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Thread started 01/09/19 3:13pm

thecloud

My girlfriend blocked my phone number

I have been blocked since 10/30/18. She says she wants to get back together once I find somewhere for us to live. Seems weird that we can only communicate via email only.


I want to be able to discuss certain things prior to moving and i have not been given an opportunity to talk verbally as she says seeing me or hearing my voice would be to painful and that has me a little leary.


I asked her to collaborate on the process of locating a place and she stated she doesn't care as she just wants to be with me. I love her dearly but I'm a little apprehensive on going forward since I have remained blocked...any advice??
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Reply #1 posted 01/09/19 4:03pm

EmmaMcG

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So she just wants to be with you but won't talk to you or unblock your number until you move in together? That's not normal behaviour. My honest advice is to find someone else because she sounds like a headcase
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Reply #2 posted 01/09/19 4:08pm

XxAxX

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eek i'm no xpert but imo she's not being very nice to you. you sure she's the one?

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Reply #3 posted 01/09/19 5:29pm

onlyforaminute

This is what they call a red flag.

"The sole purpose of a child's middle name is so he can tell when he's really in trouble.

- Somebody
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Reply #4 posted 01/09/19 6:28pm

happinessinits
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weirdest thing I've ever heard...She's talking about mortgage not rent right?

Are you close to landing a place or no in terms of financial status?

If the answer's no...you know she knows that and the whole thing is just her way of ending things with u...sorry hate to be the one to tell you this:(

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Reply #5 posted 01/09/19 7:05pm

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Yeah I agree it's a red flag, bro. I know it's difficult to analyse the situation objectively when you still have feelings for someone but put it this way, if she only wants and respects you when her demands are met, that person is a taker and they'll continue to abuse your trust down the line.

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Reply #6 posted 01/10/19 4:13am

ThisOne

It’s obvious she’s no longer your girlfriend and is using u for somewhere to stay and she’s not letting u contact her as she’s dodging financial obligations !

Just break up with her and find someone better!!
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Reply #7 posted 01/10/19 4:36am

leecaldon

Run

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Reply #8 posted 01/10/19 5:16am

purplethunder3
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Image result for bye run gif

"If you're living, you've got nothing left to prove..."
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Reply #9 posted 01/10/19 11:25am

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EmmaMcG said:

So she just wants to be with you but won't talk to you or unblock your number until you move in together? That's not normal behaviour. My honest advice is to find someone else because she sounds like a headcase


yeahthat

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Reply #10 posted 01/10/19 11:26am

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onlyforaminute said:

This is what they call a red flag.


Yep. Runnnnnnnnnnnn and run far. Drop her like a hot potato.

Edmonton, AB - canada

Ohh purple joy oh purple bliss oh purple rapture!
REAL MUSIC by REAL MUSICIANS - Prince
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Reply #11 posted 01/10/19 6:34pm

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purplethunder3121 said:



Image result for bye run gif




Run far!
Run fast!
Block her number!
Get up early in the morning and find another love!
No More Haters on the Internet.
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Reply #12 posted 01/10/19 10:39pm

nextedition

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So she doesnt talk to you unless you do what she wants? Wow. Imagine how your future will be with that kind of attitude!
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Reply #13 posted 01/11/19 12:09pm

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EmmaMcG said:

So she just wants to be with you but won't talk to you or unblock your number until you move in together? That's not normal behaviour. My honest advice is to find someone else because she sounds like a headcase

yeahthat

"Like books and BLACK LIVES, Albums still MATTER."
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Reply #14 posted 01/11/19 12:14pm

thecloud

I wanted to share my previous post titled "My Percocet Addiction"

It's very relevant to the reason for this post...however I don't know how to include the link on this thread.

My addiction caused this whole fiasco and this is the consequences of using prescription painkillers
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Reply #15 posted 01/11/19 12:15pm

thecloud

I wanted to share my previous post titled "My Percocet Addiction"

It's very relevant to the reason for this post...however I don't know how to include the link on this thread.

My addiction caused this whole fiasco and this is the consequences of using prescription painkillers
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Reply #16 posted 01/11/19 12:34pm

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thecloud said:

I wanted to share my previous post titled "My Percocet Addiction" It's very relevant to the reason for this post...however I don't know how to include the link on this thread. My addiction caused this whole fiasco and this is the consequences of using prescription painkillers



Here's the link http://prince.org/msg/100/457160


Just one helluva mess really rolleyes


I wish you all the best. wave


Edmonton, AB - canada

Ohh purple joy oh purple bliss oh purple rapture!
REAL MUSIC by REAL MUSICIANS - Prince
"I kind of wish there was a reason for Prince to make the site crash more" ~~ Ben
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Reply #17 posted 01/11/19 4:11pm

thecloud

luv4u said:



thecloud said:


I wanted to share my previous post titled "My Percocet Addiction" It's very relevant to the reason for this post...however I don't know how to include the link on this thread. My addiction caused this whole fiasco and this is the consequences of using prescription painkillers



Here's the link http://prince.org/msg/100/457160


Just one helluva mess really rolleyes


I wish you all the best. wave





Just wanna say Thank You to all who have responded. I'm hurting and I feel so alone out here fighting back tears while I type this. This was my own doing and it hurts to deal with it by myself...I mean I have support from my family and some friends but when u love someone so dearly and there is no support from that one u want so much it hurts...I never intended to get addicted after the surgeries but this is the outcome and I keep beating myself up from the damage I caused and I'm sorry and hold myself accountable but it seems like others cant forgive me no matter how much i apologize.
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Reply #18 posted 01/11/19 4:39pm

onlyforaminute

Oh, so you're her red flag. There's one in here somewhere. Trust is earned through deeds not words. Keep your head up and keep working on you. Once that beast is out it's a lifetime effort keeping in at bay but it can be done.

"The sole purpose of a child's middle name is so he can tell when he's really in trouble.

- Somebody
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Reply #19 posted 01/11/19 4:57pm

thecloud

onlyforaminute said:

Oh, so you're her red flag. There's one in here somewhere. Trust is earned through deeds not words. Keep your head up and keep working on you. Once that beast is out it's a lifetime effort keeping in at bay but it can be done.



Thank You so much for the kind words...I feel broken. I am repairable though.
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Reply #20 posted 01/12/19 2:00am

MoBettaBliss

All you need to be focusing on is staying drug free. That’s it. If you lose focus you’ll relapse and screw everything up. Whatever will be will be with your girlfriend. Show her respect by giving her space.
What are you doing to stay clean? Do you have support? A sponsor? Are you going to N.A meetings?
Staying drug free is work. Are you working hard enough?
Stay drug free. That’s it. Forget the girl for now.
I sincerely wish you well.
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Reply #21 posted 01/12/19 9:24am

XxAxX

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MoBettaBliss said:

All you need to be focusing on is staying drug free. That’s it. If you lose focus you’ll relapse and screw everything up. Whatever will be will be with your girlfriend. Show her respect by giving her space. What are you doing to stay clean? Do you have support? A sponsor? Are you going to N.A meetings? Staying drug free is work. Are you working hard enough? Stay drug free. That’s it. Forget the girl for now. I sincerely wish you well.



^ what he said. take care of yourself and hang in there. rose rose rose

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Reply #22 posted 01/12/19 5:13pm

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MoBettaBliss said:

All you need to be focusing on is staying drug free. That’s it. If you lose focus you’ll relapse and screw everything up. Whatever will be will be with your girlfriend. Show her respect by giving her space. What are you doing to stay clean? Do you have support? A sponsor? Are you going to N.A meetings? Staying drug free is work. Are you working hard enough? Stay drug free. That’s it. Forget the girl for now. I sincerely wish you well.


Yes. Thecloud, if you have substance abuse issues, staying clean has to be your main focus. Without sobriety, most likely things will not get better.

Take life one day at a time, and God bless... grouphug

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Rest in Peace Bettie Boo. See u soon.
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Reply #23 posted 01/12/19 10:49pm

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I have so many questions. That was a lot of info to sort. I don't even know where to start so I'm just going to say I'm so sorry you are hurting. Stop being so hard on yourself. You need to do you now. That's it. The rest will work itself out if you take care of yourself first. Put all of your energy into your sobriety other parts of your life will begin to fall into place. Its going to take time but you can do this. Please let us know how you are doing.
It's a hurtful place, the world, in and of itself. We don't need to add to it. We all need one another. ~ PRN
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Reply #24 posted 01/13/19 6:43pm

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sonshine said:

I have so many questions. That was a lot of info to sort. I don't even know where to start so I'm just going to say I'm so sorry you are hurting. Stop being so hard on yourself. You need to do you now. That's it. The rest will work itself out if you take care of yourself first. Put all of your energy into your sobriety other parts of your life will begin to fall into place. Its going to take time but you can do this. Please let us know how you are doing.

Yes, this. And God bless you.

"If you're living, you've got nothing left to prove..."
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Reply #25 posted 01/14/19 8:36pm

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For starters, you have to take it one day at a time. You can either keep beatin yourself up over what has been done, or accept that you messed up, apologize to her, and work your ass off to make sure that it never happens again.

Your girlfriend is going to have a lot of trust issues with you, probably for quite some time. She may never fully trust you again. If she doesn't, you have to decide if this is then the best relationship for her. She deserves to have someone that she can trust.

Now having said that, the fact that your phone was turned off and you weren't allowed to make any calls, she needs to find a way to accept your explanation for how the events turned out. She can either accept your explanation and agree that the two of you start today on moving forward, together, or she cannot accept your explanation, and will continue to hold that against you, blaming you. It may come up in arguments (quite frequently), or when she is feeling insecure she may bring it up, along with the blame towards you, and you will have to decide whether that is something you can live with having thrown back at you all the time. Everyone makes mistakes, and we learn from those mistakes and ensure that we don't repeat them. As long as you've learned from your mistake, and don't ever repeat it, then it would be very unfair of her to continually hold this over your head, and honestly, you wouldn't deserve it if you made amends. Not for years anyway. For the first year or two, it will be touchy until she can decide whether to trust you again, after that, it's just become a weapon to use against you, to make you feel bad and to get her way.

Ultimately, it comes down to what the both of you are willing to accept from each other. Is she willing to live with a fear that you will revert to taking pills and betraying her (in her mind) again? Are you willing to live with the idea that she may hold this over your head for years to come? And then you both have to decide, is either of those situations fair to other one? If you decide it's not, then you must decide to either work on those issues together, in therapy, to address them now so that they do not grow to those depths, or to walk away and give each other the opportunity to explore other relationships. Then if the two of you are meant to be together, you may come together later. If you aren't, then you may and she may find someone to love deeply.

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Reply #26 posted 01/15/19 6:19am

PurpleJedi

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Move on dude.

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