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Reply #31 posted 08/07/16 9:19pm
leslievette |
I'm horrible at flirting. Mostly because I'm too shy/scared to even have a conversation with anyone I'm interested in. Yet somehow when I'm genuinely NOT interested, I get accused of being flirty and hard to get...go figure lol From now on, 4 U I shall be wild 💜 |
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Reply #33 posted 08/08/16 6:31pm
Pokeno4Money |
Horsefeathers said:
I'm old, too. Some of that would be off-putting to me as well. I would not be terribly het up or offended, and I'm pretty chill and unlikely to freak out about it, but dude, personal space. I would not find that flirtatious as much as just (sorry) annoying. Or maybe flirty and annoying. But again, I'm old. And maybe a bit misanthropic. So there's that.
No need to apologize, I understand where you're coming from. Unlike most guys I'm good at observing and picking up body language, if anyone shows any sign of discomfort I immediately back off. That's why I've never had any complaints at work.
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Reply #34 posted 08/09/16 6:03am
DaveT |
Pokeno4Money said:
Horsefeathers said:
I'm old, too. Some of that would be off-putting to me as well. I would not be terribly het up or offended, and I'm pretty chill and unlikely to freak out about it, but dude, personal space. I would not find that flirtatious as much as just (sorry) annoying. Or maybe flirty and annoying. But again, I'm old. And maybe a bit misanthropic. So there's that.
No need to apologize, I understand where you're coming from. Unlike most guys I'm good at observing and picking up body language, if anyone shows any sign of discomfort I immediately back off. That's why I've never had any complaints at work.
I think observing and understanding body language would be a part of it ... and the rest is probably looks.
We've got a guy in our office who is very similar in terms of how he is with women in the office, being in their personal space, the arm touching, etc. He really isn't a looker and has some hygiene issues so its behaviour that really isn't welcome (HR have had to talk to him). But there's another guy who behaves in a very similar way, but is gym fit, good looking, looks after himself, etc ... funnily enough the ladies don't have a problem with him |
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Reply #35 posted 08/09/16 6:59am
PurpleBabied |
Guitarhero said:
Pokeno4Money said:
I don't view myself as a flirt, because I act the same way with all women ... but people often say I am a flirt.
So you tell me, this is how I am at work:
I have a habit of looking women directly in the eye. I like to stand close to them, without touching them. I like to put my arms on their chair while standing next to them. I will often hop onto their desk and sit next to them during conversations. I compliment them on their appearance, but only if they've done the same to me I open doors for them. I talk in a soft, friendly voice with them. And I talk about personal subjects with them, only if they've initiated similar discussions in the past
So would you consider me to be a flirt?
Is opening a door for a lady flirting , oh I do that all the time. I always thought that was about manners and how i was brought up. I can't win sometimes . Sometimes i get a funny look from women for holding the door for them.
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I hold doors for all kinds of people all the time. I thought it was common courtesy, but I guess that makes me a shameless hussy, now? [Edited 8/9/16 6:59am] |
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Reply #36 posted 08/09/16 7:04am
PurpleBabied |
JustErin said:
Are you just naturally flirty?
I guess I never thought I was all that much...but since I am hyper aware of my behaviour at work now, I've realized that I am pretty flirty. Something just happened at work that made me realize that I'm clearly this way with pretty much all the dudes here (not that I actually want them).
If you're not flirtatious, do you find those that are annoying or inappropriate?
I don't know how to flirt because I can't read body language. And I end up with dudes who don't understand flirting either.
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Reply #37 posted 08/09/16 7:59am
Reply #38 posted 08/09/16 8:01am
RodeoSchro |
Pokeno4Money said:
I don't view myself as a flirt, because I act the same way with all women ... but people often say I am a flirt.
So you tell me, this is how I am at work:
I have a habit of looking women directly in the eye. I like to stand close to them, without touching them. I like to put my arms on their chair while standing next to them. I will often hop onto their desk and sit next to them during conversations. I compliment them on their appearance, but only if they've done the same to me I open doors for them. I talk in a soft, friendly voice with them. And I talk about personal subjects with them, only if they've initiated similar discussions in the past
So would you consider me to be a flirt?
This immediately came to mind, LOL:
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Reply #39 posted 08/09/16 8:47am
paisleypark4 |
Yeah I love flirting. Being shy all my life it was the only way I could branch out and seem to be accepted. I'll flirt unconsiously as well been doing it so long. I can be whorish at times tho Straight Jacket Funk Affair
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Reply #40 posted 08/09/16 9:24am
Horsefeathers |
DaveT said:
Pokeno4Money said:
Horsefeathers said: I'm old, too. Some of that would be off-putting to me as well. I would not be terribly het up or offended, and I'm pretty chill and unlikely to freak out about it, but dude, personal space. I would not find that flirtatious as much as just (sorry) annoying. Or maybe flirty and annoying. But again, I'm old. And maybe a bit misanthropic. So there's that.
No need to apologize, I understand where you're coming from. Unlike most guys I'm good at observing and picking up body language, if anyone shows any sign of discomfort I immediately back off. That's why I've never had any complaints at work.
I think observing and understanding body language would be a part of it ... and the rest is probably looks.
We've got a guy in our office who is very similar in terms of how he is with women in the office, being in their personal space, the arm touching, etc. He really isn't a looker and has some hygiene issues so its behaviour that really isn't welcome (HR have had to talk to him). But there's another guy who behaves in a very similar way, but is gym fit, good looking, looks after himself, etc ... funnily enough the ladies don't have a problem with him "has some hygiene issues" probably has a lot more to do with it than looks. All the looks in the world would not make up for smelling like necrotic swamp balls or whatever. Murica: at least it's not Sudan. |
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Reply #41 posted 08/09/16 2:56pm
thekidsgirl |
I put effort into flirting but, mostly I come across as awkward and callow I think.
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Reply #42 posted 08/09/16 6:21pm
Pokeno4Money |
DaveT said:
I think observing and understanding body language would be a part of it ... and the rest is probably looks.
Maybe for other guys, not for me! I'm a very average looking guy.
But yeah, there's no greater advantage a person can have than good looks. Personal space never seems quite as important when the space invader is attractive.
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Reply #43 posted 08/12/16 3:50pm
Kobe |
I don't flirt here because 99% of the members are weirdos and not to be trusted |
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Reply #44 posted 08/14/16 3:06am
DaveT |
Kobe said:
I don't flirt here because 99% of the members are weirdos and not to be trusted
Harsh... |
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Reply #45 posted 08/14/16 4:45pm
Kobe |
I am just being honest that's all
DaveT said:
Kobe said:
I don't flirt here because 99% of the members are weirdos and not to be trusted
Harsh...
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Reply #46 posted 08/15/16 2:40am
Fauxie |
Probably just the non-flirt flirt. If I were to try the regular flirt I imagine it'd be quite pathetic and not at all attractive. All I have going for me is the devoted husband nice guy thing and I'd like to think I'm just that, but maybe I'm a bit more tendentious, at least sub-consiously, than I care to admit. It's peculiar considering how someone might be increasingly attracted to somebody because of their devotion to their partner given that if they could get with that person it'd render the very thing they were attracted to a lie. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! |
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Reply #47 posted 08/15/16 6:37am
CarrieMpls Ex-Moderator |
I can't flirt to save my life. I think every guy I've dated had no idea I was interested - I've always had to come out and say it plainly. |
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Reply #48 posted 08/15/16 3:35pm
EmmaMcG |
CarrieMpls said: I can't flirt to save my life. I think every guy I've dated had no idea I was interested - I've always had to come out and say it plainly. That's the best way to do it. |
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Reply #49 posted 08/15/16 3:50pm
Kobe |
whatever
CarrieMpls said:
I can't flirt to save my life. I think every guy I've dated had no idea I was interested - I've always had to come out and say it plainly.
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Reply #50 posted 08/17/16 6:10am
PurpleJedi
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Yes and no.
If I know you and I'm comfortable around you, I can be a flirt.
If I meet a woman that I'm attracted to, my mouth goes numb and my brain shuts down.
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Reply #51 posted 08/17/16 9:08am
RicoN |
I'm a flirt with people I'm not really interested in in that way,
I have pretty low self esteem though so I guess this is a way to get a cheap boost. Hamburger, Hot Dog, Root Beer, Pussy |
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