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I might have a disability myself.

People don't hate you, they hate something different than what they conceive as norrmal.

All you can ever do in life is be yourself, whether you're Austisic or anything else. I have had quite a few friends with Asperger's. Their social awkwardness was as endearing as any other trait of someone's personality.

I love Mr. Bean, and we all love you, too.

I'm feeling low again. I have fallen ill and (now with regrets) decided to stay at my parents' house. Which means being with my sister and my father all day long and they both drive me to tears. Unfortunately, I cannot go out for too long, so the only way to escape is to stay in my bedroom.

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What's more, I missed a concert I had been looking forward to because of the illness and a couple of my friends have got married recently, but none of them invited me to the ceremony. I don't know, ut I'm feeling like I'm a bad, evil and disliked person after all.

FullLipsDotNose said:

EmmaMcG said:

FullLipsDotNose said:

I'm feeling low again. I have fallen ill and (now with regrets) decided to stay at my parents' house. Which means being with my sister and my father all day long and they both drive me to tears. Unfortunately, I cannot go out for too long, so the only way to escape is to stay in my bedroom.

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What's more, I missed a concert I had been looking forward to because of the illness and a couple of my friends have got married recently, but none of them invited me to the ceremony. I don't know, ut I'm feeling like I'm a bad, evil and disliked person after all.

All you need to do is read back over this thread to see that that's not true.

I know you like me, but these are people I've known IRL for numerous years. And I don't know why they did that. Why would my RL friends leave me out for their weddings? Maybe there's something about me that cannot be seen online and that drives people away from me. Maybe I smell bad or whatever. Maybe I look bad on photos and they didn't want me on theirs. Maybe I leave every party too early (but I don't do that because I find them boring, I'm just exhausted after a few hours). Well, maybe they decided to not invite me because they thought I wouldn't make it, but I could actually be there for just a few hours and then disappear. I don't know, I just can't find any plausible explanation.

FullLipsDotNose said:

dont we all have a disability ..with the obsession with that guy that died

luvsexy4all said:

dont we all have a disability ..with the obsession with that guy that died

I was taught at school that illnesses and disabilities are actually social constructs. If some conditions are a problem, they are called an illness or a disability. For example, no one considered cellulite an illness until 1960s. Only some people can move joints in both directions, but people who cannot are not considered disabled. However, autistic people are considered disabled. People who are born with less or more than two hands are considered disabled as well. And the reason is that if you are born this way, you will have a harder life. Yes, but you will have a harder life because the society will not accept you the way you are. We make provisions for people who don't have flexible joints or that throw up when they see carcasses, but we don't make provisions for people who cannot walk or who throw up when they see certain food textures (my case).

EmmaMcG said:

FullLipsDotNose said:

I know you like me, but these are people I've known IRL for numerous years. And I don't know why they did that. Why would my RL friends leave me out for their weddings? Maybe there's something about me that cannot be seen online and that drives people away from me. Maybe I smell bad or whatever. Maybe I look bad on photos and they didn't want me on theirs. Maybe I leave every party too early (but I don't do that because I find them boring, I'm just exhausted after a few hours). Well, maybe they decided to not invite me because they thought I wouldn't make it, but I could actually be there for just a few hours and then disappear. I don't know, I just can't find any plausible explanation.

I suppose you could always ask why you weren't invited. It might not be a personal thing. You'll probably find that you're not the only friend of theirs who wasn't invited. I'll be getting married early next year so if you're available, you can come to my wedding!

AFAIK at least another friend of ours wasn't invited even though she was the bride's roommate

Thanks for the invitation though

FullLipsDotNose said:

FullLipsDotNose said:

luvsexy4all said:

dont we all have a disability ..with the obsession with that guy that died

I was taught at school that illnesses and disabilities are actually social constructs. If some conditions are a problem, they are called an illness or a disability. For example, no one considered cellulite an illness until 1960s. Only some people can move joints in both directions, but people who cannot are not considered disabled. However, autistic people are considered disabled. People who are born with less or more than two hands are considered disabled as well. And the reason is that if you are born this way, you will have a harder life. Yes, but you will have a harder life because the society will not accept you the way you are. We make provisions for people who don't have flexible joints or that throw up when they see carcasses, but we don't make provisions for people who cannot walk or who throw up when they see certain food textures (my case).

Literally no one thinks cellulite is an illness.

Genesia said:

FullLipsDotNose said:

I was taught at school that illnesses and disabilities are actually social constructs. If some conditions are a problem, they are called an illness or a disability. For example, no one considered cellulite an illness until 1960s. Only some people can move joints in both directions, but people who cannot are not considered disabled. However, autistic people are considered disabled. People who are born with less or more than two hands are considered disabled as well. And the reason is that if you are born this way, you will have a harder life. Yes, but you will have a harder life because the society will not accept you the way you are. We make provisions for people who don't have flexible joints or that throw up when they see carcasses, but we don't make provisions for people who cannot walk or who throw up when they see certain food textures (my case).

Literally no one thinks cellulite is an illness.

Have you ever read a women's magazine?

FullLipsDotNose said:

Genesia said:

Literally no one thinks cellulite is an illness.

Have you ever read a women's magazine?

Ohhhhh...I'm sorry. I didn't realize you were talking about the stupids.

I had a weak day today because I was told off by my father. I don't want to talk about it, but he basically demands me to do things I cannot do because of my autism. Like, I can't do chores. Not because I wouldn't want to, but because no matter how hard I try, the floor is never clean, the clothes are never neatly ironed, etc. When I started living on my own, I actually gave up trying to make my place nice. Obviously, I'm sometimes sad because my flat is not as beautiful as others', but I don't have money for cleaning staff.

at least U got a good reason to hate THEM

luvsexy4all said:

at least U got a good reason to hate THEM

To return hate is to be no better than the person extolling hate as a virtue. You are supposed to rise above your raising, to learn from parents and family's mistakes and do better. To "have a reason to hate them" is insane and aborts any growth as a human being. That's some Klan shit (as an example; not comparing anyone to them). It's reductive and basic.

If Prince taught love, that's all the OP needs to remember - maneuver in love, even if that means distancing themselves from those that seek to do them harm, rather surrounding himself with those that love and support them.

Sending FullLipsDotNose some love

TrivialPursuit said:

luvsexy4all said:

at least U got a good reason to hate THEM

To return hate is to be no better than the person extolling hate as a virtue. You are supposed to rise above your raising, to learn from parents and family's mistakes and do better. To "have a reason to hate them" is insane and aborts any growth as a human being. That's some Klan shit (as an example; not comparing anyone to them). It's reductive and basic.

If Prince taught love, that's all the OP needs to remember - maneuver in love, even if that means distancing themselves from those that seek to do them harm, rather surrounding himself with those that love and support them.

lose that hard-on u got for me