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Thread started 07/28/15 5:40pm

Revolution

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Have u ever had to cut a friend loose?

25+ years and all we seem to do is argue lately. He loves to disagree and play the devils advocate, even calling himself the evil empire n shit. He can be brilliant however. I'm just tired of his asshole ways. Still havent decided what im going to do.

Has this happened to u? Did u come out better or worse?
Thanks for the laughs, arguments and overall enjoyment for the last umpteen years. It's time for me to retire from Prince.org and engage in the real world...lol. Above all, I appreciated the talent Prince. You were one of a kind.
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Reply #1 posted 07/28/15 5:55pm

KingBAD

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Revolution said:

25+ years and all we seem to do is argue lately. He loves to disagree and play the devils advocate, even calling himself the evil empire n shit. He can be brilliant however. I'm just tired of his asshole ways. Still havent decided what im going to do. Has this happened to u? Did u come out better or worse?

my uncle and i are i pic of what you discribe...

we just don't speak/call each other...

i am KING BAD!!!
you are NOT...
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Reply #2 posted 07/28/15 6:00pm

Slave2daGroove

I read somewhere that you are not suppose to have friends for more then something like 6-8 years. I've got friends I've known my whole life but I talk to every few years and then I got friends that I've known a few years and I talk to at least once every few weeks.

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To answer your question, yes, I've out grown friends who didn't grow or stayed the same as I was when I was younger. I've also had friends just walk away from our friendship with no explaination. To them I say, "for all those who know the number and don't call, fuck all y'all"

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Sorry couldnt resist... :nerd:

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Reply #3 posted 07/28/15 6:51pm

free2bfreeda

imo friendships have a seasons. some friendships last for up to 10yrs or more. however life changes can put some friendships on hold.

if you were and are true friends and something in life separates the bond, when the two people get back together, the friendship continues on with both people understanding that real luv is what held that bond together in the first place

(then we are SO glad to see one another again hug )

i love my friends dearly. however we all understand that when something happens in our individual lives that takes on a priorty (like family issues, new mate, or even professional/business matters) we understand.

we are kind enough to say something like, "hey i've got some pressing issues that really need my closest attention for an extended amount of time. I need to be to myself to work things out."

we understand.

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as far as cutting a friend a loose on a permanent basis. nod yup, i've had to do that. it hurt a bit, but the decision to cut them a loose was more healthy for me. i'm not one to cling to a friendship if it becomes continually negative or stagnate.

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Reply #4 posted 07/28/15 8:46pm

luv4u

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Yes. Cut a friend off forever. It feels great! biggrin

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Reply #5 posted 07/29/15 12:47am

MoBettaBliss

Revolution said:

even calling himself the evil empire n shit.


I'd be happy to let that one go
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Reply #6 posted 07/29/15 4:44am

missfee

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I've actually done it a few times. Don't regret it either and my life has been lovely without them. Good riddens.

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I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince.
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Reply #7 posted 07/29/15 6:18am

kitbradley

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In order to save yourself, sometimes it is best to burn bridges. And I mean burn those suckers down so they can never be crossed again. You will know in your heart when it's time to let go of someone. I think most of us have had to let a friend go. It may hurt in the beginning but you will get over it. Some friends are meant to be in your life for a season, some forever. For those only meant for a season, they were put in your life to give you something you needed. Once they have served that purpose, it's time for them to move on. That's life.

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Reply #8 posted 07/29/15 7:42am

XxAxX

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yes, i have had to cut a friend loose. but, by the time i did so, that person was not really a 'friend.' if people betray me, i try to avoid them in future. people come and go in life....

generally, my friends and i (some go back 40 yrs!) wax and wane in each others' lives. sometimes we see each other every month, sometimes not for five months. nothing ever stays the same, people change and grow with the years.

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Reply #9 posted 07/29/15 7:50am

ScarletScandal

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25 years? Yall are family now lol
If someone is getting on your nerves like that, you love them. Can't nobody hate you or get on your nerves like family lol
I have a best friend of 30 years and we're closer than me and my blood brother.
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Reply #10 posted 07/29/15 10:19pm

Visionnaire

I never did, altho I wish I had.
There was this one time, when a buddy and I were trapped in dungeon. My wrists were slim enough that I was able to slip through the chains. My buddy wanted me to cut him loose, but how the fuck could I? I didn't have a blow torch on me! So I escaped, and left my friend there. I haven't seen or heard from him since.
So, now that I think about it, I guess I did kinda "cut him loose".

Ah well, maybe it was for the best.
Wherever he is, tho,
I wish him well.
That is,
if his captor hasn't killed him by now.

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Reply #11 posted 07/29/15 11:19pm

alphastreet

I feel I'm on the verge of getting into that situation with a long time friend, but I love her too much to let go of her though I don't like not knowing how she really feels towards me right now cause of a couple of recent situations we had though we got through them. I did things for her I don't normally do for friends and even made so many sacrifices and still do them. We took care of each other and you can even argue we were a bit co-dependent. Something upset her one day and though we're okay again, I truly feel it's not the same anymore and don't like walking on eggshells. It's like one bad thing happened and the rest doesn't matter anymore or something and it hurts. I feel I need to minimize my time with her now and go from there, cutting her off seems too painful. I do feel like she gets on my nerves but I also feel this way the way I do over family sometimes, so yeah she feels like family sometimes.

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Reply #12 posted 07/30/15 1:49am

TheBahtMaster

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Revolution said:

25+ years and all we seem to do is argue lately. He loves to disagree and play the devils advocate, even calling himself the evil empire n shit. He can be brilliant however. I'm just tired of his asshole ways. Still havent decided what im going to do.

Has this happened to u? Did u come out better or worse?


Yes when their baht was no good
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Reply #13 posted 07/30/15 2:02am

alphastreet

we're fine, I love this girl off lol

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Reply #14 posted 07/30/15 4:12am

JoeTyler

some "friendships" are meant to last for a few years, or even a few months

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Reply #15 posted 07/30/15 5:00am

psychodelicide

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Oh yes, I had to cut off someone who I thought was a "friend" for almost 23 years for talking shit about me behind my back. I even started a thread about it here on the org: http://prince.org/msg/100/410642



I don't miss her, either. If someone feels that they have the right to talk shit about me behind my back, well, I reserve the right to cut them off. Life is already short, and I don't need that bullshit in my life, plain and simple!

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RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you.
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Reply #16 posted 07/30/15 9:05am

alphastreet

I'm worried she could be talking shit about me too now, which is why I'm worried
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Reply #17 posted 07/30/15 9:47am

luvsexy4all

hell yes im the master at discouraging so they f off

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Reply #18 posted 07/30/15 5:48pm

paintedlady

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Ended a friendship of over 32 years... this past year. Don't think she understood why, I didn't bother to explain because she was never good at receiving criticism well.

I had to leave her alone, it was the best forus both. I still love her and wish her the best. Told her so in a message. You can let go of someone and still love them.

To you I say this.... do what is best for you, if you have good reason to leave someone alone, do so. Sometimes it is really for the best. smile

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Reply #19 posted 07/30/15 7:36pm

psychodelicide

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alphastreet said:

I'm worried she could be talking shit about me too now, which is why I'm worried



Have you confronted her about this? I would ask her, in a calm voice, whether or not she is saying things about you behind your back. Hopefully, your friend will be honest with you. When I asked my now ex-friend why she did what she did, she did not have an answer for me, because she knew that I was pissed. Good luck to you; I hope it works out in a positive way.

RIP, mom. I will forever miss and love you.
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Reply #20 posted 08/01/15 9:46am

alphastreet

We talked about nothing and she is okay with me. I saw her after a month. It was like nothing changed so she's fine with me. I just hope she's fine with someone else I'm close to cause I would feel worse about that if not cause of our fight.
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Reply #21 posted 08/01/15 10:05am

Hamad

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I never did explicitly cut a friend loose.

But I drifted from some, yes. Sometimes even an explanation as to why is still not good enough.

I acknowledge fully that my way is probably not the right way & can even be downright selfish, but its less dramatic smile

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Reply #22 posted 08/10/15 8:13pm

alphastreet

We're good again but she over worries and gets upset if she thinks something is wrong cause she cares. I do the same.
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Reply #23 posted 08/10/15 11:25pm

Chancellor

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I have a long-time circle-of-friends and the older or busier we get the less we hang out..Talking/texting each other is about average...I havent had a "Gayle" since high school...

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Reply #24 posted 08/10/15 11:28pm

TD3

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Chancellor said:

I have a long-time circle-of-friends and the older or busier we get the less we hang out..Talking/texting each other is about average...I havent had a "Gayle" since high school...

lol lol lol

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Reply #25 posted 08/11/15 8:46am

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My "inner circle" of friends changed dramatically after the separation/divorce. Before, I was surrounded with "parent" friends (couples that we befriended through our kids). Then when the marriage dissolved, so did the friendships.

My current circle of friends is post-separation. It's small, but I can count on my buddies to be there for me (& vice-versa).

There is ONE friend that I've had to gradually distance myself from. A former co-worker in a toxic relationship. We commisserated in our misery, but then I realized that she didn't really want to move from that state of being. I sought peace and happiness, she craved the drama.

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