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Thread started 05/04/16 2:30pm

bambi777

Will I ever get over this?

I know this has been discussed time and time again since his passing but I am still having such a hard time with this.It's like a big hole in my heart has been ripped out and it can never be filled.They're are just so many unanswered questions and I need closure.I go to the grocery store and see his face all over the magazines.I go online and their are new articles regarding his death.It's just overwhelming at times.I'm sorry if I'm rambling on..I just need to vent and I feel comfortable doing that here...I cry as I'm writing this...I have been a huge fan since I was 12 yrs old and his songs have gotten me through so many hard times in my life..It's just so bizzare that he is gone.I know they say the day the music died was Feb 3,1959 but for me it was 4/21/16. There will never in a million yrs be a musician that will even come close to Prince..he was one of a kind and I just feel so lost...just had to share my feelings... sad

[Edited 5/4/16 14:31pm]

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Reply #1 posted 05/04/16 2:45pm

NorthC

And it's not getting any easier with all the stories that keep hitting the press. Every day there's a new twist to the story, a new rumour that stops the wound from healing. I've dealt with people dying in my personal life, but the cause of death was always clear, I could go to the funeral and deal with it, but in Prince's case, it just keeps developping. Every day things turn out to be different than you thought. But... The answer to your question is, yes, as hard as it is, you will get over it. Because human beings are strong (even if it doesn't seem like it) and, strange and unfair as it may seem now, life goes on. Hang on. We're here. hug
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Reply #2 posted 05/04/16 2:52pm

bambi777

NorthC said:

And it's not getting any easier with all the stories that keep hitting the press. Every day there's a new twist to the story, a new rumour that stops the wound from healing. I've dealt with people dying in my personal life, but the cause of death was always clear, I could go to the funeral and deal with it, but in Prince's case, it just keeps developping. Every day things turn out to be different than you thought. But... The answer to your question is, yes, as hard as it is, you will get over it. Because human beings are strong (even if it doesn't seem like it) and, strange and unfair as it may seem now, life goes on. Hang on. We're here. hug

Thank you for your kind words...It's just been a really hard day for me..some days are good and some are bad...Thank god for everybody here on the Org...It has helped me get through this..I just feel like nobody understands but thanks again...

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Reply #3 posted 05/04/16 5:42pm

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Most of us here understand completely.

We can't NOT be reminded constantly. It's still all over the news, internet, etc. I always knew how much he and his music meant to me, was used to defending him for 30 plus years, etc. but I must say I'm very surprised it's such a big story.

Once the autopsy results are revealed I think it'll be easier to "move on".

It's true that time really does help. Hopefully we'll all get to the stage when we can be happy and thankful in our memories of knowing his talent and music while he was still alive. How lucky we are to have been in the same realm as him. But it's important to realize that he was a man, not a God. Appreciate the people in your life. Tell them you love them and enjoy the hear and now. Take care, we're in this together.....

www.soberrecovery.com/recovery/when-doves-cry-why-the-lost-child-deeply-grieves-the-loss-of-prince/

Eventually every cloud runs out of rain.
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Reply #4 posted 05/04/16 6:00pm

renfield

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It's okay. Let it out. Every bit you send out into the world is just that much less that's bottled up inside you. None of us will ever "get over it" but eventually we'll learn to live with it. And then we can get back to just enjoying the music. That hasn't gone anywhere. smile

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Reply #5 posted 05/04/16 6:56pm

trc1

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You're not alone. Take all the time you need. Avoid the negative news. We're all here with you. I can't take looking at that pics of his last super bowl performance. Had him and my fav team. Then a pic from that performance was used to tell what just happened. Taking my time as well. rose
"I don't make the rules. I just play"
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Reply #6 posted 05/04/16 7:01pm

purplesweat

All I can say is it took me two years to get over MJ's passing. I think I was semi ready for Prince after emergency plane landing otherwise I would've been completely stunned like with MJ. It will pass, it always does. Grief is normal and weird as hell, just let it happen.

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Reply #7 posted 05/13/16 6:41pm

bigtimefan

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This is a great article for you, me, and all of us that are STILL having a hard time...

www.psychologytoday.com/blog/neurosagacity/201604/music-and-the-brains-reward-and-bonding-systems

Music and the Brain's Reward and Bonding Systems
Two reasons Prince was truly a part of us.
Posted Apr 28, 2016

When fans say Prince touched them deeply, it was because, neurobiologically, he did.

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Eventually every cloud runs out of rain.
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Reply #8 posted 05/13/16 6:52pm

funksterr

bambi777 said:

I know this has been discussed time and time again since his passing but I am still having such a hard time with this.It's like a big hole in my heart has been ripped out and it can never be filled.They're are just so many unanswered questions and I need closure.I go to the grocery store and see his face all over the magazines.I go online and their are new articles regarding his death.It's just overwhelming at times.I'm sorry if I'm rambling on..I just need to vent and I feel comfortable doing that here...I cry as I'm writing this...I have been a huge fan since I was 12 yrs old and his songs have gotten me through so many hard times in my life..It's just so bizzare that he is gone.I know they say the day the music died was Feb 3,1959 but for me it was 4/21/16. There will never in a million yrs be a musician that will even come close to Prince..he was one of a kind and I just feel so lost...just had to share my feelings... sad

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Reply #9 posted 05/13/16 7:06pm

gollygirl

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I feel the same. It is going into week 4 now - and I have not slept alot, stayed up too late, not eaten as I should, over tired, drained, cannot concentrate & have angry moments and it has affected my quality of work at my employment where I have just been overwhelmed and wanted to walk out & drive off and never come back to reality. I even just wanted to die myself so I would not feel the sorrow inside. But of course I know this is not an option and would not really do anything silly.

I cant talk to my family as they are over it now & even suggested counselling & implying there is something wrong with me (and to an outsider I can see their reasoning, as it makes no sense to them). So I have to keep it all in and pretend all is OK so that is a struggle too. I am sure I am not alone in any of these feelings???

I also feel guilty as I do have the same faith but feel like my dragging on in this sorrow makes me act like a person without faith.........so I struggle with feeling guilty over this too. Why I just cannot get a grip?

I feel embaressed I am acting this way over someone I never personally met but only saw him in concert. The last time being in February at the Sydney Opera House. I am so happy having seen him again and it was a magical evening - but in some ways it has made the pain more intense because when you just see him live it gives you such a high for months and you are like a new fan again (if you get what I mean?) so it is more raw for that reason too. Also I cannot reconcile it as he was so happy and was enjoying the show so much himself and now this happened?

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Reply #10 posted 05/13/16 7:11pm

BombFunk

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Each day I hope it gets better but thusfar it hasn't gotten better at all, I will never get over this, I am still crying on and off and sometimes I get angry about it as well now, he still should have been here with us, he should have gotten more time to take care of things ... I miss him like crazy, I want to see him again, to know he is doing fine, that he is happy and found peace ... this world is just a bad place now that Prince is no longer here ... bheart


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Reply #11 posted 05/13/16 7:13pm

UncleJam

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Everyone deals with grief in their own way, and I'm a little surprised that I have not experienced any sadness over Prince's passing. There was the initial shock, and I STILL cannot believe he's gone, but I am celebrating the man! I am so proud of him, to see the rest of the world finally stand up and give him his props...long overdue. He was a spiritual man who is now at home with his father...we should all take solace in that and be happy for him, even though we feel in our gut that this didnt have to happen the way it did...but isnt death always like that? Hugs and kisses to you all...

Make it so, Number One...
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Reply #12 posted 05/13/16 8:14pm

airth

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A horrible big hole of emptiness. I've been able to enjoy the music again, but sometimes the loss engulfs me completely. Last night I just fell to my knees in the middle of the street and would have been happy if death had taken me. No-one here has any idea how I feel. Somehow I'm managing to keep on functioning.

I hate the word closure. There is no such thing. We simply learn to live with and partition off the loss within us. I have partitions for my father, for my friends, for all those who have left before me. Sometimes I open partitions from twenty years ago and touch what's inside; it feels like someone is reaching into my gut and squeezing the life out of me. I cry; I scream into the night; I contemplate joining them; I get up and go on.

Death is part of life. We have to face it full on. We learn to accept it. The feelings we have are proof of the value of the life lost. The fact that we feel such anguish at the loss of Prince reflects the meaning his life had. I'll embrace the pain.

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Reply #13 posted 05/14/16 10:53am

funkystuff

I am still some kind of paralysed. Haven't listened to his music since because I simply do not dare to do so. The topic is more or less constantly on my mind. I think it will take some time until I will be able to celebrate our man and his music again. Still too sad.

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Reply #14 posted 05/14/16 11:39am

leslievette

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The hardest thing I've had to deal with. I don't want to accept it. You're absolutely not alone. I avoid anything and everything Prince related unless it's on my terms. Meaning, I choose when I want to watch and listen. When I see a magazine in the store, I immediately look the other way. If more "news" pops up on TV, I turn the channel or walk out. I also haven't been able to listen to his music around anyone else. Every day is different, I don't know what I'll feel emotionally, so I listen to him in private where I can deal with it however I choose. I can't speak for other people, but I don't think I'll ever have "closure". It's just a matter of figuring out how to live and deal with it.

hug

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Reply #15 posted 05/14/16 1:29pm

cardinal

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leslievette said:

The hardest thing I've had to deal with. I don't want to accept it. You're absolutely not alone. I avoid anything and everything Prince related unless it's on my terms. Meaning, I choose when I want to watch and listen. When I see a magazine in the store, I immediately look the other way. If more "news" pops up on TV, I turn the channel or walk out. I also haven't been able to listen to his music around anyone else. Every day is different, I don't know what I'll feel emotionally, so I listen to him in private where I can deal with it however I choose. I can't speak for other people, but I don't think I'll ever have "closure". It's just a matter of figuring out how to live and deal with it.



hug




i have gone through all the phases of grief, except acceptance, whatever the hell that means, several times over. and now i am in a really weird place. i was ok seeing his photo and hearing him do interviews, but no singing and no videos. but today, i saw his photo and had to look away, like i can't even bear to look at him right now. i almost feel like i have to temporarily block him out, which makes me feel sadder, guilty, and worried that i will never be able to reconnect with him again through his music, interviews, and videos.

i guess i am still a mess.
"If u love somebody, your life won't be in vain
And there's always a rainbow, at the end of every rain."--peace and love, dear prince.....
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Reply #16 posted 05/14/16 4:42pm

Kacey725

I got upset when I turned on Sirius XM Channel 50 this morning and they had reverted back to their original programming...no more Prince channel. It felt like a punch in the gut...like I was being told "we've moved on, so now you need to move on, too."

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Reply #17 posted 05/14/16 8:52pm

leslievette

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cardinal said:

i have gone through all the phases of grief, except acceptance, whatever the hell that means, several times over. and now i am in a really weird place. i was ok seeing his photo and hearing him do interviews, but no singing and no videos. but today, i saw his photo and had to look away, like i can't even bear to look at him right now. i almost feel like i have to temporarily block him out, which makes me feel sadder, guilty, and worried that i will never be able to reconnect with him again through his music, interviews, and videos. i guess i am still a mess.

I know how you feel, it's very hard to describe. I've yet to put all the pieces together myself.

From now on, 4 U I shall be wild 💜
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Reply #18 posted 05/14/16 9:19pm

somethinginthe
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bambi777 said:

I know this has been discussed time and time again since his passing but I am still having such a hard time with this.It's like a big hole in my heart has been ripped out and it can never be filled.They're are just so many unanswered questions and I need closure.I go to the grocery store and see his face all over the magazines.I go online and their are new articles regarding his death.It's just overwhelming at times.I'm sorry if I'm rambling on..I just need to vent and I feel comfortable doing that here...I cry as I'm writing this...I have been a huge fan since I was 12 yrs old and his songs have gotten me through so many hard times in my life..It's just so bizzare that he is gone.I know they say the day the music died was Feb 3,1959 but for me it was 4/21/16. There will never in a million yrs be a musician that will even come close to Prince..he was one of a kind and I just feel so lost...just had to share my feelings... sad

[Edited 5/4/16 14:31pm]

I understand where you are coming from. I, too, have been a fan since the age of 12. I'm in my 40's now and I am completed stunned and saddened by Prince's death. Over the past few weeks, I have cried many tears and wonder when the grief will end.


The truth is there will always be an element of sadness as we continue our lives without him physically here, but the passage of time will allow our hearts to heal better. There will still be times where we will think about him and sob, but we will also reach a point where we will see his picture and simply smile in remembrance and gratitude. We will reach a place where we will hear his voice and dance joyfully.

I know this process will be slow. It won't be tomorrow. It won't be next week. It will be somewhere in the future on an unknown day, where we will look at the dawn and feel the warmth of the sun. And Prince, in Heaven, will be smiling back at us.

Until then, please know we are all here for you, and stand with you in this difficult time. - hugs - prince hug

Everybody's looking 4 the answers
How the story started and how it will end
What's the use in half a story, half a dream
U have 2 climb all of the steps in between......RIP Prince
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