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Thread started 04/29/16 8:26pm

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Grief and Moving On

As I am sure many of us here were and still are absolutely shattered by the death of Prince. I'm afraid that I will keep on staying in grief and every1 else will move on and get puzzled about why I am still sad.

I'm just so...shaken to the core. Everyday I go through denial, anger, sadness, etc, and then start it again the next day. 1 of the rocks that my mother and I built our relationship on was Prince...his death just takes a bucket of emotions and pours them on me all over again.

Is any1 else afraid of the rest of the world moving on and past his death but U still stay sad?

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Reply #1 posted 04/29/16 8:38pm

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100PercentSweet said:

As I am sure many of us here were and still are absolutely shattered by the death of Prince. I'm afraid that I will keep on staying in grief and every1 else will move on and get puzzled about why I am still sad.



I'm just so...shaken to the core. Everyday I go through denial, anger, sadness, etc, and then start it again the next day. 1 of the rocks that my mother and I built our relationship on was Prince...his death just takes a bucket of emotions and pours them on me all over again.



Is any1 else afraid of the rest of the world moving on and past his death but U still stay sad?


The world maybe. But this is a safe place to stay if you're gonna stay sad. The org won't move on without you, though members may leave if they're over it.
No matter the ©️, Paisley Park "official can never ™️ prince. He gave that to us verbally on Oprah in 1996. You can't take prince away from us, corporate. I mean O ( + >
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Reply #2 posted 04/29/16 8:57pm

PeteSilas

i won't be getting over it either. I've lost heroes before and family, i never really "get over" either. Losing michael probably hurt worse because his life was such a tragedy. Prince, i think, had lots of good times and he was free to be the most prolific pop artist ever.

I lost my mom 10 years ago this month, sometimes I wondered what she'd think of all this, she was a huge prince fan too. I never thought that my ma who died at 59 would have a longer life than Prince. Prince never did half the alcohol, food and probably prescription pills my mom did. I guess it shows that pills are as dangerous as we think they can be. (that is unless someone comes forth with information otherwise). I always assumed that Prince would live to old age and looked forward to seeing the kinds of tributes that ellington, sinatra and others enjoyed in their last years, guys recognized for the giants they were. It wasn't to be for Prince.

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Reply #3 posted 04/29/16 8:58pm

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I don't see myself getting over it. It will get easier, but even that is taking a while. Today felt not too bad until I read the wrong thing, probably the saddest piece of speculation I've seen so far, and I was crying again. I need to avoid the speculation. The official results will be hard enough to hear. There's no point in getting upset over gossip.
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That I've been dreaming of
The kind of love that takes over your
Body, mind, and soul
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Reply #4 posted 04/29/16 9:10pm

RobotDevil

I've had severe depression for years as it is, and Prince's passing has absolutely crushed me. I don't see myself getting over it either. I like what violectrica said, about the Org being a safe place to come. I know the Org has become much more of an important place for me emotionally in this last week than it ever was, and I've been coming here for over 15 years. We'll help each other cope and give support. Peace to all my purple family here.

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Reply #5 posted 04/29/16 9:12pm

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Don't be scared that you will be alone in feeling sad. We are with you, and although some of us seem to rebound and go back into a life that is always changing, it's just a front to get by. There will never be another Prince, a presence always be in the back of our minds entertaining us and in turn making life entertaining. Never. But I am grateful to have been here at the right time to witness it firsthand and while it was all happening! Just a beautiful energetic thing it was!

And little by little you will be able to go back and play stuff and watch stuff and have fun again!

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Reply #6 posted 04/29/16 9:12pm

PeteSilas

I re-joined the org just to say how I feel. Doubt i'll be here long, never really liked a good 25 percent of the fans and see it as not worth my time when all of this settles down. However, I won't be getting over this. But, like I said, it's not as sad to me as a couple other heroes I've had, Michael Jackson and Hector Macho Camacho, Camacho was a prodigal talent, and although I'm a musician, I always tell people that I would have been a better fighter than I'll ever be a musician. Anyway, both Macho and Jackson had screwed up lives which really stopped them way short of fulfilling their potentials, particularly Macho, for me, that's what made those deaths more sad. Remember the Bronx tale movie? "nothing sadder than wasted talent". It's true. Prince fulfilled his promise and went beyond it through passion and hardwork. We have another thread about one of P's teachers, that guy never thought P was especially talented at all, never was impressed and told people that. Prince earned everything he had through his honest work ethic and freakish energy and passion. He did more than anyone in his field ever did, and though I'm sad we won't see how it would have turned out and what surprises he had up his sleeves, I feel at peace with the brilliance he left behind.

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Reply #7 posted 04/29/16 9:18pm

emesem

I'm still hovering between denial and anger. The more stuff I watch and the more I read the more ridiculous and surreal this is to me. A part of me is not accepting this at all and another part of me wants to go beat someone up and break shit.

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Reply #8 posted 04/29/16 9:23pm

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RobotDevil said:

I've had severe depression for years as it is, and Prince's passing has absolutely crushed me. I don't see myself getting over it either. I like what violectrica said, about the Org being a safe place to come. I know the Org has become much more of an important place for me emotionally in this last week than it ever was, and I've been coming here for over 15 years. We'll help each other cope and give support. Peace to all my purple family here.

Our Purple Family :,)

Amen to all the other comments - we are a safe place. And yeah, I'm truly happy that we got to witness his creativity, his passion, his power, while he was still with us. Listening to his actual music is too painful, so I've been listening to the symphonic eaton canon royal ensemble version of Purple Rain....heartbreaking. At least he is with his child now and playing God some rockin music!

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Reply #9 posted 04/29/16 9:36pm

SteelPulse1

bawl


We went to 7 of those 21 night LA shows for 25$ whoa that was cool. That was the last time I saw him play n it was 5 yrs ago.


my tattoo I got way back when.
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Reply #10 posted 04/29/16 10:07pm

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I am still in denial that he is no longer here.

When I heard he was getting cremated I just cried even more. I kept telling my sister that it's like cremation means a body no longer exists...like Prince no longer existed. If he'd been buried he'd still be "there". Like for me the idea is just unreal. I know this is what Prince had requested.

So my sister tells me, "Prince still exists in his music".

I was bullied in school as a child and had low self-esteem growing up. His songs just made me so happy and feel beautiful too. sad

~The Poster Formerly Known As ParadiseKiss03~
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Reply #11 posted 04/29/16 11:10pm

beatz01

I'm slowly coming to terms with it.For once, i see the urgent need to get on with my life (i literally was out of order because of this for a whole week which has hurt my business) and more important, i kinda feel this whole situation is also meant to teach me something about my life and life in general.

Actually, it has teached me quite number of things (that i haven't fully grasped yet): The impact that Prince had on me not only as a musician (i'm a musician myself amongst other things) but also in terms of things like values etc and how - given the guy in some way or another was part of my life for more than 25 years - some of his being as an artist and as a human being as well has become part of my DNA.It also teaches me about the very fact that death is a part of life, it has given me a taste of how to deal with death, what it might feel should my mother or other loved ones die someday, it has showed me that nothing is forever, and that there will come the time when your (spiritual) leader has gone and you have to become a leader in your own life yourself etc.

It has already teached me a whole lot of stuff, and just for that alone i'm thankful.I haven't stopped mourning but i definately feel as sad as it all is, it's also meant to show me there is a light.


[Edited 4/29/16 23:17pm]

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Reply #12 posted 04/29/16 11:36pm

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MakeUpIsFabulous said:

I am still in denial that he is no longer here.

When I heard he was getting cremated I just cried even more. I kept telling my sister that it's like cremation means a body no longer exists...like Prince no longer existed. If he'd been buried he'd still be "there". Like for me the idea is just unreal. I know this is what Prince had requested.

So my sister tells me, "Prince still exists in his music".

I was bullied in school as a child and had low self-esteem growing up. His songs just made me so happy and feel beautiful too. sad

I hear you with the cremation part! And people keep saying they know that is what he requested, how do some of you know this?

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Reply #13 posted 04/30/16 12:05am

Eileen

Astasheiks said:

I hear you with the cremation part! And people keep saying they know that is what he requested, how do some of you know this?


Maybe some did say that, although I haven't read it. But I think that there is trust in some of the people involved, that they would do the best for him based on their direct knowledge.


Prince said nothing I've heard that would indicate a strongly different opinion - his expressed beliefs seem at least consistent with what we have seen carried out. At least to me they do, and I think that is true for those other people you are referencing.

It crosses my mind that I'd recently read Prince had been the executor of his father's estate. People frequently express their personal opinion about such matters when they have to determine and make arrangements for someone else's passing.


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Reply #14 posted 04/30/16 12:16am

meagemini2

There is never any "getting over it" - there is just learning to live with another

reality. A new normal. It's going to hurt for a long time and you'll have good days

and not so good days. But never apologize for your emotions and find support -

like the org. Peace and Love.

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Reply #15 posted 04/30/16 12:32am

tish9311

I have stopped trying to figure out where I am grief wise. I was listening to the Graffiti bridge CD, when New Power Generation comes on. Next thing I know, I'm crying like a baby. This song was my first adult Prince purchase and I felt like I was a pert of a new funky band of renegades listening and grooving with Prince.
Beautiful, Loved and Blessed

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Reply #16 posted 04/30/16 12:36am

PeteSilas

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I'm slowly coming to terms with it.For once, i see the urgent need to get on with my life (i literally was out of order because of this for a whole week which has hurt my business) and more important, i kinda feel this whole situation is also meant to teach me something about my life and life in general.

Actually, it has teached me quite number of things (that i haven't fully grasped yet): The impact that Prince had on me not only as a musician (i'm a musician myself amongst other things) but also in terms of things like values etc and how - given the guy in some way or another was part of my life for more than 25 years - some of his being as an artist and as a human being as well has become part of my DNA.It also teaches me about the very fact that death is a part of life, it has given me a taste of how to deal with death, what it might feel should my mother or other loved ones die someday, it has showed me that nothing is forever, and that there will come the time when your (spiritual) leader has gone and you have to become a leader in your own life yourself etc.

It has already teached me a whole lot of stuff, and just for that alone i'm thankful.I haven't stopped mourning but i definately feel as sad as it all is, it's also meant to show me there is a light.


[Edited 4/29/16 23:17pm]

don't feel alone, i've been useless for the past week, other than helping friends out by giving away any money I have. I felt dead my damned self.

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Reply #17 posted 04/30/16 8:58am

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MakeUpIsFabulous said:

I am still in denial that he is no longer here.


When I heard he was getting cremated I just cried even more. I kept telling my sister that it's like cremation means a body no longer exists...like Prince no longer existed. If he'd been buried he'd still be "there". Like for me the idea is just unreal. I know this is what Prince had requested.


So my sister tells me, "Prince still exists in his music".


I was bullied in school as a child and had low self-esteem growing up. His songs just made me so happy and feel beautiful too. sad


yes him getting cremated didn't make things easier and it happened to fast, it will get even harder to process his death cuz of that sad Now hes completely gone.
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Reply #18 posted 04/30/16 9:12am

Grog

100PercentSweet said:

As I am sure many of us here were and still are absolutely shattered by the death of Prince. I'm afraid that I will keep on staying in grief and every1 else will move on and get puzzled about why I am still sad.

I'm just so...shaken to the core. Everyday I go through denial, anger, sadness, etc, and then start it again the next day. 1 of the rocks that my mother and I built our relationship on was Prince...his death just takes a bucket of emotions and pours them on me all over again.

Is any1 else afraid of the rest of the world moving on and past his death but U still stay sad?

If by "the rest of the world moving on," you mean the media, then I hope it would move on as soon as all of the investigation is over. If you mean "the average person," then it's okay if they move on as well because their connection to his music is probably not very strong. Those of us who know how much of a rare gem he was will always remember and mourn him. We will all have to "move on" but we will not have to forget why we were attracted to his genius. His body is gone but his music and spirit will forever be with us. I think Prince would want you to play his music, remember him and eventually be happy.

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Reply #19 posted 04/30/16 9:54am

SteelPulse1

Ill rebound and go back into life that is always changing,but it's just a front to get by. There will never be another Prince.

There is never any "getting over it" - there is just learning to live with another

reality. A new normal. It's going to hurt for a long time and you'll have good days

and not so good days. But never apologize for your emotions.

^ This helped a lot ..

[Edited 4/30/16 10:49am]

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Reply #20 posted 04/30/16 10:30am

nursev

He will forever be apart of our lives...most of us grew up with Prince, but life goes on and we have to go forward now. He is still with us wink

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Reply #21 posted 04/30/16 11:01am

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I'm definitely getting better every day - celebrating with people who loved him has really helped. In fact, going to a P party tonight (and that's after a house move!)

But then I'll watch something like the D'Angelo tribute and the tears just come again.

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Reply #22 posted 04/30/16 11:18am

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It feels like I will never fully get over it either. But I must find a way to be ok with life as it is now as my grief has caused me to neglect e v er y thing else that needs my attention. Trying to accept a future with no more Prince or PP events in it just shatters my heart. Trying to find comfort in all the YouTube stuff available right now but it only reminds me how much we lost on April 21st.
It's a hurtful place, the world, in and of itself. We don't need to add to it. We all need one another. ~ PRN
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Reply #23 posted 04/30/16 11:19am

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I feel the same. Every morning I wake up with one of his songs rolling around in my head. I have a moment of tears daily. I don't think this will stop, or that I will stop grieving. Just maybe less as time goes on.

You're not alone!
"I gave my love, I gave my life, I gave my body and mind..." - P
Thank you for the gifts - we will all meet again, dear Prince.
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Reply #24 posted 04/30/16 11:23am

MissMarySharon

I don't think I'll ever accept it because he died relatively young, however I am coming to terms with it. Still got a lot of emotions going on, but realising I have to start picking up the threads and getting on with life. I'm making lists of things I have to do, which gives me some structure, and making myself do them, even if everything still feels an effort right now.

I suspect I will calm down for a bit, but strong reactions will re emerge when the final verdict on his death is announced. I feel like that is a hurdle ahead, and I will be glad when it has passed. It won't make any difference as to how I feel about him, but I know it will stir it all up again.

Hoping everyone will be feeling better soon. I'm thinking about the sort of person he was and trying to say to myself that he would me to get on with things and make the very most of each day.

My friends have been kind and supportive, but I don't feel I can keep talking about it with them now. Just trying to get on as best I can at the moment really.

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Reply #25 posted 04/30/16 1:49pm

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MIRvmn said:

MakeUpIsFabulous said:

I am still in denial that he is no longer here.

When I heard he was getting cremated I just cried even more. I kept telling my sister that it's like cremation means a body no longer exists...like Prince no longer existed. If he'd been buried he'd still be "there". Like for me the idea is just unreal. I know this is what Prince had requested.

So my sister tells me, "Prince still exists in his music".

I was bullied in school as a child and had low self-esteem growing up. His songs just made me so happy and feel beautiful too. sad

yes him getting cremated didn't make things easier and it happened to fast, it will get even harder to process his death cuz of that sad Now hes completely gone.

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