Thank you for the thought-provoking, at times frustrating, thread topic!
I've actually been in touch with a few other younger guys and it's interesting to say the least! The guy that I met who I was referring to when I first posted texts me all the time but hasn't made plans to go out so I've moved on. More fish in the sea!
Thank you for the thought-provoking, at times frustrating, thread topic!
I've actually been in touch with a few other younger guys and it's interesting to say the least! The guy that I met who I was referring to when I first posted texts me all the time but hasn't made plans to go out so I've moved on. More fish in the sea!
Thank you for the thought-provoking, at times frustrating, thread topic!
I've actually been in touch with a few other younger guys and it's interesting to say the least! The guy that I met who I was referring to when I first posted texts me all the time but hasn't made plans to go out so I've moved on. More fish in the sea!
You can make the plans!
I told him I thought it would be awkward for me to ask since I don't do Dutch dates. What's wrong with him asking me again? Lol he texts me but when I bring up meeting again he doesn't bring up any plans.
I don't think that's how younger people view their partners. It's not fair that he or she is the only one out of two people who always ask or always treat. Is that cost really worth losing a potential partner provider?
I don't think that's how younger people view their partners. It's not fair that he or she is the only one out of two people who always ask or always treat. Is that cost really worth losing a potential partner provider?
Ok. Point taken. I sent him a text telling him I forgot what he looks like and long story short he said he wants to hang out again. Lol
I don't think that's how younger people view their partners. It's not fair that he or she is the only one out of two people who always ask or always treat. Is that cost really worth losing a potential partner provider?
Ok. Point taken. I sent him a text telling him I forgot what he looks like and long story short he said he wants to hang out again. Lol
I forget what I look like all the time. That's why I always carry around a mirror. People always think I'm vain. But I'm not. It's just because of my short term memory. I'm not at all vain. Heck, I'm probably the humblest guy on this big ol' flat planet of ours.
Cinny said: Ok. Point taken. I sent him a text telling him I forgot what he looks like and long story short he said he wants to hang out again. Lol
I forget what I look like all the time. That's why I always carry around a mirror. People always think I'm vain. But I'm not. It's just because of my short term memory. I'm not at all vain. Heck, I'm probably the humblest guy on this big ol' flat planet of ours.
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99% of my posts are ironic. Maybe this post sides with the other 1%.
I forget what I look like all the time. That's why I always carry around a mirror. People always think I'm vain. But I'm not. It's just because of my short term memory. I'm not at all vain. Heck, I'm probably the humblest guy on this big ol' flat planet of ours.
You never know, he might be a cool guy. There're plenty of so-called "mature" douchbags, on the other hand there also plenty of genuinely decent younger guys. Guys are different.
Enjoy the ride for what it is and try to maintain a zero expectations policy
I don't think that's how younger people view their partners. It's not fair that he or she is the only one out of two people who always ask or always treat. Is that cost really worth losing a potential partner provider?
Ok. Point taken. I sent him a text telling him I forgot what he looks like and long story short he said he wants to hang out again. Lol
Thank you! Keep in mind this is only because the topic is specifically for Younger men. Old dudes can still pay.
Ok Cinnny... I'm at an impasse with this dude. He says he wants to hang out again but says he wants to go Dutch. I reminded him that he said he didn't have a problem that I didn't want to but now he's saying he only paid for the first date because I asked him to. I offered a compromise of alternating Dutch dates so that we both get our way but he said it's not cool. Unless you're highly creative it takes money to do anything! I don't know what to think. I'm not asking much of him and I don't want to come across as being more willing to compromise than he is. Seems that guys these days dont want to put forth anything and the just wanna hang out at home and invite you over under the false pretense of watching Netflix
Ok Cinnny... I'm at an impasse with this dude. He says he wants to hang out again but says he wants to go Dutch. I reminded him that he said he didn't have a problem that I didn't want to but now he's saying he only paid for the first date because I asked him to. I offered a compromise of alternating Dutch dates so that we both get our way but he said it's not cool. Unless you're highly creative it takes money to do anything! I don't know what to think. I'm not asking much of him and I don't want to come across as being more willing to compromise than he is. Seems that guys these days dont want to put forth anything and the just wanna hang out at home and invite you over under the false pretense of watching Netflix
I'd forget him. As you've said before there's plenty more fish. If you believe it is right and proper for the man to pay (at least for the first few dates) then stick to that. Do not compromise your standards for anyone, especially someone that you obviously had doubts about in the first place (or you wouldn't have started a thread on it). Good luck with whatever you do but IMO this man's not right for you
Ok Cinnny... I'm at an impasse with this dude. He says he wants to hang out again but says he wants to go Dutch. I reminded him that he said he didn't have a problem that I didn't want to but now he's saying he only paid for the first date because I asked him to. I offered a compromise of alternating Dutch dates so that we both get our way but he said it's not cool. Unless you're highly creative it takes money to do anything! I don't know what to think. I'm not asking much of him and I don't want to come across as being more willing to compromise than he is. Seems that guys these days dont want to put forth anything and the just wanna hang out at home and invite you over under the false pretense of watching Netflix
I'd forget him. As you've said before there's plenty more fish. If you believe it is right and proper for the man to pay (at least for the first few dates) then stick to that. Do not compromise your standards for anyone, especially someone that you obviously had doubts about in the first place (or you wouldn't have started a thread on it). Good luck with whatever you do but IMO this man's not right for you
Agreed! He did a 180 on me and it'd just inexplicable how he could go from wanting to meet up, paying for the date, etc to now saying let's go Dutch or just do something free. He knew from the start how I felt. He probably would later on stop doing real dates and just suggest hook ups instead anyway. Time wasters!!
Ok Cinnny... I'm at an impasse with this dude. He says he wants to hang out again but says he wants to go Dutch. I reminded him that he said he didn't have a problem that I didn't want to but now he's saying he only paid for the first date because I asked him to. I offered a compromise of alternating Dutch dates so that we both get our way but he said it's not cool. Unless you're highly creative it takes money to do anything! I don't know what to think. I'm not asking much of him and I don't want to come across as being more willing to compromise than he is. Seems that guys these days dont want to put forth anything and the just wanna hang out at home and invite you over under the false pretense of watching Netflix
Maybe he just needs some ideas. I think the most valuable lesson that anyone of any age, gender, or financial situation can take from this thread is actually how to be more creative with dates. It doesn't always have to be an expensive restaurant. Also, Netflix is not the only free thing to do.
TD3 said:
My home town is Chicago but I 've lived in other large urban areas and there's a lot of stuff you can attend for free... put together a picnic lunch, learn how to cook. I attended many art fairs, book readings, music concerts, movies in the park, and later treated to a hot dog at a stand.
Ok Cinnny... I'm at an impasse with this dude. He says he wants to hang out again but says he wants to go Dutch. I reminded him that he said he didn't have a problem that I didn't want to but now he's saying he only paid for the first date because I asked him to. I offered a compromise of alternating Dutch dates so that we both get our way but he said it's not cool. Unless you're highly creative it takes money to do anything! I don't know what to think. I'm not asking much of him and I don't want to come across as being more willing to compromise than he is. Seems that guys these days dont want to put forth anything and the just wanna hang out at home and invite you over under the false pretense of watching Netflix
I'd forget him. As you've said before there's plenty more fish. If you believe it is right and proper for the man to pay (at least for the first few dates) then stick to that. Do not compromise your standards for anyone, especially someone that you obviously had doubts about in the first place (or you wouldn't have started a thread on it). Good luck with whatever you do but IMO this man's not right for you
Agreed! He did a 180 on me and it'd just inexplicable how he could go from wanting to meet up, paying for the date, etc to now saying let's go Dutch or just do something free. He knew from the start how I felt. He probably would later on stop doing real dates and just suggest hook ups instead anyway. Time wasters!!
Best move for you since you told him who you are. Now he's showing you who he is. As someone around here said, believe him.
Ok Cinnny... I'm at an impasse with this dude. He says he wants to hang out again but says he wants to go Dutch. I reminded him that he said he didn't have a problem that I didn't want to but now he's saying he only paid for the first date because I asked him to. I offered a compromise of alternating Dutch dates so that we both get our way but he said it's not cool. Unless you're highly creative it takes money to do anything! I don't know what to think. I'm not asking much of him and I don't want to come across as being more willing to compromise than he is. Seems that guys these days dont want to put forth anything and the just wanna hang out at home and invite you over under the false pretense of watching Netflix
Maybe he just needs some ideas. I think the most valuable lesson that anyone of any age, gender, or financial situation can take from this thread is actually how to be more creative with dates. It doesn't always have to be an expensive restaurant. Also, Netflix is not the only free thing to do.
TD3 said:
My home town is Chicago but I 've lived in other large urban areas and there's a lot of stuff you can attend for free... put together a picnic lunch, learn how to cook. I attended many art fairs, book readings, music concerts, movies in the park, and later treated to a hot dog at a stand.
Oh he said he'd be interested in "observing" me doing my thing. I thought he was being silly. I sent him a link to a free event this weekend but he never said he wanted to go but he simply asked me how I found out about it. I'm not gonna beg for his company as it's not that serious. He needs to put forth a bit of effort and creativity himself.
Agreed! He did a 180 on me and it'd just inexplicable how he could go from wanting to meet up, paying for the date, etc to now saying let's go Dutch or just do something free. He knew from the start how I felt. He probably would later on stop doing real dates and just suggest hook ups instead anyway. Time wasters!!
Best move for you since you told him who you are. Now he's showing you who he is. As someone around here said, believe him.
Oh he said he'd be interested in "observing" me doing my thing. I thought he was being silly. I sent him a link to a free event this weekend but he never said he wanted to go but he simply asked me how I found out about it. I'm not gonna beg for his company as it's not that serious. He needs to put forth a bit of effort and creativity himself.
Oh he said he'd be interested in "observing" me doing my thing. I thought he was being silly. I sent him a link to a free event this weekend but he never said he wanted to go but he simply asked me how I found out about it. I'm not gonna beg for his company as it's not that serious. He needs to put forth a bit of effort and creativity himself.
Absolutely.
I can't say that I'm completely surprised that things fizzled out before they really even got started. The dating site that I used is reputed to have a lot of flakes on it so I guess he's one of them. I suspected that he's one of these guys who just wants an easy hookup with little effort and my suspicions were right it seems!
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Thank you for the thought-provoking, at times frustrating, thread topic! 
You can make the plans!
Keep in mind this is only because the topic is specifically for Younger men. Old dudes can still pay.