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Reply #90 posted 08/12/16 3:43pm

Vashtix

LBrent said:

Waiting4Fall said:

I remember at my b-day parties when I was little, thinking I had a lot of friends. I’m guessing they were more like acquaintances. Now I have someone I go to dinner with occasionally, but that’s it. It’s hard to make real friends, especially when you aren’t in school. And I'm so introverted, the thought of going out and meeting people just exhausts me.

That being said, I know plenty of people with boyfriends/girlfriends/spouses that are lonely.

Being Prince, I'm sure he took every relationship he had with a grain of salt and he got burned plenty of times. I don't think fans are friends. Everyone has an agenda.

2 things... 1) I just saw a clip from Lopez where P's in red and showing George Lopez a yellow guitar. When George asks if P had others, P sorta smiles sadly and says something like, "No, people steal from me." 2) I read an old interview from Rolling Stone magazine where the interviewer drove with P to pick up his Dad to play pool on his Dad's birthday. P's driving his Dad's white 1966 Thunderbird (from the Alphabet video) and his Dad's carefully driving the purple BMW that P got him for a previous birthday). Anyway, earlier P takes the interviewer around to the neighborhood he grew up in and then to the modest purple split level house with the recording studio, behind the gates with the heart/peace sign. The one that was later torn down. So, fame and money were still fairly new and P was still young and trying to live in a step up from regular life. Like imagine how you live right now and you think that if you can live in your house, but upgrade a few things, keep living the way you live but get a car that runs better, buy a few toys. That's sad cuz of where he was in life, but he mentioned how he wished his friends (which would be old friends from childhood and his bandmates up to the 1999 era at this point) would visit much more, but he felt that they felt they were bothering him but that he missed them. I was SOBBING. That was before PR, before PP, and he already was behind a gate with security because he said more aggressive fans would come by and be buzzing the bell or driving past, blaring his music. He said he didn't mind fans dropping by but his neighbors would complain about the disturbance cuz even though it was a nice area, it was as a regular neighborhood and the houses weren't really far away from each other. The interviewer said P was a good neighbor. The whole thing made me nauseous. Here he was, a young guy just trying to live his dream, only to find himself already lonely and cut off from his regular life. I can only imagine how much worse it all got the more famous/rich he got. That's how someone becomes a legendary icon...and dies alone in an elevator in their home compound. It makes me sad and angry for him. [Edited 8/12/16 0:48am]

True sad

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Reply #91 posted 08/12/16 4:50pm

jumanji2016

When 'Purple Rain' returned to a local theater after his death, I recorded some videos of the audience's reaction. When 'Darling Nikki' came on some of the older women started whistling, screaming, and singing along like they were re-living a great time in their lives. As a person that wasn't born when Purple Rain was released, it was heart-warming to watch. Prince is still exciting women from the beyond the grave LOL.
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Reply #92 posted 08/12/16 4:56pm

jayseajay

jumanji2016 said:

Prince is still exciting women from the beyond the grave LOL.

Yup. He's going to be getting us hot for pretty much eternity. It's quite a legacy smile

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Reply #93 posted 08/12/16 6:46pm

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jayseajay said:

jumanji2016 said:

Prince is still exciting women from the beyond the grave LOL.

Yup. He's going to be getting us hot for pretty much eternity. It's quite a legacy smile

lol

"Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." --Plato

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Reply #94 posted 08/12/16 6:53pm

Iluvmusic78

This is so sweet Nodin!

I am so grateful for my friends and family who have respected my mouring of the loss of the man I've loved my whole life

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Reply #95 posted 08/12/16 7:35pm

emby

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emby said:


Yes! 47. I don't have any other middle-aged women around me to talk to about this experience. (Over and over--I need to talk about it). That's why I come here. I wish I could have a big potluck with all of you and we could actually have a shared grieving experience, in person. I'm having a really hard time.



Would it be totally bizarre to create a Prince Grieving Meetup?


Not TOTALLY bizarre...probably not as totally bizarre as a carpool convoy pilgrimage to PP in October...right?
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Reply #96 posted 08/12/16 9:43pm

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I am still trying to figure that out. Is what it is and I am glad for it. I have NEVER cried when a famous person passed. But Prince. Hit me hard. Cried like a baby tonight once again reading up on the post regarding a memorial today for him. That was my first post on the forum. . this is my second. I am so grateful for prince.org. And for this particular forum as well. prince cry

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Reply #97 posted 08/12/16 10:55pm

206Michelle

I'm too young for this article to be about my experiences, but hopefully some of you can relate to it!

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I've Spent 33 Years with Prince's Music and My Life Is Better for It

From: http://www.xojane.com/ent...ce-tribute

[Edited 8/12/16 22:56pm]

Live 4 Love ~ Love is God, God is love, Girls and boys love God above
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Reply #98 posted 08/13/16 4:13am

AA1slot

Glad this forum ishere as I have the same reaction and I don't understand why his death has bothered me so much. I never met him, but have been a fan since the beginning although somewhat lacksadaisical. Life got in the way. I know this sounds stupid but he awakened something in me...I had come out of a 30 year marrige and swore off men. I havent had a date in over 10 years and thought that ok. My friends thought I was nuts. I found Prince very attractive even at my age...I repeat would have done him in a heartbeat and it made me realize, hey I'm not dead, still have a little bit goin on and make use of what you got and the time you got left. Although, like some other orgers have said am now forever disappointed I missed my chance to hook up with P. (Not that there was ever a chance). I think P was lonely also....his actions make it sound that way. I htought the journalist said that P's fear was to be alone. I dont think we die alone.... one of my relatives who died in a hospital and a nurse taking care of them related this story. The nurse came in to give him r meds or check monitors, he was in his final hours and had not spoken for a few days. He told her to move out of the way, that she was blocking his view. The nurse turned and looked; no one was there and there were no windows in the room. He sat up in his bed and smiled. He died within the hour. I can only think that Someone came to get him and accompany him to peace.

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Reply #99 posted 08/13/16 2:51pm

IsufferfromMPS

Every emotion and feeling of mine has been expressed in this thread. He was my, as well as many other's "first love". You never get over ur first love.
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Reply #100 posted 08/13/16 11:37pm

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luvsexy4all said:

damn ..he made grown men cry...



You got it!
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Reply #101 posted 08/14/16 4:44am

Vashtix

NOH said:

I am still trying to figure that out. Is what it is and I am glad for it. I have NEVER cried when a famous person passed. But Prince. Hit me hard. Cried like a baby tonight once again reading up on the post regarding a memorial today for him. That was my first post on the forum. . this is my second. I am so grateful for prince.org. And for this particular forum as well. prince cry

grouphug

I know I have the same feeling.

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Reply #102 posted 08/14/16 7:03am

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Kinda missing him 2 day

cry sigh broken

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Reply #103 posted 08/15/16 6:30am

CAL3

Nodin said:

My son just asked me why Prince makes me cry. I was watching Prince sing on the Musicology DVD tour and was reduced to tears. I said that to make a young woman cry ( I was one once so I remember), just about all you need is a pretty face and a slow song. He said you mean like Justin Bieber (who he is not a fan of )? I said yes like that (no offense to the young folks who are here who like him). To make a 50 plus women sob, takes soul and groove and words that fill you to the brim and then overflow. Prince stands alone in that category for me. My sweet 11yr old boy then sat and held me. I love my son for understanding and I miss Prince in my world. sad

Am I missing something here? What does gender have to do with it?

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Reply #104 posted 08/15/16 6:55am

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jayseajay said:

I've been thinking about this a lot - because man, this shit is hard - and I think it's a whole bunch of things, many of which have been mentioned, but with P, it's all of them at once...

- The world is getting more and more commercialized and trashy, and P represented the importance of realy, authentic music, and the type of community that could create, as opposed to it being all about brands and image and bullshit...

- Almost no-one could channel energy/love the way he did, he could just open himself and out it came, and that is incredibly rare and precious, and I can't think of anyone else who can do it...and its just such a phenomenal loss...

- It's a dark year in general, and everything seems to be getting way darker and he knew that, and saw it coming, and told us we all needed to stick together, and now he's not effing here...and we need him...

- I think for a lot of us middle aged women, he was really tied up with our sexual awakenings, and losing him has taken us back to that, and what he represented for us then, and y'know, to think about the difference between how we felt when we were 14 or whatever, and the real life and real men that came after that...which was not always quite so sexy...

- There was the human bit of P (which as we know, was as human as everyone), and then there's the artist, and what he could do, and the fact that there is something just so otherworldly and transcendent about it...and it feels like that can't and shouldn't and won't die, and at the same time, he's dead and it makes no sense at all...

- The way he died was awful and shocking and tragic and confounding and so so wrong for someone who lived the kind of life he lived, and it's not okay, and it's just really really hard to come to terms with...

- And it also I think, really stimulates the protective part of us, because we realize now there was something really not okay with him, and we want to be able to do something about it and help him or get someone to help him, and we can't and we never will and it's too late and that just totally sucks...

So yeah, lots of stuff...

excellent post! With the times getting darker, many would take comfort in the thoughts and news of P. still rocking the house with apparant ease and such a high incomparable standard. It's a terrible loss for us, but who knows he really might be better off now. Even dying, specifically in the elevator might have occurred to him as amusing. To think such a human being lived in our times!. He'll continue to be an inspiration.
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Reply #105 posted 08/15/16 12:09pm

jayseajay

CAL3 said:

Nodin said:

My son just asked me why Prince makes me cry. I was watching Prince sing on the Musicology DVD tour and was reduced to tears. I said that to make a young woman cry ( I was one once so I remember), just about all you need is a pretty face and a slow song. He said you mean like Justin Bieber (who he is not a fan of )? I said yes like that (no offense to the young folks who are here who like him). To make a 50 plus women sob, takes soul and groove and words that fill you to the brim and then overflow. Prince stands alone in that category for me. My sweet 11yr old boy then sat and held me. I love my son for understanding and I miss Prince in my world. sad

Am I missing something here? What does gender have to do with it?

Erm, wanting to fuck him? Just a thought smile

Not like I love my guitar....
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Reply #106 posted 08/15/16 12:15pm

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jayseajay said:

CAL3 said:

Am I missing something here? What does gender have to do with it?

Erm, wanting to fuck him? Just a thought smile

yeahthat Thanks, I was wondering how to reply to this, but you did it for me nod

"Give me back the time, you can keep the memories"
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Reply #107 posted 08/15/16 12:16pm

jayseajay

Nodin said:

jayseajay said:

Erm, wanting to fuck him? Just a thought smile

yeahthat Thanks, I was wondering how to reply to this, but you did it for me nod

highfive

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Reply #108 posted 08/15/16 12:30pm

LuxLove

LBrent said:

Waiting4Fall said:

I remember at my b-day parties when I was little, thinking I had a lot of friends. I’m guessing they were more like acquaintances. Now I have someone I go to dinner with occasionally, but that’s it. It’s hard to make real friends, especially when you aren’t in school. And I'm so introverted, the thought of going out and meeting people just exhausts me.

That being said, I know plenty of people with boyfriends/girlfriends/spouses that are lonely.

Being Prince, I'm sure he took every relationship he had with a grain of salt and he got burned plenty of times. I don't think fans are friends. Everyone has an agenda.

2 things... 1) I just saw a clip from Lopez where P's in red and showing George Lopez a yellow guitar. When George asks if P had others, P sorta smiles sadly and says something like, "No, people steal from me." 2) I read an old interview from Rolling Stone magazine where the interviewer drove with P to pick up his Dad to play pool on his Dad's birthday. P's driving his Dad's white 1966 Thunderbird (from the Alphabet video) and his Dad's carefully driving the purple BMW that P got him for a previous birthday). Anyway, earlier P takes the interviewer around to the neighborhood he grew up in and then to the modest purple split level house with the recording studio, behind the gates with the heart/peace sign. The one that was later torn down. So, fame and money were still fairly new and P was still young and trying to live in a step up from regular life. Like imagine how you live right now and you think that if you can live in your house, but upgrade a few things, keep living the way you live but get a car that runs better, buy a few toys. That's sad cuz of where he was in life, but he mentioned how he wished his friends (which would be old friends from childhood and his bandmates up to the 1999 era at this point) would visit much more, but he felt that they felt they were bothering him but that he missed them. I was SOBBING. That was before PR, before PP, and he already was behind a gate with security because he said more aggressive fans would come by and be buzzing the bell or driving past, blaring his music. He said he didn't mind fans dropping by but his neighbors would complain about the disturbance cuz even though it was a nice area, it was as a regular neighborhood and the houses weren't really far away from each other. The interviewer said P was a good neighbor. The whole thing made me nauseous. Here he was, a young guy just trying to live his dream, only to find himself already lonely and cut off from his regular life. I can only imagine how much worse it all got the more famous/rich he got. That's how someone becomes a legendary icon...and dies alone in an elevator in their home compound. It makes me sad and angry for him. [Edited 8/12/16 0:48am]


This breaks my heart.

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Reply #109 posted 08/15/16 2:19pm

ldmendes

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jayseajay said:

Nodin said:

yeahthat Thanks, I was wondering how to reply to this, but you did it for me nod

highfive

yeahthat yeahthat Me too! I call first!

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Yes, this is a prettyman, Princey!
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Reply #110 posted 08/15/16 2:48pm

jayseajay

ldmendes said:

jayseajay said:

highfive

yeahthat yeahthat Me too! I call first!

You'd think all the threads that dissolve into dick-pics would have given the game away by now. We must try harder (ahem) smile

Not like I love my guitar....
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Reply #111 posted 08/15/16 2:54pm

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jayseajay said:

ldmendes said:

yeahthat yeahthat Me too! I call first!

You'd think all the threads that dissolve into dick-pics would have given the game away by now. We must try harder (ahem) smile

lol Funny how often that happens right? Oh well I said what I needed to at the time. Better to end with a smile!

"Give me back the time, you can keep the memories"
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Reply #112 posted 08/15/16 3:01pm

jayseajay

Nodin said:

jayseajay said:

You'd think all the threads that dissolve into dick-pics would have given the game away by now. We must try harder (ahem) smile

lol Funny how often that happens right? Oh well I said what I needed to at the time. Better to end with a smile!

Yeah, all roads lead to dick-pics... smile That's what I love most about Prince famdon. Pure shameless female lust. It's what our boy asked for, and we are happy to deliver smile

Not like I love my guitar....
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Reply #113 posted 08/15/16 3:10pm

PliablyPurple

jayseajay said:

CAL3 said:

Am I missing something here? What does gender have to do with it?

Erm, wanting to fuck him? Just a thought smile

Erm, you don't think any of his male fans wanted to fuck him? Just a thought...

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Reply #114 posted 08/15/16 3:13pm

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jayseajay said:

Nodin said:

lol Funny how often that happens right? Oh well I said what I needed to at the time. Better to end with a smile!

Yeah, all roads lead to dick-pics... smile That's what I love most about Prince famdon. Pure shameless female lust. It's what our boy asked for, and we are happy to deliver smile

lol Prince was porn for women.

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Reply #115 posted 08/15/16 3:14pm

jayseajay

PliablyPurple said:

jayseajay said:

Erm, wanting to fuck him? Just a thought smile

Erm, you don't think any of his male fans wanted to fuck him? Just a thought...

Any? Defintely. Almost every single one of them? Possibly not.

Not like I love my guitar....
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Reply #116 posted 08/15/16 3:19pm

PliablyPurple

jayseajay said:

PliablyPurple said:

Erm, you don't think any of his male fans wanted to fuck him? Just a thought...

Any? Defintely. Almost every single one of them? Possibly not.

But it was a question of gender, not of numbers.

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Reply #117 posted 08/15/16 3:19pm

jayseajay

Krystalkisses said:

jayseajay said:

Yeah, all roads lead to dick-pics... smile That's what I love most about Prince famdon. Pure shameless female lust. It's what our boy asked for, and we are happy to deliver smile

lol Prince was porn for women.

So much better than porn. So. Much. Better. If most porn understood what gets us hot as well as P did, I'd watch a lot more porn smile

Not like I love my guitar....
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Reply #118 posted 08/15/16 3:20pm

PliablyPurple

But who cares? Just sayin' that some blokes love Prince as eye candy, too. And I've actually met women who, gasp, didn't think Prince was all that. I disagree wholeheartedly, but there ya go...

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Reply #119 posted 08/15/16 3:23pm

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jayseajay said:

Krystalkisses said:

lol Prince was porn for women.

So much better than porn. So. Much. Better. If most porn understood what gets us hot as well as P did, I'd watch a lot more porn smile

highfive Amen to that sister!

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