Yup! It lasted for 10 years! I was hoping for something but really didn't expect it to go anywhere. If it did, I would have been REALLY happy. I think a lot of people don't take it seriously. They just enjoy the attention.

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Yeah that sounds like me, we feed off the attention, especially me. But we could never be so it's been like we're both playing games

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yeah... the one that got away. ah well. next lifetime maybe

kitbradley said:

Yup! It lasted for 10 years! I was hoping for something but really didn't expect it to go anywhere. If it did, I would have been REALLY happy. I think a lot of people don't take it seriously. They just enjoy the attention.

That's a committed non-relationship right THERE!

Never.

Must suck.

alphastreet said:

So frustrating. Ever been in that situation?

I have, but it wasn't so bad since both of us were not really seriously considering getting together. Just some mutual ego stroking... I think it's only frustrating if one of the people involved really wants a relationship and the other is just having fun.

No. Either fish or cut bait.

thekidsgirl said:

alphastreet said:

So frustrating. Ever been in that situation?

I have, but it wasn't so bad since both of us were not really seriously considering getting together. Just some mutual ego stroking... I think it's only frustrating if one of the people involved really wants a relationship and the other is just having fun.

yeah there definitely is ego stroking involved and flirty-like behaviour on both our ends

EmmaMcG said:

Once. Went on for about a year until I thought fuck this, I'll go for it. We were together for 7 years but it didn't work out but I have no regrets. My advice, if you're interested, just go for it. You don't want to look back in years to come and think what might have been.

I feel like I could spoil a great friendship if I confessed I have feelings/infatuation and I don't want to become a rebound right now either, plus barriers wouldn't allow it to work unfortunately and we both know it, it's like the elephant in the room

Yep a few times and none of them panned out to nothing, so I just moved on. It's like a game that only works when both have no expectations of anything more. However, when the flirting goes on for so long that no one makes a move to ask the other out, then it becomes pointless.

going nowhere? u mean sex or love?

There is definitely love on a friendship level but there is no sex or "in love" business although there is dirty talk/flirty like behaviour on both our ends and playfulness on an innocent level though it happens more often than not and then we both disconnect energy wise and suddenly connect again. The amount of communication and seeing each other in person has drastically increased too, although that might have to do with life circumstances right now as well though we always do fun things when socializing. The reason I'm frustrated is because I don't know what the point is anymore though it's fun in the moment.

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alphastreet said:

There is definitely love on a friendship level but there is no sex or "in love" business although there is dirty talk/flirty like behaviour on both our ends and playfulness on an innocent level though it happens more often than not and then we both disconnect energy wise and suddenly connect again. The amount of communication and seeing each other in person has drastically increased too, although that might have to do with life circumstances right now as well though we always do fun things when socializing. The reason I'm frustrated is because I don't know what the point is anymore though it's fun in the moment.

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I say make a move, try to hug her when the flirt/dirty talk is total, if she embraces the hug go further: kiss, grab the ass

if it doesn't work, you'll know it's a dead end

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JoeTyler said:

I dunno, not sure I would have the patience for some kind of arrangement like that!

alphastreet said:

What arrangement? We're long time friends, but didn't act close like this till recently. [Edited 8/13/15 7:52am]

Define "friends" lol

alphastreet said:

So frustrating. Ever been in that situation?

Many times! Usually long distance.

thekidsgirl said:

alphastreet said:

So frustrating. Ever been in that situation?

I have, but it wasn't so bad since both of us were not really seriously considering getting together. Just some mutual ego stroking... I think it's only frustrating if one of the people involved really wants a relationship and the other is just having fun.

Funny you say that,,,,

Its even more complex when there's a cultural difference. Arab guys kinda flirt differently for the general part, and some westerners read it differently (or more deeply shall we say).

Flirting can be dangerous business & it can even cross the line to downright manipulation if one is not too careful.

Hamad said:

go for it. dive in and see what happens. if making your move doesn't entail moving to a distant city, or quitting your job or any other risky life change, why not give it whirl?

The few I've told are all saying go for it, but something in my gut is stopping me and speaking to me stronger. It's like I'm fighting with myself trying to figure it out.

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Flirtationship is one thing, but when a Guy wants that Booty we'll ask for your number....A Guy is only gonna flirt back & forth so long..A long Flirtationship tends to happen to Married people that flirt with single people or Vice-versa, or Both parties are in Monogamous relationships with other people and are afraid to give into temptation, or One Party is Gay/Bisexual and afraid to come out to the same-sex person they're flirting with. Bottom Line, Flirtatiionships usually go nowhere pass long-stares & a Smile...

Hamad said:

Its even more complex when there's a cultural difference. Arab guys kinda flirt differently for the general part, and some westerners read it differently (or more deeply shall we say).

Flirting can be dangerous business & it can even cross the line to downright manipulation if one is not too careful.

Hmmmm. Interesting. Can you elaborate and give some examples?

kitbradley said:

Hamad said:

Its even more complex when there's a cultural difference. Arab guys kinda flirt differently for the general part, and some westerners read it differently (or more deeply shall we say).

Flirting can be dangerous business & it can even cross the line to downright manipulation if one is not too careful.

Hmmmm. Interesting. Can you elaborate and give some examples?

From my experiences (and I've done the same in the past), some Arabs for example tend to be quick to point out how deeply in love they fell for the other person. And they'll go the extra mile to articulate it, even though its all flirtations . Westerner - again from my experiences - tend to be more practical, and some of them might take it literally. I'm not saying that Arabs are not genuine people when it comes to the matters of the heart, but the way they express admiration can sometimes be seen more emotional and folks might mistake it as falling in love in the traditional sense. Even when they refere to each other, we use terms of endearment such as "habibi" or "habibti" (which means beloved - former for guys & latter for women) and mind you, we use them casually. Its basically the culture & the language, both play big parts in flirtatious exchanges. I don't know if I'm making sense at this point, if not my apologies