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Reply #60 posted 03/25/04 10:33am

VinaBlue

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sag10 said:


What your grandmother gave you in your soul is forever, paper can perish.

You are indeed lucky! hug


hug

Yeah, I know. sigh It's still a bummer because I don't remember the exact words. But she knew I loved the moon, so she would include it when she was tucking me in. It was so sweet.
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Reply #61 posted 03/25/04 12:28pm

Heavenly

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hug That's terrible that your boyfriend through your stuff away. I understand that he was trying to make more room in the closet, but damn, he should have checked with you first. Men can be so damn insensitive sometimes! pissed



What do you mean by 'sometimes'? hmm

We never change, so it's either never or always.
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Reply #62 posted 03/25/04 12:32pm

Heavenly

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Give it some time and then throw away all his art stuff. Afterall, it's not yours so why do you need it. I hate this side of men. They can be worse than retarded sometimes. You have every right to be hugely pissed. I wanna punch this dude in the face right now pissed


What do you mean by 'they'? hmm

When did you have a sex change operation?
[This message was edited Thu Mar 25 12:33:21 2004 by Heavenly]
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Reply #63 posted 03/25/04 1:04pm

2the9s

CarrieLee said:

blah de blah blah blo...


You disgust me.
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Reply #64 posted 03/25/04 1:08pm

SupaFunkyOrgan
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Heavenly said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Give it some time and then throw away all his art stuff. Afterall, it's not yours so why do you need it. I hate this side of men. They can be worse than retarded sometimes. You have every right to be hugely pissed. I wanna punch this dude in the face right now pissed


What do you mean by 'they'? hmm

When did you have a sex change operation?
[This message was edited Thu Mar 25 12:33:21 2004 by Heavenly]


LOL.. please. I may have a dick but my thinking and my heart are all chick nod
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Reply #65 posted 03/25/04 1:31pm

AzureStarr

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You can call me suspicious, I dont know the guy from Zack, but I believe it was intentional.

I cant believe for a moment that he didnt know exactly what he was throwing out. He sounds like a control freak. That tape he taped over-- same thing.

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but it's what i think based on what you have said.

I would definately go and throw a heap of his shit out a sothers have suggested. I'll garentee he doesn't accept you excuse that it was an "accident".



I don't know... maybe you're right and I just don't want to believe that, or it could be that he just doesn't think. I don't know what to think...

I couldn't throw his things out. I don't have it in me.

The worst part is that I keep beating myself up about it because I have had other problems with things in our relationship and I feel like if I... fuck, I don't know. It's just a real pisser.
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Reply #66 posted 03/25/04 1:33pm

AzureStarr

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OMG. NOBODY TOUCHES MY SHIT.

disbelief Damnit, that is TERRIBLE. hug Definitely let him know not to EVER throw anything else away. I have a similar sad story as well.

My grandma used to "bless me" before bed when I lived with her. She would say (in spanish) that God would watch over me, and the stars, the moon and the sky. I had this card where she actually wrote it down, just like she would say it to me. When she died, I told my cousin about that and she said grandma never said those kind of things to her. It was like our thing.

So the card was on my dresser drawer, after she died, along with a few other things to remember her. There was also a candle there. Well one day I'm on the phone, listening to some recording, I think for a movie. My friend was in the room and I notice that the card fell over and caught on fire. I motioned for her to get it, I was kinda speechless and stunned. She got the card, and instead of putting it out right away, like by stomping it on the floor... She picks it up and I watched her become mesmerized by the flame and she actually tilted it so the fire would consume the card! She didn't realize what it was and her pyromaniac instinct kicked in, I guess. She's a fire sign. Anyway, I was really bummed because that was the ONLY thing I had with those words on it.

At least I have the memory. But it still sucks. It still makes me feel sick when I think about it. I mean, the part where she wrote the words was what burned! If it was the other side, I would have kept it still.

sad


I am sorry... sad That is just awful...
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Reply #67 posted 03/25/04 1:38pm

AzureStarr

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AzureStarr said:



smile Ya nut!

Yeah... that mini-cassette that you sent to me years ago... you know what I'm talking about? Well, months ago he started talking about my therapist... calling him a man. I'm like... I don't have and never did have a male therapist. He argued and said he had him on tape talking to me. For the life of me I couldn't think of what he was talking about.

A few weeks ago he got out the mini-cassette recorder that he decided to get out of my drawer and use for band practice and played about a minute that was left on the tape... he had recorded over the rest. 'Twas that tape you sent me. Which I had tucked away in that blue, wooden box with the sun, moon and butterflies on it.

So, when I say he hit every inch of the house... he hit it all.

sad

eek

Oh, HELL no... disbelief...



(Your "Therapist"...lol...I like that... biggrin )



Yeah... and, yep... apparently you sound like a therapist. I never thought that. Perhaps that's why I was so puzzled as to who he was talking about!

See... it's just like that tape... the wedding things, my kids' things... I keep these things for memories - moments in my life that I cherish and want to hang on to, whether just to keep or to have and reflect back on those moments later in life. And, just like that they're wiped away.

There was a cassette tape that my very first boyfriend gave to me of him singing when I was in 6th grade... I've had that cassette since then. He gave it to my son and my son taped Prince over it with his recorder. It just doesn't make any sense to me.
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Reply #68 posted 03/25/04 1:39pm

PEJ

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CarrieMpls said:

sad




sad sad
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Reply #69 posted 03/25/04 1:41pm

AzureStarr

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Maybe someone's trying to tell you something! And it is not him.


Yeah, probably trying to tell me that I shouldn't have allowed him back into my life after we broke up...
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Reply #70 posted 03/25/04 1:43pm

AzureStarr

jessyMD32781 said:

2the9s said:

Throw out his art supplies!

or better yet, throw him out. i was holding my punches before but if you were a close friend of mine who was calling me on the phone about this guy i'd tell you to either throw out this lying, insensitive punk ass or to stop telling me about him. i'm dead serious. in the future i won't click on your threads about him. i'm glad he's apologizing to you and giving you hugs but be honest with yourself. your boyfriend just threw away your memories of your wedding and the birth of your children, that wasn't an accident. sounds like competitive jealousy to me. this guy's a real prize. mad


confused

Yeah, I know...
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Reply #71 posted 03/25/04 1:44pm

AzureStarr

SHANNA said:

Heather, check your orgNotes...



I did... smile
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Reply #72 posted 03/25/04 1:44pm

psychodelicide

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Heavenly said:

psychodelicide said:

hug That's terrible that your boyfriend through your stuff away. I understand that he was trying to make more room in the closet, but damn, he should have checked with you first. Men can be so damn insensitive sometimes! pissed



What do you mean by 'sometimes'? hmm

We never change, so it's either never or always.


Hi Heavenly. hug I know that you're not insensitive at all. wink When I said sometimes, I was trying to be nice. giggle
RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you.
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Reply #73 posted 03/25/04 1:46pm

AzureStarr

Revolution said:

June7 said:



Man, this is exactly what I was thinking... nod


disbelief


I "3rd" that opinion...I don't know how old you are, but he sounds 'young', if not
young than at least 'immature'. What a TERRIBLE thing to do to someone. It's just
common courtesy not to throw things out if they don't belong to you.
I clean the house all the time, but when it comes to my wifes stuff, i'll just try to
concise it into a smaller pile, NEVER throw it away, because I don't know what she
wants to hang on to. REALLY, AzureStarr, take a LONG look at this relationship...
he sounds like he has control issues...having a young son, you're looking for someone
who has a calming influence on you, someone to help lift away your daily burdens,
NOT someone who causes EVEN MORE DRAMA...
Look at me, all PISSED off over this.....mad
You will be in my prayers tonight....take care of yourself.


You sort of hit the nail on the head. I am older than him and he is very immature for his age... in a few areas. I'm like his mother. And, like others on here, you're probably right.
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Reply #74 posted 03/25/04 1:47pm

AzureStarr

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Heavenly said:



What do you mean by 'they'? hmm

When did you have a sex change operation?
[This message was edited Thu Mar 25 12:33:21 2004 by Heavenly]


LOL.. please. I may have a dick but my thinking and my heart are all chick nod


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Reply #75 posted 03/25/04 2:35pm

jessyMD32781

AzureStarr said:

jessyMD32781 said:


or better yet, throw him out. i was holding my punches before but if you were a close friend of mine who was calling me on the phone about this guy i'd tell you to either throw out this lying, insensitive punk ass or to stop telling me about him. i'm dead serious. in the future i won't click on your threads about him. i'm glad he's apologizing to you and giving you hugs but be honest with yourself. your boyfriend just threw away your memories of your wedding and the birth of your children, that wasn't an accident. sounds like competitive jealousy to me. this guy's a real prize. mad


confused

Yeah, I know...

well if you know then do something about it. don't just sit there and let him ruin yor life as well as the lives of your children. there is nothing worse in this world than a weak woman. don't be weak.
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Reply #76 posted 03/25/04 2:44pm

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jessyMD32781 said:

AzureStarr said:



confused

Yeah, I know...

well if you know then do something about it. don't just sit there and let him ruin yor life as well as the lives of your children. there is nothing worse in this world than a weak woman. don't be weak.

You go Jessy! biggrin

Heather, I just worry that this sort of possessive, controlling behaviour is the "thin end of the wedge" so to speak. Things could get worse so you need to do something about it. I'm not neccessarily saying dump him, but I think you have to let him know that this type of shit has got to stop.
When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading.
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Reply #77 posted 03/25/04 2:55pm

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bkw said:

jessyMD32781 said:


well if you know then do something about it. don't just sit there and let him ruin yor life as well as the lives of your children. there is nothing worse in this world than a weak woman. don't be weak.

You go Jessy! biggrin

Heather, I just worry that this sort of possessive, controlling behaviour is the "thin end of the wedge" so to speak. Things could get worse so you need to do something about it. I'm not neccessarily saying dump him, but I think you have to let him know that this type of shit has got to stop.

smile hug
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Reply #78 posted 03/25/04 4:57pm

2the9s

AzureStarr said:

SHANNA said:

Heather, check your orgNotes...



I did... smile


~~Please be about mudwrestling...~~

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Reply #79 posted 03/26/04 2:08am

PEJ

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nesseone said:

oh no.....i save everything.....cards, pictures, wrapping paper.....everything. If a boyfriend came in and throw my "personal belongings" out.....i'd be quick to throw him out



I'll keep that in mind.
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Reply #80 posted 03/26/04 2:12am

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I say give him another chance if you truely believe he is sorry. If history repeats itself then you know what to do.
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Reply #81 posted 03/26/04 5:30am

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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Heavenly said:



What do you mean by 'they'? hmm

When did you have a sex change operation?
[This message was edited Thu Mar 25 12:33:21 2004 by Heavenly]


LOL.. please. I may have a dick but my thinking and my heart are all chick nod


biggrin
"...lay out my cushion of silk, don't rumple my fur!"
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Reply #82 posted 03/26/04 5:33am

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AzureStarr said:

SHANNA said:

Heather, check your orgNotes...



I did... smile


winksmile
"...lay out my cushion of silk, don't rumple my fur!"
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Reply #83 posted 03/26/04 5:38am

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2the9s said:

AzureStarr said:




I did... smile


~~Please be about mudwrestling...~~

pray


boo
"...lay out my cushion of silk, don't rumple my fur!"
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Reply #84 posted 03/26/04 6:36am

MightBQueen

that is like a punch in the stomach. just wrong.
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Reply #85 posted 03/26/04 7:03am

FLUX

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AzureStarr said:

Over the past few weeks, my boyfriend has slowly been condensing my closet to fit some of his artwork supplies into it. I didn't have a problem with it and he said he was going to just put my things into larger boxes to take up less space. No problem.

It wasn't until I saw a metal tin in my kids' room that I have had since the day my son was born, seven years ago, that held letters that family members and myself wrote to each child on the day they were born, as well as newspapers and magazines from their date of birth. The tin was empty. He said he took the things out and put them in boxes.

I was scared to look in the boxes in the closet, thinking that he probably threw out the majority of the stuff, thinking that it was junk... i.e. the magazines, etc..

Well... tonight I decided to look for the stuff, and I was right... all that is left are the letters, which I am thankful are still there. I then started looking around and noticed that a box that I kept all of my wedding stuff in was not to be seen anywhere in the closet. I then took every box out of the closet... nothing.

He finally came home and I asked him about it. Got online and searched until I found the picture that was on the box... to sort of jog his memory. He remembered. He said he emptied that box and threw the box away. He can't find the contents. All of the cards from my wedding, receipts from everything that I purchased for the wedding, a small bible that my grandmother gave to me, my garter, hotel soap samples... just everything... it is all gone.

I feel so sick about it. I don't know whether to be angry or just... damn. I have carefully held onto both boxes and their contents for years... eleven years for my wedding stuff and over seven for my kids' things... and it's just gone. Just like that.

I am just... I really don't know what to think right now. He feels horrible because I've been sitting here crying about it and I'm sure he threw it all away thinking that the reciepts were just junk that I had in there and the cards... he doesn't save cards so he probably thought nothing of it... just like the cards he through away from my ex-husband that I had kept... and the shampoo samples he probably thought were useless. I'm sure he knows he threw them away and feels too bad to tell me. God... I feel sick about this whole thing.

I don't think I'd feel this bad about it if I hadn't carefully known where each of those two boxes were at all times. Had I thought he'd just start throwing things away I would have said something... but I never thought he'd throw anything of mine away... even if he thought it was junk.

Sorry... had to vent.


SORRY! what r u sorry for?He may have appoligised but my GOD u r a human being , not a collection of cumbersone items that r taking up space on this planet! I would've been shot if i'd liberated my woman's memorbilia without consent.This constitutes a heartbreaking loss 4 u & i'm angry! None of my business but FUCKING HELL don't put up with this.WHAT happened to respect & common sense in your relationsship?????..... neutral neutral mad mad eek eek
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Reply #86 posted 03/26/04 7:06am

AzureStarr

FLUX said:



SORRY! what r u sorry for?He may have appoligised but my GOD u r a human being , not a collection of cumbersone items that r taking up space on this planet! I would've been shot if i'd liberated my woman's memorbilia without consent.This constitutes a heartbreaking loss 4 u & i'm angry! None of my business but FUCKING HELL don't put up with this.WHAT happened to respect & common sense in your relationsship?????..... neutral neutral mad mad eek eek



Unfortunately, I don't think there is much common sense when it comes to certain things with him.
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Reply #87 posted 03/26/04 7:17am

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hug That's terrible that your boyfriend through your stuff away. I understand that he was trying to make more room in the closet, but damn, he should have checked with you first. Men can be so damn insensitive sometimes! pissed



PLEASE DON'T PAINT US ALL WITH THE SAME BRUSH.I LOVE YOU PSYCH BUT I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU GENERALISED "ALL MEN" , AS 1 TYPE . I THOUGHT U HAD SOME SENSE.WOULD U THROW ALL OF US MEN AWAY 'CAUSE THIS DUDE DID A HEARTLESS STUPID THING? neutral
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Reply #88 posted 03/26/04 7:30am

Lleena

omg, he should have asked you first. How infruriating and disrespectful.
He shouldn't even be going through your personal things, nevermind throwing them away.

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Reply #89 posted 03/26/04 7:44am

2the9s

Lleena said:

omg, he should have asked you first. How infruriating and disrespectful.
He shouldn't even be going through your personal things, nevermind throwing them away.

disbelief


I am going to throw away all of your Bjork dolls.

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