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Question for the Men in the room.... If you don't pursue a woman especially when it appears that there could be some attraction in the air, does that mean you don't know how to approach her or is it the case of "you just aren't that into her"? [Edited 5/21/15 10:28am] I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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I'd like to know about this too | |
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For a shy guy it could be either/or. By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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There are several reasons why and the answer is all over the map. Most guys don't have enough game 2 court a woman. FOOLS multiply when WISE Men & Women are silent. | |
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If you've been flirting with a bloke & he ignores your efforts then he's not into you.. I would think it unlikely he doesn't understand your intentions. | |
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I also think there are several possible reasons a guy might not hit on a woman... * He's shy or has no game (and knows it) * He's neither shy nor disinterested -- and possibly does have game -- but he believes his advances might be unwanted or inappropriate under the circumstances, and is just trying to be tactful by not bugging the woman. In this situation, again, the guy must have a crystal clear notion that his advances are welcome [Edited 5/21/15 20:29pm] Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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at this point, I don't truly care anymore I admit that nowadays I'm too damn lazy/jaded to even make eye contact with a woman sex? been there, done that...; love-settling down? perhaps, but not right now (not even 30) sorry if my asnwer was kind of pointless-not juicy to the OP edit well, now that I think about it, perhaps that's my answer: the "intense sex drive-high levels of testosterone" of the 15-25 yo era is not meant to last forever
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That.........or he could simply be flirting......or has a girlfriend. FOOLS multiply when WISE Men & Women are silent. | |
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Ace said:
Well I haven't been crushing on anyone lately, the last guy I had a crush on was probably a few months ago but we work together so I know what the deal is in that. I don't prefer to date co-workers at all to avoid messy situations. I just came across this topic on another website I visit frequently and it got me to thinking about this topic so I decided to post it here and get some feedback. My friends frequently tell me that when men are interested in me that I miss the signals and probably come off as not interested. Sorry but I guess I'm just more of a straight forward type person, I'd rather have a man just come out and say can I have your number or do you want to go out for coffee or drinks or whatever rather than to tell corny jokes or drop hints that "maybe" he's interested in me. I hate playing the round-about games of "if he's showing this much attention why doesn't he just say lets go out rather than doing all these foolish antics instead"? If I'm feeling him and he's feeling me but it seems he's avoiding asking me out then I just cut my losses and move on. And by me thinking this way, perhaps I come off as standoffish, I don't know. Now that I'm in my early 30's, I just feel that I'm too old to be playing the guessing game. Interesting that you say that you don't advise anyone to pursue romantic relationships. Could you explain more about this? [Edited 5/22/15 5:41am] I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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In my case missfee, If I'm interested I make the first move, if I'm not I won't. She'll be friend zoned
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Dude call already be married or have a girlfriend. I had this at works party a little while back, nice woman was being very polite and flirty but when I didn't respond she huffed off and whinged to her friend that I wasn't responding. She felt a bit silly when my friend told her I was married. www.filmsfilmsfilms.co.uk - The internet's best movie site! | |
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I tend to think I am not fitting in anybody's standart. I found my balance and appreciate being single since I really found myself, and my inner light
So for a long time I've been doing enough with short relationships and now I completely stopped all of this.
If a man is somehow into me, he will have to show it more than by giving me some hints. | |
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I prefer to be persued, but realize I ain't no huge catch. So I will, and do make first contact, but it is usually after some reluctance or at least a pause to allow a persuit. Having some insight though...I would say most(not all....at all) reluctance is out of a lack of interest. Several issuses will be huge red flags despite some interest so she will be put on back burner until options get sparse. Some guys, like me, are just very shy, so if u dig a dude, go ahead and but your best titty out there and see what happens. But I know...that fear of rejection is a motherfucker. | |
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missfee said: Ace said:
Well I haven't been crushing on anyone lately, the last guy I had a crush on was probably a few months ago but we work together so I know what the deal is in that. I don't prefer to date co-workers at all to avoid messy situations. I just came across this topic on another website I visit frequently and it got me to thinking about this topic so I decided to post it here and get some feedback. My friends frequently tell me that when men are interested in me that I miss the signals and probably come off as not interested. Sorry but I guess I'm just more of a straight forward type person, I'd rather have a man just come out and say can I have your number or do you want to go out for coffee or drinks or whatever rather than to tell corny jokes or drop hints that "maybe" he's interested in me. I hate playing the round-about games of "if he's showing this much attention why doesn't he just say lets go out rather than doing all these foolish antics instead"? If I'm feeling him and he's feeling me but it seems he's avoiding asking me out then I just cut my losses and move on. And by me thinking this way, perhaps I come off as standoffish, I don't know. Now that I'm in my early 30's, I just feel that I'm too old to be playing the guessing game. Interesting that you say that you don't advise anyone to pursue romantic relationships. Could you explain more about this? [Edited 5/22/15 5:41am] Haha...I guess I'm a fan of the foolish antic. I play and flirt around a lot without making obvious moves. But in a simpleton fashion...if a woman does the same i get frustrated and say to myself 'just say what the fuck u want bitch,'..lol. I'm so hypocritical. [Edited 5/25/15 5:56am] | |
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lol. At least you recognize it... | |
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I was a bashful and bespectacled adolescent, yet girls used to approach me first because they found me handsome. By then, I understood it was best that I did the pursuing. And I loved the thrill of the chase!
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excited said: If you've been flirting with a bloke & he ignores your efforts then he's not into you.. I would think it unlikely he doesn't understand your intentions. From what guys are saying all the time all they are thinking when a woman is talking is "is she flirting with me?" And most of they time think she is, even when she's not at all I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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It could be that he's into you but it just isn't the right time in his life for a relationship. If a man is considered guilty
For what goes on in his mind Then give me the electric chair For all my future crimes" | |
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Ok. Let's focus. Should the other concerned wait until Mr. / Mrs is ready for him or her ?
Sometimes when you really want or love someone it's not later or sooner, cuz the other one is in the situation where he can't fit to anybody else.
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I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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Makes sense to me! I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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I have to read the question slower. I thought you were asking about men's bathrooms | |
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