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Reply #30 posted 05/04/16 1:49am

CherryMoon57

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This is how I want to remember Prince:

https://www.youtube.com/w...xVeUvo5COI

Check out the sheer happiness - and beauty - in his eyes at 1:58.

Life Matters
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Reply #31 posted 05/04/16 2:06am

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CherryMoon57 said:

This is how I want to remember Prince:




https://www.youtube.com/w...xVeUvo5COI




Check out the sheer happiness - and beauty - in his eyes at 1:58.





Great clip. Remember how he lived not how he died.
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Reply #32 posted 05/04/16 2:23am

DoItAllNight4U

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DarlingKris said:

I'm with you on that. Hang in there hug

Same here hug

"I was here in the beginning and I'll be here forever more"
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Reply #33 posted 05/04/16 2:24am

CherryMoon57

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littlemissG said:

CherryMoon57 said:

This is how I want to remember Prince:

https://www.youtube.com/w...xVeUvo5COI

Check out the sheer happiness - and beauty - in his eyes at 1:58.

Great clip. Remember how he lived not how he died.

nod that's exactely what keeps me going right now.

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Reply #34 posted 05/04/16 2:32am

DoItAllNight4U

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CherryMoon57 said:

This is how I want to remember Prince:

https://www.youtube.com/w...xVeUvo5COI

Check out the sheer happiness - and beauty - in his eyes at 1:58.

Thank you for sharing that <3

It's so cool to see him like that. Such a beautiful moment, made me cry

"I was here in the beginning and I'll be here forever more"
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Reply #35 posted 05/04/16 2:32am

masaba

Hang in there guys. I really REALLY love Prince, but I've only been a fan for a couple years. I mean, I love him. I am obsessed with his music. It's basically ask I've listened to for two years. And when the news broke I felt like my heart was going to split in two. I tried to be rational about it, people die ya know, we've all lost loved ones before... But this one just hurt. It just hurt too much.

For a few days I couldn't listen to anything without crying. I broke down in public which I can't remember ever happening to me. But after a while I realised no amount of grieving and wishing is going to bring him back. There a lot of new videos on YouTube and ironically they're the only thing that has made me feel better. They say to distract yourself with things you enjoy doing, and my favourite thing is new Prince, so I've just been doing that. And some videos are 2 fun to make me sad.

I guess the point which I was originally trying to make is that I truly feel for u long time fans. I can't even imagine what this must feel like. I think I still haven't grasped the situation. I still hope this is all one bad dream.

Long live the king.
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Reply #36 posted 05/04/16 2:55am

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DoItAllNight4U said:

CherryMoon57 said:

This is how I want to remember Prince:

https://www.youtube.com/w...xVeUvo5COI

Check out the sheer happiness - and beauty - in his eyes at 1:58.

Thank you for sharing that <3

It's so cool to see him like that. Such a beautiful moment, made me cry

Watching Prince being himself, and enjoying playing music has always made me happy. Since I've watched this video, it has stayed in my heart and throughout the day I can still hear the sound very distinctly all day long and it lights up my day. For the first time in days, my apetite has returned. I know it is hard at first, but look out for the rainbo on the other side.

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Reply #37 posted 05/04/16 3:31am

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For those having a difficult time, you might try not to listen to Prince music for a while.

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I've avoided listening to Prince music since the news broke. Figured it would be better. That way certain songs aren't forever linked to a memory of this time and what has ocurred. Sometimes whenever you hear a song you're instantly reminded of where you were and what was happening at a particular time.

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Reply #38 posted 05/04/16 3:32am

clairew1975

It will get better, we've all just got to take it one day at a time and go through the grief stages in our way and at our own pace.
I've gone through so many emotions these last 13 days. Shock, numbness, anger, denial.....I'm exhausted.
I was devastated over MJ, now I've lost both my musical idols.
Prince was a big part of my childhood.
I didn't think I'd ever be able to play his music again until last Friday when my friend did a tribute on a local radio show. I danced, laughed (at his Prince stories) and cried. Lots of crying.
So yesterday on the school run I put "Let's Go Crazy" on the stereo at full volume and my daughters and I sang it at the top of our voices. People were staring but we just didn't care!
It's really helped me I think because I really need to move forward.
He is gone but he'll never be forgotten. I'll make sure of that! Any future grandchildren of mine will know about Prince, and that's a promise :)

Prince 4ever and ever
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Reply #39 posted 05/04/16 3:36am

funkystuff

fbueller said:

For those having a difficult time, you might try not to listen to Prince music for a while.

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I've avoided listening to Prince music since the news broke. Figured it would be better. That way certain songs aren't forever linked to a memory of this time and what has ocurred. Sometimes whenever you hear a song you're instantly reminded of where you were and what was happening at a particular time.

That's exactly my strategy. I simply try to avoid it for a while. It still hurts. Even reading this trashy gossip on the internet hurts. Only the org gives some kind of consolation.

I still have a lot of stuff in my basement. My own vault. I think I will start going through these things in the near future (old newspaper snippets, memorablia, acessories etc.)

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Reply #40 posted 05/04/16 3:47am

clairew1975

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That's exactly my strategy. I simply try to avoid it for a while. It still hurts. Even reading this trashy gossip on the internet hurts. Only the org gives some kind of consolation.


I still have a lot of stuff in my basement. My own vault. I think I will start going through these things in the near future (old newspaper snippets, memorablia, acessories etc.)



Im in the UK so it's not all over the news, papers etc except for the trash papers which I avoid anyway (unless they're wrapping chips in it).
I took comfort from a tweet from Nik West, she said: "I learned a long time ago not to believe everything I read". Sensible words from someone who knew him very well.
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Reply #41 posted 05/04/16 6:06am

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I have finally started to go through all of my Prince albums and upload the ones I havent had on my iPod to my computer, then I found an array of interviews and preformances I have had hidden on a hard drive, and I watched them. I am filled with utter despair and dread. I don't want to live in a world without Prince. He helped me immensley growing up and into adulthood and seeing him and dancing with him on stage when I was fifteen was the best thing that has ever happened to me. I am so heartbroken, how are you coping with this? I know I am not the only one. Every day that passes is hurting more, its not getting any better. Will this be the only way I can listen to his music? Will I ever be able to see his face again without crying? It scares me.

I'm in the same boat as you. We all have a hole in our hearts, and we're all here for each other. Prince created his music for people to remember him - he will live on with his music. It's hard for all of us. Occasionally I break down and cry, I will admit that. But dont feel that U are alone in this, we are all hurting.

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Reply #42 posted 05/04/16 7:07am

MissRuby

I'm just wondering if anyone has thought about grief councelling? I'm having a hard time too, I am listening to Princes music almost obsessively because I feel I don't want to let go and I can't find closure. I feel like all the joys been taken from my life, despite having things that should bring me joy. I've cried more than I like to admit and I'm having trouble sleeping.

I just feel that at this point people are starting to judge me for not being over it by now. I just can't bring myself to be 'over it', it pains me almost all day.

I dunno, maybe this is a self indulgent rant.. But I just feel like my ability to deal with this is getting worse not better.
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Reply #43 posted 05/04/16 7:10am

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mcknzlrk said:

I have finally started to go through all of my Prince albums and upload the ones I havent had on my iPod to my computer, then I found an array of interviews and preformances I have had hidden on a hard drive, and I watched them. I am filled with utter despair and dread. I don't want to live in a world without Prince. He helped me immensley growing up and into adulthood and seeing him and dancing with him on stage when I was fifteen was the best thing that has ever happened to me. I am so heartbroken, how are you coping with this? I know I am not the only one. Every day that passes is hurting more, its not getting any better. Will this be the only way I can listen to his music? Will I ever be able to see his face again without crying? It scares me.

You are not alone.....

RIP Prince. We will NEVER forget you. Thank you so much.

"Dearly Beloved:
We are gathered here today 2 get through this thing called: 'Life'."
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Reply #44 posted 05/04/16 9:05am

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MissRuby said:

I'm just wondering if anyone has thought about grief councelling? I'm having a hard time too, I am listening to Princes music almost obsessively because I feel I don't want to let go and I can't find closure. I feel like all the joys been taken from my life, despite having things that should bring me joy. I've cried more than I like to admit and I'm having trouble sleeping.

I just feel that at this point people are starting to judge me for not being over it by now. I just can't bring myself to be 'over it', it pains me almost all day.

I dunno, maybe this is a self indulgent rant.. But I just feel like my ability to deal with this is getting worse not better.

I have borderline personality disorder and one of the things I struggle with is how to control grief, it's intense and overpowering. It cripples me. I am waking up crying since his death and have also been openly breaking down at work and in public, I have an appointment with my psych on the 11th, I'll let you know how it goes. I think if you are struggling to the point I am grief counseling may help you, I hope my psych helps me because I'm so depressed I feel like I've lost any reason to get up now. Not that Prince was my world, but he was a huge part of it, and his death mixed with my already unhealthy mental state is extremely tough and draining.
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Reply #45 posted 05/04/16 12:16pm

clairew1975

MissRuby said:

I'm just wondering if anyone has thought about grief councelling? I'm having a hard time too, I am listening to Princes music almost obsessively because I feel I don't want to let go and I can't find closure. I feel like all the joys been taken from my life, despite having things that should bring me joy. I've cried more than I like to admit and I'm having trouble sleeping.

I just feel that at this point people are starting to judge me for not being over it by now. I just can't bring myself to be 'over it', it pains me almost all day.

I dunno, maybe this is a self indulgent rant.. But I just feel like my ability to deal with this is getting worse not better.



Before I sought help & was put on antidepressants Prince's music really helped me through some tough times. Now he's gone I've regressed a lot. I'm supposed to be getting counselling, not sure where to start with this one as it tops off a pretty crappy 2016 so far!
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Reply #46 posted 05/04/16 12:30pm

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mcknzlrk said:

I have finally started to go through all of my Prince albums and upload the ones I havent had on my iPod to my computer, then I found an array of interviews and preformances I have had hidden on a hard drive, and I watched them. I am filled with utter despair and dread. I don't want to live in a world without Prince. He helped me immensley growing up and into adulthood and seeing him and dancing with him on stage when I was fifteen was the best thing that has ever happened to me. I am so heartbroken, how are you coping with this? I know I am not the only one. Every day that passes is hurting more, its not getting any better. Will this be the only way I can listen to his music? Will I ever be able to see his face again without crying? It scares me.

Yes I know exactly how you feel. When he died a part of me certainly has died too. Feel like my youth has finally disappeared.. sad

Time will heal us all. Sounds difficult now because this is so hard not only because we have lost our lovely genius Prince, but because it was such a shock, totally unexpected and he went far far too young.

I am heartbroken too. But we have to move on, stronger for having known him and his music and being inspired by his beauty.

All good things they say, never last.

Sending you love and blessings x

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Reply #47 posted 05/04/16 12:43pm

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CherryMoon57 said:

This is how I want to remember Prince:

https://www.youtube.com/w...xVeUvo5COI

Check out the sheer happiness - and beauty - in his eyes at 1:58.

I love this clip so much but it makes me cry so bad. I woke the other morning and knew I'd been dreaming about this particular peice of music. I can't bear it that he's no longer with us, the pain is too much.

Thank u 4 a funky time
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Reply #48 posted 05/05/16 1:28am

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mcknzlrk said:

I have borderline personality disorder and one of the things I struggle with is how to control grief, it's intense and overpowering. It cripples me. I am waking up crying since his death and have also been openly breaking down at work and in public, I have an appointment with my psych on the 11th, I'll let you know how it goes. I think if you are struggling to the point I am grief counseling may help you, I hope my psych helps me because I'm so depressed I feel like I've lost any reason to get up now. Not that Prince was my world, but he was a huge part of it, and his death mixed with my already unhealthy mental state is extremely tough and draining.

This is the first time I'm sharing this on here but I struggle with mental health issues too. I have had depression and social anxiety for years now. I also have this form of OCD called Body Dysmorphic Disorder. I feel that I have not been able to mourn properly and process my emotions because my mental issues come first and have been blocking me from focusing solely on Prince. It makes me feel strange and numb. It's because I've already been dealing with so much in my life and now Prince dies, it's too much for me to handle so my mind kicks into this weird state that prevents me from processing emotions properly.

"I was here in the beginning and I'll be here forever more"
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Reply #49 posted 05/05/16 1:45am

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I bawled like a baby today because I miss Prince so much. I am a born again Christian. It might sound like an oxy moron to be a Christian yet listen to Prince. But, I always understood Prince's love for God. Shoot, Purple Rain is about life's struggles between good and evil. Anyhoo, crying and mourning is good if it allows you to remember and celebrate the life of the loved one. We loved and enjoyed Prince's music. Now, we are all realizing that we all must die. Now, Prince is with his children in the presence of God. Prince believed in his Savior. I know in my heart and spirit that I will see Prince face to face when I cross over, but I want to see Jesus Chist first!
"A united state of mind will never be divided
The real definition of unity is 1
People can slam their door, disagree and fight it
But how U gonna love the Father but not love the Son?
United States of Division"
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Reply #50 posted 05/05/16 3:59am

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grouphug

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I keep going back to Dave Chappelle's words. They give me a lot of comfort.

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"Nothing of this world will begin to fill the void of his absence except his memory. Scientifically a memory is almost neurologically identical to an experience. So remember your loved ones often. Forget their faults and remember the best of what they made you feel. In that way … all of us are immortal gifts to one another that keeps on giving"

Baby, that was much too fast... 1958-2016
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Reply #51 posted 05/05/16 8:19am

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today I cried because I couldn't find my black african soap. but of course I was crying over Prince. I miss him so much. I also suffer from mental illness. I have clinical depression and a Generalized anxiety disorder. Plus I'm seriously introverted so I really like to be alone. I guess what I'm saying is that this is a recipe for another deep, deep depression. I miss him so much you guys. I miss him so much. It hurts so bad and I don't know what to do about it.

Join me under the waterfall
Climb the rainbow tree

love is my color when I am shown love in return
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Reply #52 posted 05/05/16 8:23am

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isobelfq said:

today I cried because I couldn't find my black african soap. but of course I was crying over Prince. I miss him so much. I also suffer from mental illness. I have clinical depression and a Generalized anxiety disorder. Plus I'm seriously introverted so I really like to be alone. I guess what I'm saying is that this is a recipe for another deep, deep depression. I miss him so much you guys. I miss him so much. It hurts so bad and I don't know what to do about it.

I hear yah , i have depression don't really like to talk about that, am up and down. Thank god i have this place with so many knowing how it feels. Hold in there please. hug

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Reply #53 posted 05/05/16 8:32am

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mcknzlrk said:

I have finally started to go through all of my Prince albums and upload the ones I havent had on my iPod to my computer, then I found an array of interviews and preformances I have had hidden on a hard drive, and I watched them. I am filled with utter despair and dread. I don't want to live in a world without Prince. He helped me immensley growing up and into adulthood and seeing him and dancing with him on stage when I was fifteen was the best thing that has ever happened to me. I am so heartbroken, how are you coping with this? I know I am not the only one. Every day that passes is hurting more, its not getting any better. Will this be the only way I can listen to his music? Will I ever be able to see his face again without crying? It scares me.



I have barely been able to look at pictures of him and occasionally an interview clip. I absolutely cannot listen to him sing right now, and it worries me that I don't know when I'll be able to. I feel like someone has just scooped out my insides and left me empty. but yesterday I made the tiniest step of progress. I realized I was feeling pressure to try to "get over this" because everybody around me has moved on, and a lot of people out in the world have probably moved on. and then it occurred to me, I don't have to move on in the same way as everyone else. I can, and I have, chosen to be forever changed by him, his music, and his death. I am a different person now going forward. It will be a new normal. I don't know what it will look like, but I don't feel pressured to go back to feeling the way I did before he passed. I don't even want to. In some ways, this grief will be with me the rest of my life. And in a way it brings comfort to know that he has changed me this profoundly. It's a way of keeping him with me I suppose. In a weird way, the knowledge that I'll never completely be over the pain of his death made me feel relief. i don't have to completely let go of the grief if i don't want to. and i don't, because it is part of the love.
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"If u love somebody, your life won't be in vain
And there's always a rainbow, at the end of every rain."--peace and love, dear prince.....
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Reply #54 posted 05/05/16 10:37am

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cardinal said:

mcknzlrk said:

I have finally started to go through all of my Prince albums and upload the ones I havent had on my iPod to my computer, then I found an array of interviews and preformances I have had hidden on a hard drive, and I watched them. I am filled with utter despair and dread. I don't want to live in a world without Prince. He helped me immensley growing up and into adulthood and seeing him and dancing with him on stage when I was fifteen was the best thing that has ever happened to me. I am so heartbroken, how are you coping with this? I know I am not the only one. Every day that passes is hurting more, its not getting any better. Will this be the only way I can listen to his music? Will I ever be able to see his face again without crying? It scares me.

I have barely been able to look at pictures of him and occasionally an interview clip. I absolutely cannot listen to him sing right now, and it worries me that I don't know when I'll be able to. I feel like someone has just scooped out my insides and left me empty. but yesterday I made the tiniest step of progress. I realized I was feeling pressure to try to "get over this" because everybody around me has moved on, and a lot of people out in the world have probably moved on. and then it occurred to me, I don't have to move on in the same way as everyone else. I can, and I have, chosen to be forever changed by him, his music, and his death. I am a different person now going forward. It will be a new normal. I don't know what it will look like, but I don't feel pressured to go back to feeling the way I did before he passed. I don't even want to. In some ways, this grief will be with me the rest of my life. And in a way it brings comfort to know that he has changed me this profoundly. It's a way of keeping him with me I suppose. In a weird way, the knowledge that I'll never completely be over the pain of his death made me feel relief. i don't have to completely let go of the grief if i don't want to. and i don't, because it is part of the love. [Edited 5/5/16 8:34am]

Yes! I was feeling pressure too, but we are not the same as them. We will never be the same after this, just as we were never the same after knowing him. Thank you for responding.

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Reply #55 posted 05/05/16 10:37am

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Funkmeimfamous said:

grouphug

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I keep going back to Dave Chappelle's words. They give me a lot of comfort.

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"Nothing of this world will begin to fill the void of his absence except his memory. Scientifically a memory is almost neurologically identical to an experience. So remember your loved ones often. Forget their faults and remember the best of what they made you feel. In that way … all of us are immortal gifts to one another that keeps on giving"

Thank you, I didn't read that until now. Thanks for responding.

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Reply #56 posted 05/05/16 11:02am

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DoItAllNight4U said:

CherryMoon57 said:

This is how I want to remember Prince:

https://www.youtube.com/w...xVeUvo5COI

Check out the sheer happiness - and beauty - in his eyes at 1:58.

Thank you for sharing that <3

It's so cool to see him like that. Such a beautiful moment, made me cry

That made my heart so happy. Love to see him like this. I'd give anything to just sit there with him and watch him in his element.

From now on, 4 U I shall be wild 💜
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Reply #57 posted 05/05/16 11:29am

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mcknzlrk said:

Funkmeimfamous said:

grouphug

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I keep going back to Dave Chappelle's words. They give me a lot of comfort.

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"Nothing of this world will begin to fill the void of his absence except his memory. Scientifically a memory is almost neurologically identical to an experience. So remember your loved ones often. Forget their faults and remember the best of what they made you feel. In that way … all of us are immortal gifts to one another that keeps on giving"

Thank you, I didn't read that until now. Thanks for responding.

Hang in there. MCKNZLRK!!! We will heal together, I promise you!!! We all feel such a deep, enormous loss- no different than losing a very good friend or family member. To think that he was so close to getting the treatment he needed didn't happen in time is crushing. Remember that last scene in the original Willy Wonka movie where the glass elevator shoots them up, way up into the sky>?? I want to believe that this is how Prince left thisa earth!!!!!!!!!!!!!! wink

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Reply #58 posted 05/05/16 6:07pm

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just needed to talk about it...

https://youtu.be/xFHxXmHUQqs

beret prince eye

"Now U can ALL take a bite of my purple rok!"
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Reply #59 posted 05/05/16 6:19pm

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PurpleRok said:

just needed to talk about it...

https://youtu.be/xFHxXmHUQqs

beret prince eye

https://youtu.be/xFHxXmHUQq


"Now U can ALL take a bite of my purple rok!"
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