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Thread started 10/12/16 7:33pm

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Popularity: Important Or Not?

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Reply #1 posted 10/13/16 4:53am

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It is important to have social acceptance and is healthy to have a strong family/friend network

Popularity for the sake of being popular by having "followers" on social media in particular - worthless

Is it worth being popular at the expense of forgoing your own values?

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Reply #2 posted 10/13/16 5:23am

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Depends on the person's values. For me, I've always been content with a small and close circle of family and friends. I don't need to be rolling in a group 10 deep to feel important and never needed to. It also helps knowing the difference between real friends and having acquaintences. As far as social media goes, I value privacy over popularity. People are free to do what they want, but those who feel the need to post pics every 5 minutes of what they are doing, from which island they are vacationing at to which fast food drive thru they are ordering from, is pretty pathetic.

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Reply #3 posted 10/13/16 7:49am

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missfee said:

For me, I've always been content with a small and close circle of family and friends. I don't need to be rolling in a group 10 deep to feel important and never needed to.

Same here...the less people in my life, the happier I am.

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Reply #4 posted 10/13/16 4:18pm

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No.

"Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." --Plato

https://youtu.be/CVwv9LZMah0
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Reply #5 posted 10/13/16 5:04pm

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its not...

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Reply #6 posted 10/13/16 7:06pm

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missfee said:

Depends on the person's values. For me, I've always been content with a small and close circle of family and friends. I don't need to be rolling in a group 10 deep to feel important and never needed to. It also helps knowing the difference between real friends and having acquaintences. As far as social media goes, I value privacy over popularity. People are free to do what they want, but those who feel the need to post pics every 5 minutes of what they are doing, from which island they are vacationing at to which fast food drive thru they are ordering from, is pretty pathetic.

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I definitely agree with you.
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Reply #7 posted 10/14/16 11:53am

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It will make you a dolt like Trump. Low horizons. To see the rainbows you have to climb.

"Capitalism around Culture is a death curse." Henry Giroux.

All you others say Hell Yea!! woot!
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Reply #8 posted 10/14/16 1:45pm

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2freaky4church1 said:

It will make you a dolt like Trump. Low horizons. To see the rainbows you have to climb.

"Capitalism around Culture is a death curse." Henry Giroux.

Out of control capitalism is a death curse...

"Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." --Plato

https://youtu.be/CVwv9LZMah0
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Reply #9 posted 10/14/16 3:14pm

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It depends on the goal. In politics and business, popularity is pretty important. Or if one is emotionally needy, I guess. Otherwise nah.
Murica: at least it's not Sudan.
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Reply #10 posted 10/14/16 9:26pm

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As important as a perfect tan smile
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Reply #11 posted 10/15/16 1:30am

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approval from others is the air that i breathe

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Reply #12 posted 10/15/16 5:41am

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Horsefeathers said:

It depends on the goal. In politics and business, popularity is pretty important. Or if one is emotionally needy, I guess. Otherwise nah.

This. Age is a factor too - Up until a certain age children / young adults care very much about wanting others to like them and how popular they are. Most, but certainly not all, of us care far less about social acceptance and popularity as we age and make deeper connections with a small group of people who care deeply for us and who, in turn, we care deeply about.

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Reply #13 posted 10/15/16 2:33pm

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maplenpg said:

Horsefeathers said:

It depends on the goal. In politics and business, popularity is pretty important. Or if one is emotionally needy, I guess. Otherwise nah.

This. Age is a factor too - Up until a certain age children / young adults care very much about wanting others to like them and how popular they are. Most, but certainly not all, of us care far less about social acceptance and popularity as we age and make deeper connections with a small group of people who care deeply for us and who, in turn, we care deeply about.

To an extent.

This though is utopian…

Social acceptance is necessary (we as human beings require external validation) – that is what even brings us here right? – the acceptance on a anonymous forum?

And our views on the anonymous forum provide a form of social validation – no matter how much we have personal physical deep connections….

Of course…in our “real life” we have a small circle of those we care about…as do they us.

But why are we posting here anonymously?

Who looks at the threads they posted…or indeed the posts replied?

Why is there a "count" of "views" and "replies"?

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Reply #14 posted 10/15/16 6:44pm

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I still disagree, at least applying it to me. I've been here for 11 or 12 years or so, and I have not formed a single offsite friendship or personal relationship with anyone here. I come here solely for my own entertainment, same reason I might cruise news sites or imgur or any number of other places I haunt but don't make friends. Social acceptance is not a factor in the least.

It is entirely possible I am a little dead inside. It could also be my idgaf age.

However, I own and operate a successful service oriented business. Its popularity and my professional reputation matter a lot to me. I behave and carry myself a certain way publicly because of that, not because I need any personal validation. I just like not being homeless or hungry.
Murica: at least it's not Sudan.
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Reply #15 posted 10/15/16 6:47pm

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I suppose the short answer to the original question is that it's subjective and personal. For me, popularity is unimportant beyond my professional reputation.
Murica: at least it's not Sudan.
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Reply #16 posted 10/16/16 3:35am

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Horsefeathers said:

I still disagree, at least applying it to me. I've been here for 11 or 12 years or so, and I have not formed a single offsite friendship or personal relationship with anyone here. I come here solely for my own entertainment, same reason I might cruise news sites or imgur or any number of other places I haunt but don't make friends. Social acceptance is not a factor in the least. It is entirely possible I am a little dead inside. It could also be my idgaf age. However, I own and operate a successful service oriented business. Its popularity and my professional reputation matter a lot to me. I behave and carry myself a certain way publicly because of that, not because I need any personal validation. I just like not being homeless or hungry.


"Imgur" - fantastic word! never heard this before - thank you for the education!!!

Needs are not a weakness - we all have needs - Maslow's theory of hiearachy still does hold some basic framework of human exchange and existence

The key to popularity is that it is due to being ourselves - if we are true in life and it attracts popularity...then that is a welcome by-product...but not the goal.

And...it is fair to say we all "need" some social acceptance...just not at the expense of our own truth.

~Shakalaka!~..... ~Mayday!~
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Reply #17 posted 10/16/16 5:35am

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I love imgur.com :-)

I do not disagree that a certain level of social acceptance is necessary for efficiently navigating society. It benefits me to not smell like a wart hog or completely ostracize those in my community by behaving in a way that would make people avoid me completely. Being able to shop, eat, and just freely move about society benefits me. I do not equate social acceptance with popularity, though, at least not on a basic level. Having society accept me is pretty beneficial. Having society like me or any sense of personal validation is not something I crave.
Murica: at least it's not Sudan.
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Reply #18 posted 10/16/16 4:05pm

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I like this very much HF - it is beautiful

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