the sorrow returning. Though every consecutive time, it is less instense. I too hide my tears from family and friends. They don't get it. I care about him deeply. I miss his presence in this world.

I feel very thankful that this site is available. I can see that there are others here who feel similarly about Prince as I do.

Thank you <3

lucylula said:

I too am in exactly the same boat as you Prince's music has been my drug for 30 years, some people smoke, drink etc but for me it's Prince's music that has got me through everything in life, both good and bad. I know we will always have that but knowing he has gone somehow seems to have affected my listening. I am really grateful to know that there are people out there who understand and that this fantastic forum exists for us all.

<3 Thank you and it's good to know that we're not alone in this "Healing Process". I guess it will get easier - eventually... hopefully soon... real soon... as soon as possible...

least87 said:

Thank you so much for starting this topic. I was thinking the very same thing earlier tonight. I totally understand how you are feeling because I am feeling much the same way. The sense of loss and grief that I feel is overwhelming and I have not experienced this before. Just today, when I read the story in Rolling Stone, I almost felt sick about the changes being made to Paisley Park and have to remind myself "he's gone" and things have to move forward. Just before Prince died, I experienced a significant family loss and have to think there's some connection. I keep thinking I just need to let myself go through the grief and eventually it will be less painful. With the 6-month anniversary tomorrow, there's no sign yet. I so appreciate this site and all the discussion. It is a comfort to know I am nt the only one. Thank you, all!

Believe me, I have thought about it more times than I care to say, but we as humans try to "fix" things ourselves. Who wants to be seen as weak, or as needing help?

But since I'm not completely stupid or blind to the possibility that I may have left a few of my marbles in the attic someplace (if you get what I mean), and that I may have to lay across someone's couch and tell them why I'm sad, or why mommy didn't hug me enough, or daddy issues. Ugh! I will keep that as an absolute LAST resort, although I do appreciate the honest suggestion. <3 back atcha!

Asenath0607 said:

phatphuk said:

I'm not trying to be funny. But you — and others experiencing the same kind of "suffering" as you — seriously should not rule out seeking professional counseling.

Do yourselves a favor.

Why?

[Edited 9/20/16 22:54pm]

Thank you for sharing this link. I will give it a read. <3

morningsong said:

I don't know if this will help it's a long talk and it covers all kinds of grief, but maybe somebody will get something. The Myth of Closure http://www.onbeing.org/pr...io?embed=1

jjam said:

I guess some people know they will not be missed or grieved when they depart this earth for 5 days, let alone 5 mos.
It bothers those people that someone most people never met could have such an outpouring of feelings and love bestowed upon them in death, and in their sad lil life people that actually KNOW them will not feel that way about them.

I had a very hard time reading through this one without a few tears. But I thank you. I do feel you're right about much that you've said here. I do believe his soul is in his music, something very, very powerful and unique.

I'm not a star-struck type person. In fact, I say "they're people too". and "they put their underwear on one leg at time just like the rest of us. The only difference is they have one helluva kick ass job! Right?

But this is different - this is strange...

Like you say, there is a connection. Some kind of connection to him or his music or both. Thank you for letting me know "It's okay". I needed to hear that. I guess I thought it weird that not too many people on forums, blogs or chats were talking about their feelings about him (and I guess his death) Like it was tabu or something. I felt a little silly making it a new Topic, but now I'm glad I did. People have been very kind and helpful (because that's the kind of people Prince attracted). <3

CherryMoon57 said:

jayseajay said:

You are not alone...and it is hard, because ppl in our day to day life mostly don't get it, and its easy to feel like you're being judged, or to judge yourself for it, but it is what it is, and I've been trying very hard to just let it be, and to know that there are lots and lots of other people who feel it to. I think there are a whole buch of reasons why it feels like this. First of all, as some people have said, we felt, and we still feel very connected to him...and yes, we didn't know him personally, but at the same time he poured so much of himself into that work, and it's incredibly emotionally and spiritually and energetically communicative....and if you're open to it, you can really feel it...and that's what he wanted, he wanted to feel connected in that way, he wanted to touch people, and it really mattered to him...I don't think it's some kind of mass hallucination or projection on our part...it's there, it's in the music...his soul is in the music...just right there. And then he goes and dies in this awful terrible incomprehensible way which is, in many ways, completely out of character...and it's a total shock, and really hard to understand, and feels just incredibly wrong...and at the same time, very little comes back to us from the people around him which acknowledges that we have a meaningful connection to him and that we really care about him and need to understand what happened to him. I feel the message we get irom a lot of people is bascially, 'you're just fans and you don't really know this person'...and I'm not blaming the people around him for the way its gone down, there are many understandable reasons for that...but it does feel quite dismissive...and I don't think it reflects what P felt about his fans at all...it's kind of interesting for example that the only plans he left were for what to do with PP as a place for fans to come and visit. The family have done the best they could under a terrible set of circumstances, but yeah...it's been hard when P spent so much time building such strong connection with people to just be shut out like that. So all of this together is really a recipe for a lot of grief I think. It's not weird. He was an incredibly powerful creature, and he left, just like that, with no warning, and in a really distressing way, and coming to terms with it takes a lot of time, and that's okay....

phatphuk said:

PeteSilas said:

"...I see a ban in your future..."

Why do you think that? Are you a moderator?

you are a troll. troll on.

PeteSilas said:

every day, every single day. why him? why that way? life/god has a cruel sense of irony. I just watched a vid on youtube about paisley park, circa 88, where one guy raved about his work ethic saying he did more in one year than a lot of hardworking artists did in five. just a freak and a force of nature, why him? And if he could get lost somehow, what is the hope for the rest of us schmucks?

Yah... those questions will never be answered. And I do wonder what was going on with him? If any of us had known he was in pain, was doing these wonderful, athletic performances for us - we would have told him:

- "We love you and we will come see you and buy your music even if you have to sit and play. We would rather have you here and doing what you needed to do to take care of your body, and your pain, then to have you GONE and not spreading your special brand of love all over the world."

Whew! That's what I would say to him and I'm sure most feel the same way about that.

phatphuk said:

StopIt said:

"...Yes, there is structured help available for the sake of those affected..."

"...Explore those grief coping & learning avenues in your real, day-to-day life, beyond what other org members' words of support can effectively offer you..."

"...So important..."

Thank you. Well put!

You're saying the same things I said. But because you don't weigh 716 lbs like yours truly, they don't try to bully you to try to coerce you to tow the line, like they do me :¬(

if you really weight that much, and I doubt you do, you would be much better off worrying about what you need.

You are not alone at all.

I just wrote this somewhere else and I share here as well.

It is 5 months later and still in a great deal of pain. Prince's death has fundamentally changed me. Oddly enough I think his death so unexpected and heartbreaking was another of his gifts to us. Everyone was changed.

It greatly expanded my heart chakra. The pain was intense and spiraled down to the deepest center of my heart and kind of burst it open. A physical pain. He feels like part of the DNA in my heart now. I can't separate him.

In not being able to separate him, or let him go, I realize I don't have to. He's in my heart in literal way. Like he's going to live there forever ALIVE as he ever was. And in many ways I feel so much closer to him than before because he's always with me.

He was steaming qualities of the 5th dimension- LOVE in all forms including sexual and spiritual, joy, fun, childlike, creative, being in the now, peace, soverignty. . That vibe that he was streaming- now streams from my heart - through him.

He was/is much more than a regular soul. He had a great spiritual purpose and fulfilled it. His last gift- the pain that causes our hearts to transform. If you are in any way metaphysical you understand that he was bringing us to exactly where gaia is going- 5D.

I'm so greatly humbled by his life, his music and the gifts that he's given that I am overwhelmed with love for him. Daily. I close my eyes and say to him "Namaste, and thank you."

It's exaclty like this photo posted here so beautifully. This little man who came with such a HUGE extraordinary spirit. The tree is the real photo of Prince here.

[Edited 9/21/16 17:41pm]

phatphuk said:

MysticalChick said:

"...True to your username..."

Yeah. Well. So what if I do weigh 716 lbs and I need to be hoisted from my bed every morning with a Caterpillar forklift?

I can't help it if I'm big-boned :¬(

That still doesn't change the fact that a lot of Prince death "chronic grievers" would be well-advised to partake of the professional mental health services available in their respective communities.

What the O.P. and others have described is not normal behavior.

Prince's obvious musical genius notwithstanding — what's been described is an extraordinarily disproportinate amount of "grieving" over a Pop Idol who you never knew personally. A Pop Idol who never knew — on a personal level — you from Adam.

You might think you're comforting people like that, by mollycoddling them. But you're actually doing them more harm than good by preventing them from getting the help they so clearly would benefit from.

Does such a situation of indulging someone who needs professional help, ring any bells?

You're kinda funny! He-he. But C'mon, we can see that you're hurting just a bit too... It's okay. We're in the company of very cool people and they won't judge you too harshly if you'd stop using jokes to hide the pain. LetitGo - it's a natural process like most who have posted here are going through.

It's just a little more intense because it is, after all... Prince. Who never did anything half-assed. <3 at U.

This is so beautiful - thank you!

Lyght2 said:

You are not alone at all.

I just wrote this somewhere else and I share here as well.

It is 5 months later and still in a great deal of pain. Prince's death has fundamentally changed me. Oddly enough I think his death so unexpected and heartbreaking was another of his gifts to us. Everyone was changed.

It greatly expanded my heart chakra. The pain was intense and spiraled down to the deepest center of my heart and kind of burst it open. A physical pain. He feels like part of the DNA in my heart now. I can't separate him.

In not being able to separate him, or let him go, I realize I don't have to. He's in my heart in literal way. Like he's going to live there forever ALIVE as he ever was. And in many ways I feel so much closer to him than before because he's always with me.

He was steaming qualities of the 5th dimension- LOVE in all forms including sexual and spiritual, joy, fun, childlike, creative, being in the now, peace, soverignty. . That vibe that he was streaming- now streams from my heart - through him.

He was/is much more than a regular soul. He had a great spiritual purpose and fulfilled it. His last gift- the pain that causes our hearts to transform. If you are in any way metaphysical you understand that he was bringing us to exactly where gaia is going- 5D.

I'm so greatly humbled by his life, his music and the gifts that he's given that I am overwhelmed with love for him. Daily. I close my eyes and say to him "Namaste, and thank you."

It's exaclty like this photo posted here so beautifully. This little man who came with such a HUGE extraordinary spirit. The tree is the real photo of Prince here.

Thank you for sharing your grief. Blessings to us all in this together.

DiamondStarr said:

This is so beautiful - thank you!

Lyght2 said:

You are not alone at all.

I just wrote this somewhere else and I share here as well.

It is 5 months later and still in a great deal of pain. Prince's death has fundamentally changed me. Oddly enough I think his death so unexpected and heartbreaking was another of his gifts to us. Everyone was changed.

It greatly expanded my heart chakra. The pain was intense and spiraled down to the deepest center of my heart and kind of burst it open. A physical pain. He feels like part of the DNA in my heart now. I can't separate him.

In not being able to separate him, or let him go, I realize I don't have to. He's in my heart in literal way. Like he's going to live there forever ALIVE as he ever was. And in many ways I feel so much closer to him than before because he's always with me.

He was steaming qualities of the 5th dimension- LOVE in all forms including sexual and spiritual, joy, fun, childlike, creative, being in the now, peace, soverignty. . That vibe that he was streaming- now streams from my heart - through him.

He was/is much more than a regular soul. He had a great spiritual purpose and fulfilled it. His last gift- the pain that causes our hearts to transform. If you are in any way metaphysical you understand that he was bringing us to exactly where gaia is going- 5D.

I'm so greatly humbled by his life, his music and the gifts that he's given that I am overwhelmed with love for him. Daily. I close my eyes and say to him "Namaste, and thank you."

It's exaclty like this photo posted here so beautifully. This little man who came with such a HUGE extraordinary spirit. The tree is the real photo of Prince here.

I feel closer to him too. When he went the leaves of the tree blew, and everyone who was open to it got one...and yes, it's been terribly painful, and also incredibly enlivening and transformative...and I know lots and lots of people have felt it

DiamondStarr said:

I had a very hard time reading through this one without a few tears. But I thank you. I do feel you're right about much that you've said here. I do believe his soul is in his music, something very, very powerful and unique.

I'm not a star-struck type person. In fact, I say "they're people too". and "they put their underwear on one leg at time just like the rest of us. The only difference is they have one helluva kick ass job! Right?

But this is different - this is strange...

Like you say, there is a connection. Some kind of connection to him or his music or both. Thank you for letting me know "It's okay". I needed to hear that. I guess I thought it weird that not too many people on forums, blogs or chats were talking about their feelings about him (and I guess his death) Like it was tabu or something. I felt a little silly making it a new Topic, but now I'm glad I did. People have been very kind and helpful (because that's the kind of people Prince attracted). <3

CherryMoon57 said:

musicfan77 said:

DiamondStarr said:

Not sure this is the place to post this but I feel that I can't be the only Prince fan who's struggling with inexplicable grief over his death. I still cry quite often and I never even met the man, much less pretend to know who he was as a person. But I just can't shake this grief. Every time I read a story or watch a Youtube vid about people telling their stories about Prince, and what a kind, giving, creative, spiritual, intellectual and compassionate genius he was, here come the tears again. I'm sure my husband and friends think I've lost my mind, so I do my best not to cry in front of anyone anymore, but they just don't know that I, myself don't understand it either.

Never have I felt this way about any other famous person who's passed on, and I hope I never do again because this really hurts. He should be here, doing what he does. Instead, he's not... I know God has a place and a plan for everyone. Common sense tells me that is was just him time to leave, but that still doesn't make the tears stop.

Is there anyone else out there still struggling with this "grief"? I know I can't be the only one, so I set an account here to hopefully talk to others who are "suffering" like I am for no darned explicable reason that I can think of. I've cried more over this man whom I've never met, than I have over my own family members that have passed. What the hell is wrong with me??

If there's anyone else out there, who'd like to discuss their Prince related grief, please post here. If you have a story to tell, I'd love to hear it. Maybe we can help each other heal.

Thanks for listening...

Yes, my sister is tired of me talking about him. I have been watching his videos every night for 4 months now. I grew up in the 80s, and recall going to the theater to see Purple Rain and hearing his songs on the radio all the time. He was the soundtrack to my life. The performances on stage were like no other artist. The energy on stage, the timing, the band in sync with every move was insane. Name an artist today, that can play 27 instruments, sing, write music, hit songs nonetheless,dance, perform, engage his audience,choragraph a show, and have a style with clothes, not to mention having his own color. He was one of a kind, extremely rare, and so dam cute. Everytime, he walked on stage, people could not get enough of him. Many people feel very emotional over losing Prince. Stevie Wonder, Van Jones, CNN reporters crying over his loss. Prince was very special. We will never have anyone like Prince, and that is what makes his loss so hard to accept. [Edited 9/20/16 19:43pm] [Edited 9/20/16 19:46pm]

So well put! He was one in 77Trillion, there will be no one like him. I miss him...

twinnies said:

I never got a chance to see Prince in person and I'm still grieving his passing.

Now I wish I had gone to see more of his shows. I thought I had time...

JoeyCococo said:

morningsong said:

I don't know if this will help it's a long talk and it covers all kinds of grief, but maybe somebody will get something. The Myth of Closure http://www.onbeing.org/pr...io?embed=1

Not alone...I feel the same and have curtailed my sorrow in front of people as I. Can't leton how bothered I still am. I am deeply impacted now and then ...Bill's tribute at BET, Janelle's explosion after her BET set....watchivideos of him on top of his game....The Ladder, The LAST December... everything. I too wander how I can feel this bad for someone I never met. Well, I believe it is b/c of his sincerity in his art that has caused such a deep connection with us. He truly believed in his work and was fully committed at all times. Time will heal but as someone else said, he seems alive still as we keep finding new leaks, new songs, shows etc.he left so many treasures.

Sounds so familiar. I guess soon it will get better.

jjam said:

I think it's very important to get on with one's life, but...this has been much harder than I anticipated. I heard Purple Rain in a shop the other day and got very teary. And I cried watching the Vikings half time tribute.

I always knew I'd find it tough when Prince would eventually pass, thinking he'd last for a few more decades. But I never expected him to die so young and so suddenly. This is what makes it particularly hard to rationalise his passing. It still all seems so very surreal.

Yep, I agee. I never thought it would be this hard either. In fact, I never gave it much thought at all. Maybe it is the shock of it all causing some of this emotion.

PurpleDiamonds1 said:

You are not alone I feel like many others that posted. My heart is still hurting, the tears still fall and the hurt is felt daily. Prince was so much more than a musician, he had a different energy, like a positive bright force and the world just feels different with out him. I agree with what Lovejunky said.... Raised hands, to the most intriguing personality since Jesus. He was indeed sent from above and I feel so fortunate to have been a part of this journey.

You're right. He did leave lots of love behind, things that will never go away. His music, his style, his charm, his love. I wish there were more people on this planet like him.