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Fairy Tale love stories...impossible in today's society? I came across this story today; San Diego Couple's Final ...f MarriageJeannette and Alexander Toczko spent their lives in love. So it was only fitting that after nearly 75 years of marriage, they died within a day of each other, their final wish fulfilled. They were both born in Stamford, Connecticut, in 1919, the children of Polish immigrants, both coming from large families. The couple began dating when they were 8 years old, according to their children Richard and Aimee.
*** Alexander went first, on June 17, with his wife by his side. "And he died in her arms, which is exactly what he wanted. I went in there and told my mother he was gone; she hugged him and she said, 'See, this is what you wanted. You died in my arms and I love you. I love you, wait for me, I'll be there soon,'" Toczko-Cushman said. Jeannette died a day later. The couple was buried Monday, with relatives holding a funeral mass and joint 75th anniversary ceremony.
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Honestly, I think one never knows what went on between them in that time. Sometimes I wonder if people of that era expected they should tolerate or overlook things in their partner that few would overlook today. They weren't that in love all the time and they went through many phases that just ended up with acceptance, reliance and comfort. Then there's the concept I've heard from a lot of older women about maintaining their "mystery", their husbands only know certain things about them. | |
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Of course not. The most important thing in any relationship is communication. You can bet they had great communication. | |
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I have seen many of these stories on the net where spouses die shortly after the other spouse. Broken heart maybe or just wanting to be with them. Ohh purple joy oh purple bliss oh purple rapture! REAL MUSIC by REAL MUSICIANS - Prince "I kind of wish there was a reason for Prince to make the site crash more" ~~ Ben |
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RodeoSchro said: Of course not. The most important thing in any relationship is communication. You can bet they had great communication. From your past posts, it seems you might have this kind of love story too! So I think it's still possible. | |
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I think this is cuter than cute I'd like to think it's still possible. Don't forget that some cultures still arrange marriages, right or wrong. A coworker whose been married more than 30 years told me once that there was a time when he and his wife went through a stage when they both praaaayed the other would die in their sleep, LOL, but they worked through it. You never know. | |
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It's like this for my grandparents who are 85 and 89 and have been married for 68 years. They still argue like nobody's business but at the end of the day still support each other. It's amazing to witness. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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That's the way it used to be back in the day. Couples didn't use divorce like an easy "get out of jail free" card. They made sacrifices to keep the marriage together, and often put their spouse's needs before their own. Today's society is very different, very self centered. "Never let nasty stalkers disrespect you. They start shit, you finish it. Go down to their level, that's the only way they'll understand. You have to handle things yourself." | |
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I think in today's society it's nearly impossible. We live in a microwave society: quickie marriages, quickie divorces. We want instant gratification. We put ourselves first and our own happiness first. If we're unhappy, we blame someone else. We've lost the art of communication. It's all textese and sound bites. We multi-task, rather than focusing on any one thing for more than a few moments, even when we are in the same room with someone else. The older generation grew up in a time when they were focused on family, supporting that family, and weathering the storm together. Today, people always think that when the going gets tough, they don't need to weather it out together and this is evident to them they didn't belong together to begin with. We're always thinking the grass is greener on the other side, and it's okay to jump the fence instead of watering the lawn on our side. Marriage is no longer held sacred the way it was in the '50s and prior. Social media, instant news, chat programs, etc., have not helped us to learn how to be together, it's taught how to not be together. IMHO. | |
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Thought the picture of their last time together in bed was in poor taste. But their story was nice, the bond that grew between them. It still happens I think even though divorce rates are high not everyone gets divorced and even those that do there are still those that find their soulmate the next go-around. I see a lot of very committed people just not as many as I would like there to be. | |
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Most couples didn't divorce "back in the day" because of the lack of opportunity for women so that they could make it on their own. Typically it was the woman who put everyone's needs before her own and that's just what marriage was. Did that make it a happy, successful marriage? No way, not for many women. And of course, many marriages were miserable for men too. Not putting up with infidelity, abuse and incompatibility is hardly self centered. | |
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